Adult only!!! I really need some advice!!?

Question

I had an argue with my bf today because of something he told me that always bothered me. He told me about 8 years ago (he is 30 now) that he dated a women with a kid. He thought it was funny to teach the kid to um.... masturbate. I freaked out and told him that was not normal and that it really bothered me, he said it didn't matter because it was 8 years ago. We had been arguing a lot about not being compatible. When I came home, all his stuff was gone...He told me it was because we were not compatible....
Seriously, what do you think I should do?

Answer 1

I think he's has pedophile tendencies. I think you are lucky to be rid of him. I would NEVER let him around any child. He's sick. I also think he suddenly regretted telling you that. Child molestation doesn't have the same statute of limitations. The clock doesn't even start to run on it until the child reaches 18. He could still be prosecuted (and probably should). You could also be called to testify against him.
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If this were me, I would call the police and file a report on this.

Answer 2

In my own circumstance, I am dealing with the same compatibility issues with my boyfriend. We are very different people and we have good days, but bad days are far more prevalent. We've discussed whether we should break up or stay together for months. I still have no idea what would be best for us. We love each other, but this is the first time where I may actually believe that love is NOT enough. My advice to you is this, is all the fighting worth the moments of happiness? I realize love is work, but some things do just need to click. Also, look at the signs... was he trying to separate himself from you, trying to make it easier to break things off? I'm not trying to sound pessimistic, just realistic. Whatever the outcome, I am sure things will work out and if you are not happy with him, you WILL be happy with someone else.

Answer 3

It seems like he told you something and expected you to, well, not freak out. When you reacted that way, he may have felt embarrassed or ashamed for mentioning it, since he knows that (a) what he did was wrong, or (b) you will see him differently from now on. Also, guys have the tendency to exaggerate situations. For all you know, he could have just said something to the kid about masturbating. On the other hand, he could have been sexually involved with the kid. He probably thought you guys would see eye to eye, but he flipped out when you reacted the way you did.

Try to sit him down and accept him for who he is. When you guys were happy at one point, think about it... this had already happened. You just never knew about it. If he's still the guy you wanna be with, sit him down and apologize for reacting that way. It could have been a one time mistake, or it could be more serious. That's up to you to read into. Good luck!

Answer 4

Let him go, baby. Seriously, I agree with "a z" ... he sounds like a pedophile and you should be releaved that he moved out so you don't even have to deal with that. It sounds almost like he got "caught" and he decided to not even deal with it, just leave, which is great for you!
You're right, it's not normal behavior, and you can find a great guy that doesn't teach kids to maturbate!!! Real men don't do that! Ewww!
It may hurt right now just because of the initial shock, but you'll find someone else in no time, and you'll forget all about him!
Good luck!

Answer 5

I think you should take it that it wasn't meant to be. Sounds like you really haven't been 100% satisfied w/the relationship to begin with. I think you've been spared further hurt in the future. Things do happen for a reason & take it as that! I'd move on & in a way be grateful you did it now rather than waste any more time on something I think you already knew wasn't meant to be. I'm sure you'll find someone who w/really make you happy in the future. Good luck & things happen for the best.

Answer 6

Masturbation is normal, an adult teaching a kid is not. 8 years ago or not, he has some issues he need to take care of. keep looking, there are more fish...

Answer 7

I think that if he left over that, it's not worth begging him to come back. I think that's what he wants.

I've never heard of anything so sick in all of my life (did he really teach a child to masturbate?)

Do you really want to look this guy in the face knowing that he did that?

Leave well enough alone, you're better off.

Answer 8

Talk to his parents and his ex g/f's.Maybe he realized what he did was wrong but too ashamed to admit it and was scared you'd turn him in. I think I'd turn him in myself. Never the less, if you aren't compatible, then do NOT repeat the mistake again. Learn whether or not your compatible with someone BEFORE you have sex and shack.You need to learn these things FIRST and THEN get married.Just think if you were pregnant right now?

Answer 9

I know it hurts, but let him go. It sounds like he doesn't value your input or viewpoint. I'm not saying that he has to agree with you, always; he just needs to respect your opinion. He may be the type that gets really angry and walks out then comes back asking for another chance. Is that the kind of life you want? Or, do you want someone who is going to really listen to you and validate that even though he doesn't agree with you or even understand your viewpoint, he still appreciates you, and what you have to say.

Answer 10

Let him go masturbate. You are better than that. Think if it were your kids or family! What a jerk! And you wonder why kids are in so much trouble now a days! Yep...looks like he will be a fine father figure.