She is on a spiritual journey with a Christian college group for a couple of months and today she told me that she wanted to just find out what God has in store for her by her self. I was shocked but I let it pass because i am a strong christian also. But I love her and even though I know this question is no I should not fight for this I am looking for answers in the bible that tells me otherwise. Is God controlling her decisions or is she forcing the end of the relationship and using God as an alibi to break it off???
{Only Christians answer this please}
2007-06-18 17:54:57 · 16 answers · asked by djk2g 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I thank you all for your support and knowledge...I seriously would like to give everyone credit for bringing peace to my heart. I also realized why I put this question up in the first place. I felt alone...I do need to re analyze my relationship with Christ.I was her first boyfriend and I know that my new role is going to be supporting a friend in her spiritual growth instead of sharing in a journey i wanted to be for the two of us. Again I thank each one of you
2007-06-18 18:10:58 · update #1
This is always a tricky one since its always a question of whether a person is following the Lord in a genuine way or if they are using the Lord to make a change in their current situation.
Quite frankly all you can do right now brother is wait. If indeed it is the Lord that is leading this sister to seek Him in a deeper way then you will eventually see if she is truly seeking Him based on her fruit.
You say that you are a spiritual brother so I think it is best to seek the Lord regarding His place in your own life. Who knows what searching questions the Lord may put your way.. Like...Are you in a position to marry this sister in the Lord or are you simply boyfriend and girlfriend.. still too young to commit to a deeper courtship and marriage. Is your relationship at this point in your life a kind of competition for the Lord being the first place in your own life.
Do you spend more time with her than with the Lord... Is this relationship causing you to love and be closer to the Lord or not. Are you able to serve in your church with a pure clear conscience before the Lord.?
If she wants the time to seek the Lord then give it to her. Never let it be said that you are a stumbling block to her.
In a way you can never loose by taking a breather and getting away from things matters and persons to just seek the Lord one on one regarding your own growth and development in your Christian life.
2007-06-18 18:09:52 · answer #1 · answered by Broken Alabaster Flask 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, God does not control her decisions. She makes her own decisions. She may however, be experiences prompts from the holy spirit and will be well blessed for listening. I'm assuming since you are both Christian that you are dating with the purpose of finding that special person to spend your life with. I think that it is good for her to find God's purpose for her life and if she decides that God's purpose for her and God's purpose for you equal the same direction then the two of you have a decision to make. I think you should also take the time to examine God's purpose for you and what your intentions are for the two of you. Are they the same?
2007-06-19 01:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is not forcing her decisions, she making them herslf. She made a desicion and as a man who loves her you have nothing to do but respect that. There is nothing wrong with wanting to figure out your life. I understand where she's comming from and just support her. Fighting can be useless and make you a burden on her. She just wants to find her place in God that all. Give her love, support, and space and you will be okay.
2007-06-19 01:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by LayLay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a balance between trying to get someone back and becoming a "psychotic ex" in her eyes. Be sure to not cross the line if you really want her back.
If she's using religion as an excuse, she still wants out of the relationship.
Not knowing all the details, we can only really guess. But based on what little you have said, it sounds like she's ready to move on from this relationship. It's never an easy thing to hear. I hope things work out for you in the future.
Matt
2007-06-19 01:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by mattfromasia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would pray about it and let God lead you and her. She may really want to pursue her walk with the Lord and feels God is leading her to move on.
Remember that in the bible it says and I believe "Nothing can be taken apart that the LORD has brought together."
And isn't it better to have a girlfriend that God brought to you? So leave it alone for now and pray about it and pursue God with all of your heart and he will take care of the rest.
2007-06-19 01:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time to find out if you two were really meant for each other. Pray for her as she searches out what God has for her. Maybe it's you and she will figure that out or maybe you will find that the two of you are not meant to be and an even better option will come along for you.
2007-06-19 01:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by CaTcHmEiFuCaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the thing. She feels like she needs to step away and find what God has in store for her, and whatever that is it will be great. Do you want to be responsible for her not fulfilling her purpose?
2007-06-19 00:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It seems like God is totally working here. If you two are destined to be together He will bring you back when both you and her are ready to think about somebody other than God.
2007-06-19 00:59:04 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because we don't know the other side, I can't speculate. If she is truely meant to be with you, then she will come back. I know thats hard to let her go, but you can't control someone into loving you. Give her time and space and see what comes into her heart.
2007-06-19 01:06:41 · answer #9 · answered by Mulereiner 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes the best way to test a relationship is to give it some space.
it is better to find out now if this is the one that God has chosen for you.
things go better when you stay in his will.
2007-06-19 01:01:56 · answer #10 · answered by Hannah's Grandpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋