My mom met this really nice man about 4 months ago. They are going to get married soon. I am thinking about adopting him as a dad. My bilogical father is still alive and comes in and out of the picture. I am planning on getting married next year. Would it be acceptable to have him walk me down the aisle instead of my real father?
2007-06-18 16:26:34 · 15 answers · asked by Answer Girl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm not sure about the adoption thing. That's completely up to you. As for who can walk you down the aisle, pick who you are closer to. If you don't have a relationship w/ your father, than why would you want him giving you way. Obviously, he not "giving" your away, b/c he wasn't around half the time to raise you. If your mom's boyfriend is someone you are close to and consider a father figure, go for it.
2007-06-18 16:37:11 · answer #1 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if you get along with your soon to be stepped dad then your biological father then yeah go ahead. It does nothing wrong or then again if you come to feeling to bad then just have both of them walk you down the aisle.
2007-06-18 23:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by agirlinlove 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Four months is really short. Do you think he will even be around for your wedding? You don't have to pick your biological father. Do you have a close brother or uncle to walk you down the aisle? Do you even have to pick a man to walk you. My cousin had her mother walk her down the aisle.
2007-06-18 23:47:35 · answer #3 · answered by diva_m3 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That is entirely up to you. The only thing I see any problem with is meeting someone four months ago and getting married soon. You might have no feelings for your biological father and like this other guy, but meeting four months ago and getting married soon is rushing things.
2007-06-18 23:43:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't see why not. We have some very similar situations in our family, and it has always worked out. Go with your heart. I was going to stop there, but I must add that if your real Dad is in and out, and you are really fond of this new guy, you should really honor him by letting him walk you down the aisle. It will mean a lot to him. Speaking from experience.
2007-06-18 23:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
NO! it most certainly would NOT be acceptable! Although it sounds like your real dad may not have been the ideal father, he did help bring you into this world and I'm sure he loves you very much...it would probably break his heart to learn you gave this special honor to someone else...especially someone you've only known for a few months! C'mon!
2007-06-18 23:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it would be fine. If you have found yourself looking up to this man as a father figure more so than your biological father, then he is obviously doing a better job at it than your biological father. I say go for it.
2007-06-19 02:23:51 · answer #7 · answered by Kristina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he means more to you than your bio dad, then yeah. If your real dad is in and out of the picture, then he probably doesn't care all that much and doesn't deserve to walk you down the aisle on your special day.
2007-06-18 23:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by Cam 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Is that a decision you are really prepared to make after only 4 months?
2007-06-22 22:35:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he acts more as a father than your biological father does, then yes. If your real father does not act like a true father then he should not be treated like one.
2007-06-18 23:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by thisisashleesname 1 · 4⤊ 3⤋