Okay, so here's the situation, I've been talking to a girl thru E-mail, text, and phone for 2 years now. every time we get an opportunity to meet, something conveiniently comes up to stand in the way. I really do enjoy talking to this girl, but it's statrting to seem like I'm the only one willing to make an effort. Should I just enjoy the time I spend with her on the phone, which is great, or should I cut out now, and stop letting myself get hurt?
2007-06-18 16:44:43 · 23 answers · asked by me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if she doesn't wanna meet you then whats the point. it seems like you like her a lot. well sometimes you have to move on to better maybe even greater things. Instead of focusing on her why not talk to someone who you know in person on the phone and text messages to get to know them better. you never know what might happen. good luck and much love
2007-06-18 16:52:10 · answer #1 · answered by Kristi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if your getting hurt in the mist of it all, you should definitely get out of this "relationship" because it isn't healthy for you at all. BUT, if you can somehow hold off your feelings and still be friends, that would help too. Don't you find it kinda strange that when you two are about to meet, something comes up? This could mean a plentiful amount of things. I know that when I talk to my friends about the guys that they talk to over the net and phone, that they are suppose to be meeting, they usually never end up doing so because 1. They don't trust the guy and 2. The girl lied about something, like the way she looks. Either way, your going to choose what best helps your "emotional feelings", which will hopefully be good for you in the long run. Good luck!
2007-06-18 23:53:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have to admit that it does make you wonder why something always seems to come up when there is an opportunity to meet. 2yrs is a lot of wasted time avoiding an opportunity... I would ask her what the real problem is concerning the two of you meeting. It sounds kind of strange and at this point... you really need to decide if you want to continue to allow excuses or let it go. Sounds like games to me... but that is just my personal opinion. Good Luck!
2007-06-18 23:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by Candy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can take it one of three ways:
A) Tell her how you feel, and give her an ultimatum to finally meet- no excuses; or to go your separate ways...
B) Tell yourself that she must not be taking this seriously, and take her phone calls with a grain of salt
C) Since you're already hurt, just don't answer her phone calls/emails for some time... and get yourself distanced from this girl to figure out what you really want, and what she really wants...
Hope this helps
2007-06-18 23:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by Susie Belle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say she's self conscious about something so she really never intends to actually meet you. It could just be a "fun" thing for her. I think you should leave her alone. If she really likes you as much as you think she does she'll make the effort. If not find someone else. Life goes on right?
2007-06-18 23:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by reeses_baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no harm in talking to her--but if she's not making an effort for you then you don't make the effort to meet her. relationships go 2 ways and when you give and receive nothing is it really worth it? Is it worth setting yourself up for a let down? In my opinion no its not. Find a girl that's more tangible.
2007-06-18 23:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by lil vamp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are getting emotional hurt from the relationship or lack there of, I think you answered your own questions. Relationships need to fill a piece in your life, whether it is leisure, mental stimulation, etc. negative emotional feelings triggers your mind that something is not quite right. Follow your gut. You will know the right answer on your own. Good luck
2007-06-18 23:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes probably scared to meet you, you know there's a lot of pervs out there that chat and stuff for a long time and just want to meet women to rape them, ask her if you could meet her in a public place tell her she can bring a friend if it would make her feel more comfortable.
2007-06-18 23:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by be3kidz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut her loose! You've been chatting her up for 2 years and she keeps backing out of meeting you face to face. Kinda tells you something don't it? Or at least it should be.
2007-06-18 23:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel, be like I really do enjoy talking with you but I don't really feel you make any effort, so therefore you cease talking and see what else walks into your life, cause I'm sure something will :]
2007-06-18 23:49:51 · answer #10 · answered by Live HAppy <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋