Ive had so many bad relationships where the guys were idiots, i figured that in the relationship im in now im scared that something will go wrong like im jinxed.
2007-06-18 13:45:30 · 18 answers · asked by ifyouonlyknew 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well that will certainly set the pace won't it?
Everyone plays a role in a bad relationship...examine what yours was and do not repeat it.
I am not saying that bad things that happen are your fault, it's just that it is easy to fall into a rut and believe you can't do better. Bin there dun that.
2007-06-18 13:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, sounds like you aren't even able to enjoy the relationship as your sure disaster is around the corner. The truth is you just don't know, but with that attitude you could end up doing something to send the relationship in the wrong direction just because your sure it's going to end in disaster thereby you end up fufillinng your own idea that the relationship is jynxed.
The point is relax, just see where the relationship goes, enjoy the time with the person. Don't be so worried about the future you forget to enjoy today. No one knows what the future holds, people change as a part of life. You can't spend your life trying to prevent disaster or you may end up bringing about just what you are worried about.
Enjoy the relationship and spending time with this person, you never know it just may work out. But relationships that fail all teach us things that help prepare us for the next relationship and are part of life. Don't dwell on the negative.
2007-06-18 13:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to stay positive and expect the unexpected. To get something you've never had, you have to do something you've never done. So let your guard down and go with the flow. If its meant to be, then it will be. I've also had my fair share of bad relationships but I made sure to learn something from each one of them. I analyzed my contribution to the failed relationship and corrected my flaws. Now I view every bad relationship as a stepping stone towards something much greater. If we could predict the outcome of relationships then we would all be happy. But since we can't, we just have to allow time to tell. I think we all get an inkling or a whisper when we know a relationship will fail so always follow your intuition. Never date someone you wouldn't consider marrying and once you realize he's all wrong....just move on.
2007-06-18 14:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.Understood 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First and foremost you have to leave your past in your past. It will make you bitter if you don't and it wil l ruin any current or future relationship you've had. Learn from your mistakes and use them as lessons for your current relationship. Don't rush, get to know the person before making any commitment. so you won't ever be dissapointed. Don't be scared. Life is about taking risks, the fact that you are trying a new relationship is a step already. Just be patient.
Good luck
2007-06-18 13:50:08 · answer #4 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Every chance is different and every person is different. Ever hear the saying "love like you've never been hurt before"? Give every relationship your all and you'll have more success. You'll get hurt sometimes, but that's a SOMETIMES. If you hold back, you will stay "cool" to each other and you'll keep walls up around you, and you'll get hurt and see it doesn't work EVERY TIME. The only way to make SURE you fail at something is to not even try.
2007-06-18 13:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by rlfesty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't. Don't be pesimistic and just wait for the relationship to turn sour. Make it a great one, just beucase you've had many bad relationships in the past doesnt mean that they will all be bad. You've got to learn from the bad ones to be the greatest girlfriend in the relationship. Don't worry about it turning out to be horrible and just make it the best you can. Don't worry it will all go well. Worrying makes everything worse.
2007-06-18 13:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by Princess Stephie is here to help 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You never know. That leap of faith is what makes relationships scary and exciting.
Hopefully you learned from your past and have made a better choice, investing your time and energy into someone more trustworthy and worthwhile.
Rather than let your bad past sour your future, think of it as a quality lesson. It made you stronger.
Keep faith in your boyfriend until he gives you reason otherwise -- or you will unintentionally drive him away.
Be confident you have chosen a good one!
2007-06-18 13:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by kate 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about it when the right guy comes everything will end up ok and if u worry to much u can cause the relationship to fail
2007-06-18 13:51:30 · answer #8 · answered by Smoking Bear 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, I know I'm not a guy but I'm gonna answer anyways. It really depends on the type of guy. But yeah a lot of guys like innocent girls, and some like dumb girls who pretend the have a brain of a 5 yr old. But most guys aren't usually attracted to the type of girl who "pretends" to be dumb and innocent for an actual relationship since I could understand that they would easily get bored with that kind of girl since she acts like she doesn't know anything. And the guys ur talking about probably only give her that kind of attention when she's around becuz they know they can easily use her and then dump her. Sooo yeah
2016-05-19 01:53:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't think of it that way or it really is going to happen. You have to be able to think positive about your relationship. I know it may seem that all guys are alike in that they are all jerks but there are some decent ones out there that could actually be worth your time and hey maybe this is one of them.
2007-06-18 13:49:11 · answer #10 · answered by robot_17 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋