My best friend in the whole world is having some problems? Her parents split up years ago and they both live in separate houses, her mother lives by herself but her father has been living with a woman for over 5 or 6 years, and this woman has 3 sons and the youngest one(14) is the same age as my best friend. And they all live together and the youngest boy forced himself on my friend, and he put his fingers up her ***** and he has done it multiple times. But she has not told anyone but me and she says she is never going to tell her parents, especially her father, god only knows what he would do to him. She said it would mess up her whole fathers life and he would probably leave the woman he has been with, and her mother would lose her mind if she knew such a thing. I hate her parents because they are mean to me. I promised my friend I would never tell but I don't know what is the right thing to do. What if this kid tries to do more things with her??? What should I do???????
2007-06-18 19:15:51 · 13 answers · asked by Nicole M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She needs to tell her Mom or her Dad.Just keep trying to convince her that she needs to tell. This is probably going to turn into rape later on Good luck and God bless!!
2007-06-18 19:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by BERT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is an extremely hard thing to do but she REALLY needs to tell someone such as a counselor, teacher, priest or maybe even your Mom or Dad.
This little boy could do worse to her or someone else. He may have a problem that could possibly get worse with age such as rape or worse and he may need professional help. She should not have to carry this burden around all alone.
Of course she doesn't want to disrupt her parents lives. That's normal, but what about her life. It matters too and this kind of thing can scar her a whole lot farther and deeper in life than she can possibly know.
I'm not a psychiatrist or anything but I do know about this from personal experience. She has her whole life ahead of her and as a parent myself and loving my child as much as I do, I would DEFINITELY want to know.
Maybe you could to talk to your Mom or Dad and see if they can help. Sometimes it's easier when other grown-ups get involved. Maybe she'll feel a little more protected.
Bottom line, in my opinion, one of you should tell someone so this stops before it gets worse.
I hope this helps you.
2007-06-18 20:03:17 · answer #2 · answered by Dalette 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Heart you need to get her help. She may have told you not to tell but she told you because you are her friend and the only person she feels like she can turn too. She really needs your help right now. This situation will only get worse and the ideas she has about her dad's life being ruined and her mom loosing it were probably put there by the boy assaulting her. No girl should ever live that way. What happens when he rapes her and she gets pregnant? Trust me he will. Boys who assault girls repeat their crimes and their crimes get worse the longer it goes on. Not only dose your friend need help but so dose the boy who is doing this. Be strong for her and start by talking to an adult you trust so they can help you help her. I also included some hotline info that might help you both.
2007-06-18 19:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by lovesty 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, as hard as it is, being a friend means loosing that friends' confidence. Personally, I'd tell someone. Maybe not her parents to start out with but another adult you both trust. She needs help. Your friend's well being is more important than her father's relationship or anything else in this scenario. If you can't convince her to ask for help, then you ask for her.
2007-06-19 02:26:42 · answer #4 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can confront her brother. You can keep telling her you are here for her and what hes doing isnt right and her dad would want his baby girl safe not hurting or sacrificing and being humilated for his girlfriend. You can call CPS and they wont reveal your name but theyll investigate but remember you can do all those things but she has to speak against him. Leave an anonymous letter to one of her parents in their mailbox and say their daughter is having internal conflict and struggle in telling them and she has fears etc tell them to approach with care. Young lady this is a very ugly situation but you dont need to say you hate her parents, hate is an ugly word and this isnt about you, so what there mean to you, theres a reason why im sure but most importantly its about your friend........
2007-06-18 20:42:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should immediately ask help from your parents that your friend's is being victimized. They know what to do. There are lots of organizations help children like this. It is hard to report to a police without an adult help. Tell everything to your parents what happened to your best friends. Do it immediately because your best friend is traumatized on what's happening to her. I am afraid for your best friend might happened in the future if you don't ask help from your parents. If your parents don't want to help, ask your teachers! You need an adult to help you to report to the concerned authorities. Don't wait, Do it now!
2007-06-18 19:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by eduardossabile 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you tell her she has to tell her mom or YOU will...
when divorced, there is a custody agreement, and part of that agreement is that the child is going to be safe in either home...she is NOT SAFE at her father's home...her mother can take steps through the court to protect her from the sexual assault that is happening.
Tell your friend she has a responsibility to other girls too...tell her that the kid has to be stopped before he hurts someone else...
2007-06-18 19:24:57 · answer #7 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a very tough decesion honestly if the kid trys more stuff i think the parents will eventually find out
2007-06-18 19:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by irkenelite_4389 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her father. Who do you care about? Someone needs to stick up for her and you are her best friend. She will thank you later in life. No one can protect her if nobody knows.. but you do.
2007-06-18 19:53:42 · answer #9 · answered by Irene K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone-it would be best your parents 'cause you shouldn't have to burden all this stuff to yourself. They will know what to do and if your parents don't help someone at school-a teacher, a principal, someone you would trust you. Do this soon.
2007-06-18 20:00:32 · answer #10 · answered by rosepetles123 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋