I'm 19 years old, and im not super hot, im good looking but i consider myself an eligible bachelor... i got money, brains and good personality... but most of the girls i date already have boyfriends, and they have sex with me, but they always go back to their boyfriends. When i call them to hangout they dont want to hangout with me... but they'll ALWAYS call me when their boyfriend is not around.
I really like these girls but they dont want to give up their boyfriends,.. why!
2007-06-18 16:49:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why would you want someone else's "sloppy seconds"?
The kind of girl you have been pursuing are cheating on their boyfriends - and will cheat on YOU if you ever end up dating one of them.
Try finding girls who are single first - then get them to either date you or sleep with you (whichever YOU think is most important).
Just consider yourself lucky that none of these jilted boyfriends have tracked you down yet ;););)
2007-06-18 17:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seems to contradict yourself. you're good looking, got money, brain, personality and an eligible bachelor but not super hot. Girls with boyfriends have sex with you and call you when their boyfriends is not around but doesn't want to you and don't hangout with you. You're optimistic and yet also pessimistic. It's like you really don't know what you want or really want. Make some drastic changes, first accept the facts, just because girls with boyfriends have sex with you doesn't mean they will leave their boyfriends for you unless you're super great in bed then all the girls might leave their boyfriends for you. Starting dating single girl, experience the sex without any string or worries attached and see the difference. It is not that girls doesn't want or like you. You're just dating and wanting the wrong girls for also the wrong reasons.
2007-06-19 00:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Because you're basically a male booty call.
They don't want to date you, because although you may be someone to call for a "good time," they can't take you seriously. First of all, they know that you're willingly "doing" someone who has a boyfriend. Although they're the ones who are technically cheating, they realize that you may cheat on them if/when you became a couple.
Sure they don't want to hang out with you- you say you have a good personality, but do you really? What qualities do you have that you consider to be likable? Flirtatious? Seductive? Good in bed? Although these may be good traits for the bedroom, most girls don't want to hang out with guys who are too flirty. You should be paying attention to them when you're out together. There's a good chance that their boyfriends have characteristics such as charm, creativity, good conversational skills, and a sense of humor. These traits make a person fun to "hang out" with.
That's why the girls sleep with you but won't leave their boyfriends.
My advice? Stay away from already committed girls, and work on maintaining a relationship with a single girl. You might like the thrill of cheating, but in the long run, the relationship run that is, you need to find someone who will be faithful to you and who you will be faithful to. Find someone who you have something in common with, someone who interests you, so when you're not in bed, you'll still want to be around each other.
2007-06-19 00:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by SWFC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, your kinda sounding like a booty call. I'm not sure why that is though. You sound doable to me....oh wait that's not what you want to hear. Maybe your just too sweet, and the girls are looking at you more as a friend with benefits. But do you really want girls that obviously cheat on their boyfriends anyway? Don't worry someone that is meant for you will come around eventually, you just got to wait for the good one is all.
2007-06-18 23:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by brooklynsss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They used you for sex pretty much. They like the attention. Go look for girls who are SINGLE. You can be sure then that they are going out with you because they like you and really want to be with you!
P.S. Tell the girls with boyfriends to stop calling you too. And use a condom because these girls sound skanky!
2007-06-18 23:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by amyaz_98 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a whiner, and girls especially with boyfriends, won't go out with whiners. Better grow some hair on ur nads and find a single girl.
2007-06-18 23:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like the classic "woman has man who will be provider but needs man with correct genetic material". They want the hook up with you but they already have the man who will support them in other ways. Like some other poster said, wear protection because it could be trouble for you if one of them gets pregnant.
2007-06-19 00:08:22 · answer #7 · answered by rb_tech 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read: men are from marts and woman are from venus..there you will find some answers...
2007-06-19 00:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by The Beast has been released 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting with a girl who doesn't have a boyfriend... duh.
2007-06-18 23:54:01 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋