Guys: what turns you off? Girls: have any suggestions for not comming on too strong?

Question

Guys: what makes you not want to call that girl back? what stops you from seeing them anymore?

Girls: i like this guy. the problem is i just met him. i kinda feel like i already know him because he's known all my friends for years (almost as long as ive known them) and we are alot alike. sometimes i feel like im talking to a male version of myself. I really like him and its hard not to come on too strong because i feel so comfortable with him. any advice?

for the record... he calls me... im not having a problem with that. we txt message back and forth since we've met. that was just an example

i dont have a problem with flirting or confidence but thanks anyways. i pretty good at getting what. this one is just kind of a challenge because im normally not this comfortable. i dont like to be the one making all the moves. also he knows i like him, and he likes me.... i just want to keep it that way.

Answer 1

Girls that smoke. Girls that like to do what I call the "Joy Kill"... it's when the guy really excited about something, and the girl finds every negative thing about the subject at hand and addresses it.... it's such a "Joy Kill"

Answer 2

Good you are thinking. Guys most certainly DO NOT dig girls who sniff their behinds. Be cool, really laid back and just be a good pal for now-a good old running buddy. I'd say after a few months, maybe a couple from now, you can make your move. But by no means indicate you feel THAT strongly this soon unless he tells you HE feels that way first.

Suggestions:

Don't ALWAYS be available when he comes by or calls, Make him miss you from time to time.
Whatever you do, do not sleep with this man anytime soon, especially if you want this to be a serious,lasting relationship between you two. Good Luck sister-I feel you entirely!!!

Answer 3

Yeah, quit beating around the bush! All you girls like to drop hints and be subtle. Most guys hate that, because if they guess wrong or mistake what your intentions are they get the cold shoulder or the crazy witch with a B. So be blunt, upfront, and be prepared for getting him or losing him.

Answer 4

Girls who hate all males is the most negative thing. They want a husband and a provider, but are personally disgusted by all things male.
My suggestion is to try and connect with him on all levels, just know he finds you desirable, and turn that lust into something more permanent.

Answer 5

WELL GIRL
FIRST OF ALL DONT BE 2 STEP-UP MAKE HIM WANT YOU
BECAUES THEN GUYZ TAKE IT AS A CHALLENGE AND THE WANT YOU
DONT COME ON 2 STRONG BECAUES SOME GUYS DONT LIKE THAT

JUST STAY KOOL
AND IF ITS MEANT FOR YOU GUYS TO BE IT WILL HAPPEN

BUT TO HELP IT HAPPEN

JUST FOLLOW YOUR HEART AND TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HIM AT THE RIGHT TIME.

Answer 6

Well, coming on to strong.... would be proposing marriage to him with a pink diamond ring to him on one knee. Bad.

Aside from that, don't be a wallflower. If you are not confident, ie fear of coming on too strong, he will not be attracted to you. Its body language.

So here is where the art of flirting comes in. If you want too much too fast, it can kill the passion. If you are a guy, and want sex right now and tell the girl that, whom you like and just met, you are out of here. For a girl, to have a guy love her, same thing.

How to flirt.

You should treat him like your kid brother. Poke fun of him tease him. If he teases you back, tickle him. Some touching, but in the way you would your brother. Up the ante a little bit and tease a bit more if he is receptive. Joke, make him feel happy around you and accepted. Have inside jokes. Occasionally, unwhittingly, when eating ice cream lick it in a way that would give him a hint what amazing oral sex would be like but as soon as he starts thinking that way, you then lick your ice cream normally. He should do double takes: did I really see her play with it that way or was she normal.

As for sexual hints, men get them fast, but drop accidentally, and stop as soon as you recognize what you are doing. For example, lick lips suggestively after eating hot dog. Playing with hair, then stop and pretend it never happened. But of course, you only like him as a brother. the more he thinks of you the more he likes you. Or you could use jokes.

For example he and a friend of yours comes, look at him and say, hey sexy. And he responds, and you say, not you idiot (jokingly), "I meant Janet, look at her outfit, man she's lookn' good. Where did you get that shirt, Janet, it's so cute!" Then you can joke with your friends, I called Janet sexy and he said, "thanks," so John thinks he's bringing sexy back! Justin Timberlake! Yep, now john's name is officially Justin.

Later, he is ontime, you make another joke, Justin is justin time! Then you look at him and tell him you look amazing, "look" should be muffled and the rest clear, and you are refering to your other friend. Then say louder, :" like I said, your skirt is amazing. And no Justin, that is not called a skirt, its friggin jeans." You guys laugh. "So, you are bringing sexy back huh? Bring Ben Affleck with you next time as your buddy. Actually Leonardo Dicaprio is single, bring him next time with you, so your girlfriend can have you and I can have Leo all to myself." Assume he has a girlfriend if he is single, and act shocked if he doesn't.... flattery can get you a long way.

Oh, find out his secret talents and compliment. Compliment him on what its important to him, not what's obvious. Stroke his ego. Make him feel cherished and accepted, loved, but more like a nice brother by this hot girl. It should annoy him why doens't she want me. You shoul also spend time on looking decent, groomed, good. It pays off, and guys are super attentive, its ridiculous.

Become a close friend. 20% of guys according to one survey had a secret crush on their best friend and many more thought of sleeping with them.

Show interest and take it right back, oh no no, not in that way. You look se--nsatiion.)(freduian slip, you were about to say sexy... but oops, and you fixed it). Confuse the hell out of him.

While you are at it, flirt with several guys. Try to get their numbers, ones you'd never date. It would give you practice how to be confident, and he'd pick it up, then he'd see the other guys, and realize if he doesn't do something fast, the next guy will take you.

Answer 7

Take it slow and easy until you are sure that he feels the same way about you so that you won't end up crying or hurt.