well i date this really cool latino guy and i lik him alot and we've liked each 4 2 or 3 years. we've been goin out 4 about a week and my parents lik him but they wont leave us together alone...like we were chillin in my pool the other day(talkin) and my dad was lookin out the window the whole time! we couldnt do lik anythin. we r both not used 2 it but we try. its really hard 4 me and i no its hard 4 him 2. i lik him alot and im scared that he'll brake up w/ me cuz of this. plz help me...thnkz so much!!
xoxox,
~*samantha*~
2007-06-18 13:53:08 · 15 answers · asked by ~*samantha*~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously, since you want do things you can't in front of your parents, that your parents cannot trust you and they are doing the right thing by watching you.
2007-06-18 13:56:32 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The question really is, Are you with this guy just for fun or a life time? Take it slow and gain the trust if not then if he leaves then you have no choice after that do you. Give respect and respect will follow you. Think of the good things you two can do together because once a family starts between you two you wo'nt have time for the sittin by the pool and looking over your shoulder. I say take it one day at a time because if he loves you then he stays if not then you all that stuff about your dad will be for nothing.
2007-06-26 13:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by RB. Johnson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heavily do not blame your mothers and fathers. you're 14 years previous, you're in what, the 8th grade or something? you do not could be having intercourse top now.. and merely because of the fact your boyfriend wears condoms does not mean he cares adequate approximately you, he merely knows he won't get intercourse if he would not positioned on a condom this is the only reason!! and whether you're taking BC and he's merely too, it is easy to get pregnant. Your mothers and fathers have already misplaced have confidence for him and you because of the reality which you the two had intercourse in the back of their backs. the place the hell did you have intercourse with him? probable of their domicile? you're in easy terms a toddler, you do not understand why they are disappointed yet you will at some point once you strengthen up. supply up being infantile.
2016-10-17 23:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, he's the once who'll have to do most of the convincing. If he visits you often or go places with your family then they'll get to know him better and may trust him more. If not, you can talk all you want and they may do as you ask, but they won't feel it. So while they may leave the both of you alone in the room because you complained about it, they're still going to feel uncomfortable with it. Get him more involved with your parents so they can understand him better.
2007-06-18 14:04:30 · answer #4 · answered by Stewy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to figure out if they are watching you cuss they don't trust you or are worried about you. Maybe your parents are worried that things are going too fast or something.
Just be careful. My parents were like that and they really did mess up a relationship. I didn't date for about 2 years after that and they got worried. Things are fine now.
Maybe your dad is keeping an eye on you two cuss he doesn't trust your bf. Just try talking to your parents and ask if it's about you or your bf. Find out what's bothering them and try to fix it. Go to a friend's house, and show your friends mom what a great couple you two are, and tell her to tell your parents how lovely you two look. Then they'll have nothing to worry about.
But KEEP IN MIND, they worry cuss you are their daughter and they love you!
2007-06-26 11:13:55 · answer #5 · answered by ydLonghorn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them watch. If nothing is going to happen and it shouldn't because it is really early in your relationship then what do you care. If he leaves you because your dad watches you guys sitting by the pool well then he is not worth your time. My gf's father hates me, ok actually hate is a nice way of putting it he likes me less than someone he hates, and she still dates me. If you really need time alone with him go somewhere with him that your parents aren't.
2007-06-18 14:07:17 · answer #6 · answered by not_moes_cousin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to earn trust. If the boyfriend thing is new - then it's a change for you dad too. Remember, you dad was a boy once too - he wants to keep his daughter from harms way. Earn the trust and you will probably see a big difference.
2007-06-26 13:57:21 · answer #7 · answered by baseball mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Dad just needs to see that he is trustworthy, this takes time. Parents job is to watch out for you and checking on you by looking through the window is just part of your Dad's job. Isn't it better that he cares about you than if you had a Dad who didn't care who you were with or what you were doing?
Talk to you Dad, let him know that you really like this guy but his constant watching is making you nervous. That you have no problem with your Dad checking on you, but watching the whole time is kind of creepy and makes you feel that he doesn't trust you. Tell your Dad he raised you right, he did a good job and gave you values. Tell him your not going to do anything to copromise his trust, but you need a little space and need him to trust you. Hopefully that will help. Let them know you've liked this guy for several years it's not like you just met. You were friends first.
Did you introduce your parents to him formally? Perhaps if you got him together with your parents and they got to know him better they could relax a little more.
Our oldest is dating a girl who he went through the interview witht he Dad and a big dinner thing. He was nervous about the whole thing and he did it because he REALLY likes the girl. There is nothing wrong with a parent who cares. Our son is willing to deal with parents who care, because he cares about the girl. And he found it wasn't as bad as he thought it would be. He actually likes the Father now and the Dad has offered him some advice for football, etc.
A guy who really cares about you will not break up with you because of parents.
My husbands Mother was overly aggressive about protecting her baby, it drove me crazy! It made our relationship diffcult at first, after awhile I came to realize she just cared about him even though at first I took it that she just didn't care for me, later I learned she acted that way with all the girls he dated and it wasn't personal. Now we are good friends.
It will all work out okay if he really cares, show you are trustworthy and overtime they will loosten up the reigns.
2007-06-18 14:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Samantha: It usual on parents to care about daughters. You tell your boyfriend and understand that. When you do not want to be seen by him go somewhere else in a non obvious manner.
2007-06-26 13:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by Jesús Ernesto Miguel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sam give your parents time to adjust. They are probably not used to seeing their baby girl interacting with boys...and beside at your age you need to worry less about doing things your parents would not approve of and worry more about geting to know one another. Take your time darling and make that boyfriend wait as well. Daddy will lighten up when he starts to feel more comfortable.
2007-06-26 03:23:29 · answer #10 · answered by Funeeegurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋