He said he meant to do it a little because he was getting frustrated with me but he really hurt me and didn't even say sorry until I made a big deal about it. I'm curious, is this abusive behavior?
2007-06-18 14:45:23 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Grocery shopping together is a bad idea. Men & women have different shopping habits; women like to peruse whereas men are on a mission to get in, get stuff and get out in the minimum amount of time.
Hmmm..."rammed" + "a little"...maybe not abuse, it's hard to tell. You have to make the call.
But you should make him say he's sorry for hurting you.
The few times I took the kids grocery shopping we all laughed because I shopped all wrong. I told them to go get stuff and throw it in the basket to save time. They thought it was a game, which worked for me. Apparently I bought the wrong items and have been taken off of grocery duty.
I'm not completely dim.
2007-06-18 14:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by n0witrytobeamused 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, red flag! Loud horn sounding! More abuse coming, next time more and worse! Ditch him now! Having to pull an apology out of him, is worse! He couldn't even see he had done something wrong!
Get some backing from family and friends, and sit him down someplace public, and tell him this is abuse, and you are not having any part of it. Pack up his stuff if he is living with you, and take it somewhere for him to pick up, preferably his parents house, but any public place, like a storage place, would do. Pay one month on it, put it in his name if you can, otherwise, pay one month on it, and give him the key.
Do not ever be alone with him again.
Seriously, do some research on abuse. Your life may be on the line, take this seriously.
PS, do not accept an appology for what he has done. that is part and parcel of an abuser's manipulation. Oh, I'm sorry honey, I won't do it again. Next time he doesn't get his way, POW! He wants you to stay, so he can abuse you again.
2007-06-19 02:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? It does not even matter whether it was abuse or not. What matters is that he would even think to express himself in that way. There should not be a second chance for him to act like that toward you again.
Once a guy bent my hand back so far that it totally hurt. He was mad that I went to the mall without him. That was the LAST time he had an opportunity to touch me. I would not let him come see me ever again. I told him on the telephone not to ever call me or to come by my house again. If he came to see me, I would call the police. I have no idea if that nut would have ever hurt me again but I sure was not going to give him the chance to do it.
There are too many wonderful people in this world for us to fill our days with people who find it necessary to bring us down. Move on!
2007-06-18 14:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by OTOTW 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him, a boyfriend who intentionally hit you needs to get arrested you shouldn't have to make a big deal about it cause it should never happen, men have no business hurting women. This is abusive and should be taken into great consideration, people who are abusive tend to always be abusive, and it can only get worse from here.
2007-06-18 15:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! He hit you with a shopping cart, that's abusive. It's time to find a new bf honey. It's horrible that he didn't even apologize when he did it. Get out of that relationship if you care about yourself. He's not worth the time, and you deserve better.
Good luck!
2007-06-18 14:55:42 · answer #5 · answered by Hugo rocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cannot figure out what abuseive behavior is, then you probably do not need to be dateing.
yes, this speaks of some deep anger issues. if he cannot go on a simple shopping trip, or at least excuses himself from it as i do. without being a jackass. then he probally has some violent tendencies.
I cannot shop with a woman. i can't stand it. when i go shopping i know what i came for, and i know where it is. i go in i get it, and i leave. my wife will take 3 hours to get cheetoes, come out of the store with 2 baskets of junk that we do not need. and complain about her feet hurting all of the time...this drives me up a wall. i will tell her to call me when she is done, i will drive to the store, help her load the groceries, and then meet her at home and unload them. she has similar issues with me and my hobby shops.
we understand these things and take measures to avoid them.
but in any case, i would not ram her with the shopping cart.
2007-06-18 14:53:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should reoprt it to the police for his arrested cause sound alike he isnt youre mr right to stay with in a relationship and also it also a bad abuse to be in. if he keep hurting you more it better to break up with him move on and find better great new guy instead that doesnt even get so fristrated and mean and treat you alike that way. it also can be really bad abusive . plus you should told somebody about what he been doing to you . in case he do it again .
2007-06-18 14:56:11 · answer #7 · answered by statecalifornia2009 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of direction it hurts whilst somebody rams a procuring cart into your ankle. yet did they do it on objective? maximum possibly, no. whilst they are asserting they are sorry, they are extremely asserting "i'm sorry, that became an twist of fate." whilst say "that is totally nicely", we are asserting "I nicely known that is an twist of fate." back, that is an twist of fate. It hurts for like a million minute. recover from it and pass on with existence. besides, why could you prefer to reason a scene in a food market over something so little?
2016-10-17 23:29:22 · answer #8 · answered by bruinius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, DUMP him
if he was 'getting frustrated' then acting instead of speaking to you about something is inappropriate.
once you have seen that this is his model of behaviour, you can expect that he will do it again.
Don't try to argue you case with him, he needs to seek help, from a counsellor or priest.
In fact the most appropriate thing that he should do, if he is so-called frustrated, is to bite his tongue, and say nothing and hope that his frustration will be tolerable by him, with out his ever having to mention to you anything that is suggestive of your changing your behaviour.
likewise ... that is why you ought to dump him; without explanation and without censure.
Cheers.
from
Dan.
2007-06-18 15:08:54 · answer #9 · answered by D a n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be but then it may not be. Sometimes people make mountains out of molehills!
What I mean to say is he said he was frustrated? He wanted to make your hurt because he was hurting. :( Have you talked to him about why and sorted that issue out? When you have an appology should follow.
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2007-06-18 15:06:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋