I think that is just plain rude and inconsiderated. I was at his house today and on the counter was the return envelope RSVP for a wedding and reception. He says he told them, so he does not have to return it. I am ashamed and embarrased because I am not sure whether they know I am coming or not. Should I bow out and just forget the whole wedding and reception or how do I take care of this? He is my significant other and his brothers daughter is getting married. The RSVP was to be returned by June 6, and the wedding is next Saturday.
2007-06-18 15:24:13 · 7 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My name is on the invitation
2007-06-18 15:32:36 · update #1
The RSVP should have been returned, and just telling someone "we're coming" is lazy, discourteous, and rude.
There are some people in this world that will not return RSVP cards even if they are driven to the Post Office.
If you know these people call them now and explained what happened.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-06-19 00:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by Avis B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people hosting a wedding usually account for some unannounced guests to show, at least in my experience anyway.....particularly if it's family.
I know that I....and shame on me...didn't turn in my rsvp for a close friend, but like his situation, she knew I was coming. She had even told me she basically sent me the invite as a keepsake.
If it were HIS responisbility to turn it in but didn't, I don't see why "you" should feel embarrased. Hey, if anybody says anything, pass the buck and say "well, thank him...he never sent it in"....that'll teach him! LOL Bet he sends future ones back!
2007-06-18 15:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he already spoke to his niece personally then he doesn't have to send out the RSVP necessarily. If you were included on the invite or if it said "and guest" you're fine.
He should have sent it back but guys aren't always up on the latest etiquette in stationary.
2007-06-18 15:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, he was very rude. Men are such dunces. Call them and let them know that in an oversight you all neglected to return the RSVP.
2007-06-18 15:29:46 · answer #4 · answered by godiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You send the RSVP card back ASAP.
2007-06-19 06:42:36 · answer #5 · answered by whymewhynow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call his brother up and explain what happened. Tell them you wanted to make sure, and that you feel bad that he never sent it in. I'm sure they will understand - after all it is his family and it probably isn't the first time he did something like this.
2007-06-18 15:32:03 · answer #6 · answered by JM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick up the phone and call.
Whip the SO with the envelope.
People forget. That's why you should send them out ASAP.
2007-06-19 03:15:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋