Im caught between two beliefs?

Question

I believe it is ok to live life for your own sake and not be pressured into giving anything if you dont want to. I wish i wouldnt be pressured tolive the life of a Christian and miss out on the things that life have to offer. I dont think you HAVE to wait until marriage to have sex . Its good if you do but i dont think i ever could. My familyis religious and they are pushing me to be like them I want to go to heaven but dont want to live a boring life of a Christian. Id like to enjoy myself some what. Any young people going through the same thing?

My mom told me that its not good that i am so earthly. Unfortunately i guessmy heart is not pure because i only find joy in things that are not godly like sex (even though i've never had it), i like partying and a drinking occasionally. I dont find joy in much of anything anymore. Is something wrong with me?

Answer 1

I'm sorry the Church has failed you by not showing or challenging you enough to do the radical things Jesus calls us to do. Christianity when truly lived is a crazy adventure that takes place outside the walls of the church. It's something that will mess up your life the way you are living now, because it's a call to a lifestyle totally different from the world's way of thinking. One place I've seen this radical Christianity is at the Simple Way. It's hard to describe so check out the website (http://thesimpleway.org/) or read the book The Irresistible Revolution, but essentially it is pretty much just like the early church.

Answer 2

You seem to assume that being a Christian is boring. I go to the Assemblies Of God (AOG) and I've had more fun there than doing anything else in my life. Before I became a Christian I viewed pornography, drank to get drunk, shoplifted, did drugs (some quite heavy ones that I still to this day don't know what they contained exactly), had sex before marriage and did many more things.
I am not proud of the life I lived before I became a Christian and would gladly take it all back if I could. I've been to some HUGE concerts like 'Planetshakers' and to a smaller extent 'History Makers' and plan to go to 'Hillsong' as soon as I can manage it (all of these are in Australia).
The world wants you to believe that being a Christian is boring, perhaps you attend a Church that is too traditional for you to enjoy, but trust someone who has been through some hard roads and know that I have had more enjoyment since becoming a Christian then anything that I would have achieved by not believing. Even were I to die and to discover that God did not exist, I would still not give up the values and friends and the life I have now.

Don't go to Church because your forced, try a couple of different ones, chat to some Christians at school and see if they feel the same, don't feel pressured by this answer to stay, but I encourage you to see what God is truly about and go to Church for that.

May God bless you and guide you to the answers you seek.

Answer 3

u know many people think christian life is boring but it isn't really. actually since I have been a christian my life is more than exciting, its more fun and am full of more life, its a challenge every day, not knowing what tomorrow will face. when u become a christian ur not going to stop living, u still have a life..as far as sex before u can be strong and not do it. alot of people has waited u really shouldn't be in no hurry about it either, jumping into something like that may cause more problems than its worth..yeah my granddaughters are going through the same thing..I also speak to them as well.

Answer 4

I know how you feel. It is difficult to want two things that are, in a way, completely opposite things. It tears you in two, and you have no idea where to turn. I don't know what your solution is, but I can tell you what worked for me.

I weighed out the options. Do I want to be a righteous member of my religion, and follow all of the rules? Do I want to make it to that place we call Heaven? Of course I do. Do I want to be involved in pre-marital sex? Do I want to drink alcohol and have a 'good time'? Yes. My religion doesn't allow both. What I realized was that I didn't want to give up my life in Heaven for some earthly pleasure right now. I want to be with my family, and I am not going to let sex, alcohol, ect. get in the way.

I am not sure what your religion is, and I am NOT--IN ANY WAY-- Trying to make you choose what I chose. You must decide on your own, and you need to choose what is best for you. You cannot truely be converted and be a true member of your religion until you have decided by yourself that what you are doing is true.

I wish you the best of luck in making your decision!

Answer 5

What you may find is that the rules and regulations of Christianity and other religious and ethical systems were human creations and not things that dropped out of the sky. But they persisted because they gave stability to society. Sure, you may find life less "boring" if you let your hormones drive your behavior. You may also find yourself in lots of superficial, shallow relationships that may leave you depressed and unsatisfied. You might even find you eventually get bored with these new pleasures you are exploring and try others that are even more illicit.

I'd recommend that you be true to your conscience, and that you try to find ways of getting your sexual desires under control on your own. Then hopefully you'll be able to make choices about relationships that are not driven entirely by instinct and that may well end in regret.

There are all sorts of pressures, both from parents and from society. Don't be under the illusion that if you disregard advice from parents and church that you are "free", as though you are not giving in to other sorts of pressure and influence. Try to evaluate what both sides are saying, and try to realize that you may disregard advice from your family now that you yourself will give to your own children in the future.

Last of all, as the saying goes, "Don't let a fool kiss you, or a kiss fool you".

Answer 6

I'm a young Christian, and I know how EXTREMELY FRUSTRATING it can be to hold to your beliefs. However, I think it is completely worth it to hold to your beliefs. I stay with my Christian morals and have an awesome life, not boring in any sense. Campfire devotions on the beach, root beer keggars, church camp in Pigeon Forge, mission trips in Taiwan, and Christian rock concerts are just a few of the things I've done in the past year alone. God has an amazing life planned for you, not a boring one like you think.
And, you've heard this, there is way more to a relationship than just sex. I tried the sex thing, and it felt empty, so I turned my life around and have a meaningful relationship without sex. Trust me, it's worth it.

Answer 7

Hey, I just want to say that I was brought up in a Christian home. Where this was the same for me. Sex was very taboo. When I got be older I ended up falling away from God and the Church. I got into some things that I am not proud of and I had sex and lived with my ex for quite a while. I ended up getting pregnant with my beautiful son. While I am grateful for the blessing of my son. I wish I would have waited. Again not saying I don't want my son because I love him and I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world. The thing is it's better to wait. If you want to talk about this some more please email me.

Answer 8

There are many Christians living lives that are very exciting. Everything in life has consequences-many things in life have given the alluring desire that its great to do - partying, drinking, having sex...but all these things have consequences- and when you cross over the line- you get into trouble- sometimes very serious trouble. Asking for God's grace in everyday matters can enable you to overcome the pressure of peers.

Answer 9

Hi melissa, I would like to say that this is a choice that you must make on your own, but i also wont to say to you , there is forgivness for what every you do God is a loving and forgiving God. If you feel that u need to get out and experience somethings do it and you will feel God tugging at your heart leading you back to him. Its called backsliding and you growing up in a christian home knows what that is. And know this U may give up on God but he will never give up on you. God loves you all those party buddies dont they do till the partying runs out then there gone but Gods still standing by you. think about that ok. ill pray for you and you seem like a smart girl you will evenually do the right thing. God bless

Answer 10

I once was in your boat. Now I look back in shame. I let the world make me feel as though I wanted sex but in truth I needsome thing else. I need to feel loved. I put sex in it's place and that was a big mistake. I will never know the beautiful feeling of being with the one for the first time and for all times.