Im 22 and i dont have my father in my life. He hasen't really been there for me throughout my life. I have anger towards him. I want to call him everything i think he is. He has two grandchildren that he doesn't even aknowledge. He has my phone number and my address. He just doesn't care. How do i zap him out of my head? How do i not care when it hurts?
2007-06-18 14:31:09 · 9 answers · asked by free2nvme18 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I've made it clear to him that i don't want anything from him but a phone call. He won't even do that. Is it to much to ask for one simple phone call to see if im ok.
2007-06-18 14:48:28 · update #1
best way to not think of him, is to put him in the list of negative people that you don't care to deal with. Its terrible but the best way to snap out of yourself is to keep yourself in the positive as much as you can no matter what. You have kids now and I am pretty sure that you want them to be positve people too. Keep your head up and love yourself, since no one is going love you the way you, love yourself. Stay focus and positve for you and the family.
2007-06-18 14:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is in your head and you care, you just have to accept it. Maybe he isn't any good but he is youir dad. Maybe someday he will grow up and realize what he has been missing in his life. He is your childrens grandfather. Don't take this from them. Don't force them on him but be ready if he does decide to change.Go slowly.You didn't say he had been abusive, just neglectfull.Tell your kids about their grandfather, just don't tell them all the bad stuff. A child has enough bad things to contend with already.
2007-06-18 21:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by Ava 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father left my mom when I was 2 years old. I never knew my father. I've tried to put him in my life and I did. I kept trying and trying no matter how much he pushed me away. I would be crushed when he did but I was even more happier when he reacted and spent some time with me. So I suggest to try to put him in your life, if you don't you'll get over it for a while....but not for long. You'll realize in some little moment you'll need him...and he won't be ther. He doesn't want to try...but atleast tell him YOU want him in your life. =)
2007-06-18 21:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by crazily_obsessed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a long long letter expressing all of your anger, asking all of your questions, and send it to him, with the understanding he'll never answer.
But at least it has been vented - then put him out of your mind - forget him, move on and live your life for yourself.
2007-06-18 21:36:18 · answer #4 · answered by Mike Frisbee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well baby join the club my daddy is the same way and im only 17 and m brother is 15 just ignore him or ask him why do he do this to yall what kind of father is he
2007-06-18 21:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by Brittany L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is going to hurt. your dad has problems, and not everyone is made to be a dad and yours is one of them. you need to go on with your life and live it the best way you can. many people grow up with out a dad and they get along great. its his loss, and one day he will realize that.
2007-06-18 21:40:06 · answer #6 · answered by avalon123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you only knew how much love your heavenly father Jehovah has for you if you seek him in prayer through Jesus
2007-06-18 21:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a "dad" who was so abusive, he almost killed me. He beat my mom badly too. Sometimes it's for the best that they aren't there. Live your life for yourself and those two wonderful kids you have, and forget him. Remember, it's his loss, not yours.
2007-06-18 21:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by randy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont think about it, thinking about something like this, makes your feel negative, and it gets worse and worse, just dont think, never think to much, your thinking to much!!
2007-06-18 21:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋