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Question

So theres this guy in church i like.
usually we just say hi. Whenever i arrive to church hell look at me surprised and quickly look away.so i touched him in the shoulder and said hi.he says "Hi! how ur doin?" and leaves quickly,not getting me the chance to say how hes doing.but the real thing is, we havent had a conversation in person,cuz we are getting to know each other more. He talks alot more to me online then in person? why is that?
so i wrote to hi, saying how he was and told him what his hobbies where. and he responded so much like this
"yeah...lots of stuff i like to do....MUSICMUSICMUSIC....anything and everything about i cant help but love...surfing, skateboarding, soccer...pretty much any sport...writing, READING!!!!...finding new and crazy stuff to do that no one does...it gets a bit crazy sometimes...but yeah i would LOVE a drawing...i love art too though i cant draw very well, im pretty good at that "abstract" type stuff...i dunno..but yeah...you comin this friday!?!"

HE is NOT a priest his in youth group in church. (19)

im wanting to know

THE QUESTION IS:
why does he talk to me more online than in person?

Answer 1

He is a shy person that is easy for him to open up to someone in letters but hard to talk to someone in person. I recognize him in myself many moons ago. I don't have an answer for the solution. Maybe in one of the e-mails you could ask him if he would like to get together to talk or if he would feel comfortable doing that. Tell him if he would feel uncomfortable doing that you could meet with your computers and send e-mails back and forth.

There are still times when I have something important to say, I have to write it out and give it to the person because I can't stand up for myself. This goes back to the way he was raised and although I am not a betting person, I would bet one this one.
Since men are different than women at expressing what they have to say, kinda work it into the conversation about someone telling you about them not being able to talk to people very well in person and that they were able to write things in letters. Make him think it is his idea. That is the only thing I can think of that would be his problem. If he opens up to you in e-mails, what else could it be?

Answer 2

I have absolutely no idea what your question is. I am assuming it is "why does he talk to me more online than he does in person"?

If this is correct, the reason is because he is shy. He probably doesn't know how to conduct himself in the real world because he doesn't have the safety of distance and anonymity. This is one BIG problem the internet has created. My advice is that you confront him on talking in person but if he just can't do it, he might be too shy for you. Make him feel comfortable, tell him not to run away. Be aggressive with him. But if he doesn't respond, find someone else.

Answer 3

So your wondering what to do and why he talks to you more on line? Okay, well first things first. You should try more and more to talk to him and most importantly, be yourself! When you become close friends, invite him over or something. Then you'll see at some point if he likes you or not. But don't be too confident that he likes you! He may be a bit shy and may find it more comfortable to talk to you online so don't think that he doesn't like you just by that. Again, try to find times when he could talk to you and as soon as he gets to know you better he might feel comfortable to talk to you in person. Good luck!

Answer 4

hah, from my point of view... sounds like he likes you and may have a crush on you too, but is nervous to talk to you in person

when i was younger (and i'm 19 now... when i say younger, i mean around 12 or 13) i used to be timid around girls i thought were cute and had a little crush on, but when they started talking to me online, i would chat the daylights out

my advice there would be just to play it slow and keep talkin online... also keep talkin to him in church and try and get him to open up a little bit

HOWEVER, i'd say there's a possibility, although slim, that he may simply just be busy in church and not have any time to talk. In that case, he may just think you're being friendly online and may talk to you for that reason. Don't rush anything... rushing things are bad even if he does have a crush on you. You could scare him away.


no offense guys and gals, but i think it's pretty clear what she's asking, lol

Answer 5

He probably likes you so much that it makes him nervous. Why don't you ask him out on a date but don't let him decide right away. Give him a couple of days to think about it so that he could relax a little and be compose enough to give you an answer. Some nerdy guys are like that. If he says no forget about him. There's no hope.

Answer 6

Hey I go to a Catholic, Private Highschool. It's basically like any other school (although I wouldn't really have anything to compare it to) except we do religion as a subject and pray in the morning. It's not really holy moly like u might think with nuns walking around n sht. I like it, been to the same school for like 12 years so yeah. It;s pretty much like other highschools. I wouledn't worry about it. Hope i helped. =)

Answer 7

It sounds like things are cookin'. If it's not appropriate to sit together, or doesn't feel right yet, ask him to meet you outside when service finishes. Think about the music you like, and some experiences or observations you have had regarding those things he's into. That'll give you ideas about what to say to keep a conversation alive.
Nice.

Answer 8

Ok, this is probably the truest answer ever. Guys will sometimes talk more on the internet, becuase, if they say sumthin unexpested, that maybe you didnt give the right reaction to, then he can say that is was his friend. He can say, his friend got on while he went to the restroom and was talkin and that it wasnt him. Or because, if things start going wrong, then he can just sign off. Trust me.

Answer 9

I think he likes u but is really shy. It's a lot easier 2 talk to someone through email than face 2 face especially when your shy. Don't rush anything because u might scare him off so DONT grab him and kiss him!!
GOOD LUCK

Answer 10

Tell him you want to see how much of a fun person he is, then tell him you are giving him the opportunity to come hang with you friday afternoon or saturday afternoon. He will agree 100% guaranteed. Trust me gurl!