what should i do if my ex's best bud obsess with me?

Question

okay i am soo uncomfortable around my ex's best bud,cause after my ex and i broke up ,his best friend been coming on really bad and last week at my best friend's b-day party(he one of my best friend's cousin) he confess to me about his feeling and asked me out ! he gives me 2 week to think about it ,what should i do? what's the best way to say no,w/out hurting his feeling?

Answer 1

I think you can tell him you it is too early for you to jump into new relationship, you might consider staying away from your ex and his friends circle of friends. I mean just to get a break.

I have no idea how long was your relationship with your ex, but if I am you, I will enjoy single and just take your time. Do not worry about hurting his feelings, just explain it nicely to him you are not ready for a new relationship.

It is so wierd for him to give you 2 weeks? Start hanging out with a different people or try to see him less.


You can tell explain to him that you

Answer 2

First off why do you want to say no.Don't if it is just because he's your ex's bud but be careful on rejecting him because you could end up liking him when it is too late and he has moved on.If you don't believe me go to RadioBlog.com and listen to Avril Lavigne's Ska8er Boi.But if you really don't like him be completely honest,tell him you want to meet him in PERSON make it clear that you care about his feeling instead of doing something inpersonal like a text,email or phone call.Tell him you can't go out with him because.......[that's for you to figure out] Don't lie to try to push up his ego in the end it will come back to haunt you.But really think about the reason you are sayoing no if its because of your ex don't do it from personal experience DONT do it.A couple years down the road your ex and you will barely know each other and he could be the one so think about your motives before you make up your mind and I know its hard but down listen to your friends advice on these types of things.The people they think are right for you are not always the people that are right for you.Hope this helps:)

Answer 3

Let's forget for a second that he's your ex's best friend-----what is your feeling for him and would you have gone out with him under different circumstances? Regardless of your answer to my question,I don't think its a good idea to date this guy. Tell him you are flattered by his feelings for you and grateful to him for telling you.But tell him you would rather you both remain platonic friends.Offer, if possible, to help him get a different girlfriend.That should soften his disappointment (and possible anger)at your rejection of him.Either way,it will give you a way out of a very difficult and sticky situation.

Answer 4

i dont think you should say no you should say yes, see how it goes and then dump him but you should at least give him a chance. if you really dont want to be with him then the best way to say no is that your parents found out that you broke up wtih your ex and you hurt his feelings so you cant go out with people anymore.

Answer 5

u shud tell him face 2 face
not over ther the fone or anything
cuz then hell think ur avioding him
bcuz if u dont tell him hell never no
and hell b more hurt later
soo u shudnt keep it in say it nicly
dont be mean thatll hurt him

and

i dont think its a good idea sayin yes
bcuz if u domp him later hell have a broken heart

Answer 6

why are you scared? merely forget approximately approximately you place your huge boy boxers on and contact her or write a letter and tell her you do not prefer to come again along with her and you have not any activity and you f*cked her mom it continually works ok i'm a genius

Answer 7

just say you don't feel the same way. and for the love of god dont say you just wanna be friends. He'll see right through that

Answer 8

well if you don't like him, tell him. there's no better way to do it. especially since he's starting to annoy you already.