Ways to get over a broken heart?

Question

What are some good ways to get over a broken heart/ hurt from past relationships?

Answer 1

Realize that everything happens for a reason and the outcome is always good.

It's a battle with yourself.

You would have to be okay, somewhere in your mind. (I wouldn't say your heart simply because I do know it is hard)

You would have to know that if it was meant to be, it'd happen.

Memories are dear, and you don't want to lose them. Alas, you need to know the bounderies of keeping memories dear, and clinging to them.

Take the good from the past relationships, reflect on it.
Take the bad from the past relationships, reflect on it.

Then make the perfect relationship with your past ones as your building blocks.

-Tim

Answer 2

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Answer 4

I think time is the only thing that will sooth a broken heart. Getting over someone you loved or still love takes time. Just realize that everything happens for a reason. The person may not have been the one for you. This is just opening the door for your TRUE love to come along. Just be patient and confident in your own self-worth that you will be alright. Also remember when you get into another relationship that not everyone is the same. Dont punish your next partner for what your past holds. Dont give your ex that much control over your life.

Answer 5

I'm sure anything I could say has already been said.But as with any wound it takes time to heal.Being able to trust someone again can take a lot of courage and most simply cannot do it too soon after a break-up.My advice is to put it out of your head,I know that's sooner said than done,but keep yourself busy,go see friends,take up a new hobby,focus on a project you can really apply yourself to and vent negative feelings.
Losing someone is never easy,but if it wasn't meant to be it's better that it ended sooner rather than later,and there will be someone else waiting just down the road for you to meet.
They say that pain can make the body stronger,and it's true a person adjusts accordingly.To know your limits and gain control of your feelings during an emotional pain is a difficult and character building test,and it makes you wiser in later relationships.
The first stage to healing is accepting,you have to examine and accept the reasons for the failed relationship and why it wasn't going to work.Once you've done that it's best not to dwell on the memories,forget it all and try to move on.

Answer 6

Oh boy...know all to well about the ol' broken hearted blues. This is never an easy one to overcome, so prepare yourself for the power struggle. And put your guard up because you don't want to be vulnerable when your alter-ego wages war with you. THIS ESPECIALLY MEANS YOU LADIES! And what ever you do, don't wallow in your pity too much. Depression if clutched on to long enough can develop into a very harmful rut making extremely difficult to escape your self-made abys. So, stay from the couch where the Bon-Bons and soap operas fuel the sorrow. As a guy, I can tell you that us men combat the syndrom alot faster and ignore the wound. But again, everyone is different as I can tell you first hand that I have let the depression fester too long a few times in my life where I can recall drinking myself into oblivian not careing about the tear soaked satin shirt, stained by the oily fluids pouring out of my eyes as I sat in a little ball in my apartment kitchen while Pink Floyd's, Dark Side of the Moon repeated itself for 2 weeks straight as background therapy music. BUT NO! We're not gonna talk about all that. Ya see Hurt one, we all get our hearts broken to varying degrees. The point is. Be strong, get it out of your system quickly, wait a few months as you'll be very busy with school, work or what ever it you do. Just be active. This will keep too occupied to have any time for depression. And after a few months, for some people even a year or two, your inner conflict should have come to some sort of resolution and calmness has return...then you should be strong enough to go out and fall in love again. And by the heart wrenching experience you're dealing with right now...use that as the template for what caused this heartbreak so you don't experience this again. Goodluck.

Answer 7

I've been through some broken hearts myself. I usually throw myself into work. It helps some until the job is done and it"s time to go home.Reading is a good source, finding a hobby you enjoy also helps. It takes Little time to mend a broken heart, it just doesn't go away overnight but once you get past that it just makes you a stronger person for when that special some one comes along. you learn from your past relationship what you did right or wrong and turn it into a better understanding for the next one good luck

Answer 8

in a way you should be glad, for your claim of a broken heart is just an emotional state of your mind, for had it been a defective heart, then we both know it`s a dangerous way of living a healthy life. So, before "the break becomes so defective", you must have something to keep yourself busy with; like answering some of the questions here at yahoo answers, or partying perhaps, and inspite of all these being busy things with, you feel hurt still,... just let it go and let it be, for most heartaches can be healed by the passing of times. Good luck, and just relax and take your time, life is wonderful-love life and it will love you back.

Answer 9

I am going to be truly honest to you, you can always get over a broken heart when you break up with someone because there is going to be somebody new, but you will always remember what happened in your past relationships it is totally up to you if you want it to affect you in the future in your up coming relationships just remember there is a reason why you broke up and there is a reason why it hurt. Take some time out for yourself before you go into another relationship because you don't want the past to ruin your future

Answer 10

As a guy, I can tell you that us men combat the syndrom alot faster and ignore the wound. But again, everyone is different as I can tell you first hand that I have let the depression fester too long a few times in my life where I can recall drinking myself into oblivian not careing about the tear soaked satin shirt, stained by the oily fluids pouring out of my eyes as I sat in a little ball in my apartment kitchen while Pink Floyd's, Dark Side of the Moon repeated itself for 2 weeks straight as background therapy music. BUT NO! We're not gonna talk about all that. Ya see Hurt one, we all get our hearts broken to varying degrees. The point is. Be strong, get it out of your system quickly, wait a few months as you'll be very busy with school, work or what ever it you do. Just be active. This will keep too occupied to have any time for depression. And after a few months, for some people even a year or two, your inner conflict should have come to some sort of resolution and calmness has return...then you should be strong enough to go out and fall in love again. And by the heart wrenching experience you're dealing with right now...use that as the template for what caused this heartbreak so you don't experience this again. Goodluck.

Answer 11

Do some things that are all about you. Get together with some friends and get your nails done. Have a girls night in or out.

Was there anything you loved to do and he hated? Now's a great time to do those things.

Time is the only way to mend a broken heart and you really can't speed the process along. Don't let negative energy get to you though. If things are weighing on your mind talk them out with friends or write them out on paper. Sometimes just getting them out of your head helps with moving on.

Don't try to get back at anyone. The negative karma is not worth the few moments of joy and it doesn't help you recover in the long run.

The most important part is to focus on you. Do things that make you feel good. Now's a great time to start a new exercise regimen or get a new haircut you've been wanting to try out. The only person you have to please is yourself.