okay my b/f has been getting lyk really... um.. personal, you know. like we were screwing around outside last week and i was wearing a a button down low cut shirt-and i am a 34C- then like we were wrestling and he pinned me down and and started umbuttoning my shirt, and i really didnt know what to do so i just let him so he like took my shirt-and i'd been wearing my bikini top- so he threw it then chased me around and untied the strings, i really like him and i am not prude or snobby but i really dont know how to take this, i mean i am only 14 and a half and he's 15. plz help ASAP next week were having a pool party! what if he does it again? do i give in or not-my gut tells me not to give but my heart tells me to give! what do i do?
2007-06-18 14:51:35 · 16 answers · asked by mia marie peretti 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you dont want him to do it, just tell him. Tell him not to be so "personal." If he gets mad, dump him. He was in this relationship for all the wrong reasons, if he gets all mad.If he breaks ^ wit you, then all he wanted was sex. I'm sorry for being so striaght-forward, but its true. Now if he is all like, yeah ok, and he stops, then he really likes you. Once again srry 4 b-n so harsh. Hope this helps.
2007-06-18 15:00:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your at such a hard age to counsel. You know yourself very well but there are so many physical changes happening to you right now. The fact that you're hear asking says you should not ever give in to any boy right now. You know very well that you will not be marrying this boy so don't let him make you one of his victories. His hormones are going through the roof too, and if you give him even a little he will not stop when you want him to. Be the cat in this situation, be cool, drive him crazy if you want but please no sex yet. My sister got pg when she was 15 and ended up giving up her son at birth because she could not take care of him and she wanted the baby to have a good life. Now she is 50 yo and she regrets that mistake more than anything in her life. She has never seen her son. Don't let that happen to you. Remember....Dogs(boys) drool, cats(girls) rule. good luck
2007-06-18 15:05:55 · answer #2 · answered by Terry R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls must be treated with more respect than that. That's not how you should be treated. Confront him about it. If you don't, he'll do it again, and it'll make you just as uncomfortable.
P.S. - What he did theoretically was sexual assault, which is a very serious crime. You don't necessarily have to tell him that, but please let him know that it's not by any means flattering or morally correct to do what he did. Since he's only 15, he will probably shape up. If he doesn't apologize, then lose him. You deserve better than someone who would do that to you.
2007-06-18 15:02:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont give in. if you go to the pool party, wear a top that has buttons, or clip type closure. if you dont have one of those, double knot it so the top wont come undone when you pull on it. give your heart time to mature responsibly before trusting it. your gut feeling is usually right, not always just sometimes if he persists with doing those things, find a boy who respects you .
2007-06-18 14:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by havin fun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should step back a little and follow your gut!
I know it is very exciting to have a guy seem that into you - but is he really into YOU or is he into seeing you with your shirt off so he can tell his buddies all about it?
Think about it - you want to save stuff like that for the one that you're going to spend the rest of your life with - who you WANT to share that with - not someone who you "really like".
You are worth much much more than that - please don't sell yourself short!!! Hold out for your future husband, who will love you forever and who will respect you:)
2007-06-18 15:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious to me, He knows what he wants and that's you. The question is, do you want him? Only you can answer that, no one else. If you like this Boy, Don't rush!! Let him know your into him and he'll make the next move. If you not ready yet, just tell him....Good Luck
2007-06-18 15:01:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him push you around! If you don't feel ready/comfortable with that yet just say so. If he doesn't stop then you need to dump him because he is rude and selfish but if so just tell him that you aren't quite ready for that yet. Good Luck hope i helped!!
2007-06-18 14:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does this at the pool party then you need to dump him. If he's doing ANYTHING you don't want him to do, you need to tell him you don't want him to do it and if he persists, dump him.
As for "giving in"? Only YOU can make that choice for yourself. Personally, it doesn't sound to me like he's mature enough for you. Wait a little longer until a nice, mature guy who RESPECTS you comes along.
2007-06-18 14:56:29 · answer #8 · answered by contrafilms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let a guy do that to you if you are not comfortable with it. Maybe he has just felt more comfortable with you latley but it seems to me like you aren't comfortable with him doing that to you. I am sure he won't do that in public though.....It is kind of personal. Well....Good Luck!!!!
<3 Kelsey
2007-06-18 14:57:17 · answer #9 · answered by Kelsey Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give in your only 14 and you have your whole life ahead of you. You should wait till your married.
2007-06-18 14:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by Michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋