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I really wanted my boyfriend to be at my graduation tomorrow night. I asked him to take off months ago he took off and everything and told me he'd come. Now, all of a sudden he told me that Tuesday & Thursday nights mind you...are basketball nights with the guys and he hasn't played basketball in a long time. It turns out that between 7-9 are when basketball time is and my graduation starts at 7.

I asked him today if he was coming and he said no. To avoid arguments and such I said that's fine and invited my other guy friend. Problem being my other guy friend likes me. I kind-of have a thing for him too though very small and suttle. But he has been there for me when my boyfriend hasn't.

I haven't told my current boyfriend how hurt it makes me feel that he's not going. I don't really feel like explaining it to him because I know deep down no matter what I say it won't matter.

Now, I'm just going to ignore him for awhile is this wrong? Do you think he'll get the message I'm hurting?

2007-06-18 13:30:40 · 4 answers · asked by AskRita!? 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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What a selfish prick!

You only get to graduate ONCE - while he can play b-ball any time he wants (and he does so at least twice a WEEK)!

It's clear where his priorities are - but where are yours? I think you are letting him off faaaaaaaaaaaar too easy by just ignoring him - do you really want to waste time on a guy who only cares about himself?

Even if you told him how you feel, it wouldn't make a difference. Sure, he might say otherwise - but deep down, he isn't likely to change.

As for this other guy - don't let him try to put any moves on you. Let him be there for you as a friend - NOT to "get back" at your worthless boyfriend. I know it may be tempting to "give in" to those small feelings that you have - but you will regret it if you do something stupid.

2007-06-18 15:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0 0

OK to start don't' ignore your bf in hopes that he will magically wake up and realize your hurting. This is the one mistakes women make....don't assume that he will get anything that you aren't blunt fully telling him. He's not a mind reader and there are tons of things that he could be the reason for your current non communication.
What you need to do is tell him what he did is wrong...that although it is basketball night and he hasn't seen his friend in a while this is a very important event to you...an event can will only occur once in your life, and his basketball will be there the following day...and bring up the point that he already promised that he would attend months in advance.
I would tell you not to tell him about the other invitation because then your bf will get defencive and feel like right away you try to replace him.....tal to your bf..it helps

2007-06-18 20:38:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lana 2 · 1 0

While ignoring him might help in the short run, you should just tell him how you feel. While going to your graduation might not be super exciting, we all have to give a little. Its just a basketball game, how many times do you graduate? Sounds like the guys are more important than you.

2007-06-18 20:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by mto925 2 · 0 0

id get the message

2007-06-18 20:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

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