My Uncle told me I was hot when I was dressed up for graduation. My mom is pissed. Whats her deal?

Question

I honestly do not think there is a problem here. I am 18 and honestly cannot go anywhere without guys looking at me. I am very nice looking. I do not let it go to my head but I know that I am. My uncle, who I haven;t seen in 3 years, told me I looked hot. And not like, "Oh, you look hot dear". No, I walked out of my room to show everyone and he was like, "Oh my god, wow, You are seriously hot. I mean like on fire hot!" I asked him if he really thought so and he said if he was my age and we weren't related, I shoulkd watch out. I took it as a very flattering compliment. My mom and dad gave him a very large glare. My mom told him later she was really pissed at him. He has never flirted with me or touched me inappropriately befrore or after the compliment. He just said his peace, and myself and my guy friend agree with him. He's not a creepy uncle, just outspoken. So, what is my mom all upset about. She said it was innapropriate. I told her to knock it off. Any comments?

Answer 1

The point is he's your Uncle. He's supposed to be an adult. I realize you're 18 and technically an adult yourself, but as your Uncle he shouldn't be saying things like that. Telling you that you look really pretty is one thing, but hot is another. That's just gross because he's supposed to see you as a little kid. I'm 32 and my oldest niece is 19 and I still see her as the little baby whose diaper I changed. Yes she's beautiful but not hot. I'm sure alot of people think she's hot but I find that gross. He was out of line. It's also creepy because what if you weren't related? Would he go for it then?

Answer 2

Dear, she probably knows something that you do not about your uncle. Whether you are hot or not, that is not the kind of thing an uncle should be saying or thinking about his niece. Sit down and talk to your mom. There is justification to the way she acted. I am not a bad looking woman myself and was considered pretty hot in my teen years, but my uncles would have never made a comment like that, even if they were to think what your uncle said out loud. Your mom has a reason for her reaction, maybe she just does not want to tell you.

Answer 3

Your parents are older and know more about your uncle's past than you will ever know. There may be a reason your mom got upset. Don't be so fast to think of your mother as a crazy woman. Your parents love you more than anyone and want what's best for you. It's flattering when you get a compliment from someone, but maybe the way he said it upset your mother and that's not a bad thing. Her job as a parent is and will always be to protect you. You should be happy that someone cares enough to be offended. Not all kids had parents growing up................

Answer 4

Totally inappropriate! Way out of line! Not even cool! And, what's more, it wasn't a compliment! He lowered you from "human status" to a "piece of meat". He could have said many other things to get his point across, "You're a beautiful young lady", for an example. He is "creepy", and what he said is not being "outspoken". It's sexist to start with, and on the verge of something far worse. Is your Mom going to read this? Please let her, and listen to her. I am a no-body to you, but you need heed my advice. Please. And, listen very closely: Stay away from him. Do NOT ever get yourself in a position to be alone with him EVER!! I am not some "kid". I am 55 years old, and I hope you can guess by my screen name that I have some intelligence. If you don't know what PhD is, then ask someone. I am quite educated, and have experience with men/women who have abused children/adults. I am sorry, but you and your boyfriend are dead wrong in this case. Thank your lucky stars you have a Mom who cares and can recognize a situation such as this one.

Answer 5

Several things tell me this was probably alright, but you have to be a parent to understand your parents' point of view. I think it is partly their role to help define appropriate behavior.

But here is why I think it was innocent. He did it openly, in front of your parents. He is not generally creepy. You did not take any offense from it. He does not flirt with you outside of that comment. He probably was just generally trying to make you feel good and maybe even give your parents a sideways compliment for having raised such a beautiful daughter. I think it's the kind of thing that should just pass and not cause any lingering friction between you and your parents or your parents and your uncle. They felt the need to say something, but inside they also understand it wasn't that bad. Let it go and so will they.

Answer 6

It was his choice of words and maybe his tone of voice that is wrong.
Its okay if an uncle says "you are a beautiful niece", but saying "Oh my god you're hot!" is outta line.
Words are important, especially how we choose to use them.

Answer 7

My mom grew to become into completely the comparable for my commencement so i understand what you're dealing with. My mom forced me to placed on a pair of her tan administration precise pantyhose and she or he made me placed on intense heels too. She suggested it grew to become into an particularly specific party and that i mandatory to be dressed like a woman for impressive activities. I had no determination yet to placed on the hose and heels. Your mom will probably finally end up making you placed on them yet compromise together with her and tell her to assist you to placed on nude sheer hose or easy beige hose. which will assist you stay cooler and afterwards you may peel them off. i'm In Texas and it grew to become into super warm on grad day yet my mom suggested warmth grew to become into no longer an excuse to be dressed improperly. UGH! i've got faith for you. purely get via it as rapid as achievable and take your hose off after the ceremony. :-) with a bit of luck she'll assist you to placed on apartments fairly of heels.

Answer 8

How about you knock it off with the attitude and your "good looks" and the outside staring have gone straight to your head, alright Paris. Your uncle was out of line with his "outspokeness" and so were you with your attitude, how do you know where he was for the last three years, probably prison, for his "outspokeness" You don't know and they do. You were flirting with your uncle..and that is gross

Answer 9

Your mom is right. What your uncle said was highly inappropriate. It doesn't matter if he would ever act on it or not, but he was wrong.

Answer 10

you never know what happened a long time ago, dear.
some families never discuss certain things. and some things are never 'let go' of.

you don't know what kind of skeletons are in someone's closet.