Question for those who say homosexuality is a choice - If you were to choose to be gay, how would you do it?

Question

What I mean is: how would you make yourself attracted to the same sex?

I've heard from several people in this section that homosexuality is a choice, so I'm wondering how those people might "make that choice". What would you do? How would you get yourself to be sexually interested in men (if you're a guy) or women (if you're a gal)?

Would you practice kissing an apple and imagine it's someone of the same sex? Would you stare at "sexy" pictures of a same sex movie star? Would you ask a gay/lesbian friend to teach you to be gay or lesbian? Would you do something different? Or do you already have the potential to be attracted to members of the same sex?

And if you're thinking to yourself "I refuse to even think about it, I'd never do that!!", this question isn't for you. This is a hypothetical question for those who are capable of dealing with hypothetical questions. If you CANNOT deal with hypothetical questions, then I ask you to REFRAIN FROM RESPONDING.

Thank you.

Answer 1

I think youre misunderstanding what those people are saying. They arent saying that being sexually attracted to the same sex is a choice - they beleive that God created you as gay, but that CHOOSING TO REACT upon your sexual orientation is a choice. To have sex is a choice - both for us hetereosexuals, and homosexuals. They simply believe that homosexuals make the wrong choice when they decide to engage in sexual relations.

Some God that is - creates people and then damns them to Hell for creating them as such. Why do gays deserve a harder test than the rest of humanity? Thats the part I cant figure out...

Answer 2

Most human characteristics are formed by three forces, nature, nurture, and choice. Not always in equal measure. In the case of homosexuality the best scientific studies based on twins that were separated at birth and raised separately are inconclusive as to the roll of nature and nurture, leaving one with the impression that these are on the average about equal. This means that some homosexuals may be homosexual because of their genetics, some because of their environment (say early childhood experiences with older homosexuals) and some due to a combination of these effects. The fact that there seems to be endless debate on the "causes" of homosexuality indicates to me that this is likely to be the case as individuals join the debate on the side that matches their own perspective.

When I was a young man, I made a choice (influenced by the peer pressure of my environment) to start smoking. This was almost an irreversible choice. Quiting smoking was the most difficult thing I have ever accomplished. It would seem to the extent that choice is involved with becomming a homosexual it is an irreversible choice. Very few homosexuals are ever "cured, reformed, turned" or what ever the politically correct term is.

I am reminded of a college classmate that refused to take a drink. He had never, ever tasted an alcoholic drink. It seems that his father had been an alcoholic and my friend vowed that he would never become one. The choice to never drink certainly worked for him.

I recommend this stratagy to those who do have some choice in the mater or their sexual orientation.

Answer 3

being attracted to the same sex may or may not be a choice, but ACTING on that IS a choice. If I was sexually attracted to a chair, it doesn't mean I should have sexual relations with it. It is the lifestyle of pursuing and having sexual partners of same sex that is a choice. Do or should we have sex EVERY TIME we feel the urge or desire??? NO. If you saw someone at the store that you wanted to have sex with, should you just go ahead and do it? NO. Being gay is something God can take care of for you. Living a gay lifestyle is something God expects YOU to take care of NOT doing. I know from experience.

Answer 4

Just like everything else Homosexuality is a choice. If God wanted us to be gay why didn't he just make everyone one sex. Just men or just women and just reproduce on our own. Creating two sexs must mean something. Have you ever seen gay elephants or gay dogs or any other animal gay. Nope so we should be either. It is just a lie from the devil that so many have accepted and by accepting it they are making a choice to go to Hell for their sin.

Answer 5

I believe that there are two ways of being gay.
1: you are born with it and don't know any better and you grow up to be more attracted to the same sex.
2: If #1 is not what happens than you make the choice over an extended period of time. You don't just wake up one day and decide to be gay. You have to experiment in surtain ways before you can actually tell.
It depends on which you feel comfortable with as a sexual mate or who you know you can cherish or love.
P.S. Bisexuals are just people who don't care what sex you are they just want somebody to love them

Answer 6

God's word says it is by choice and it come by the lusting of the flesh.Man has always wanted to do anything that he was not supposed to do if it was God's law or man's law. It just seemed exciting to break the law.Then it became recognized and popular to be different and make you own choice and look at what a mess we have ( for those who can see) the rest will continue their same ways and receive the reward later when death comes for their choice

Answer 7

FANTASTIC QUESTION.

First let me say, I am a Christian Father with a gay daughter.
Did she decide one day to be attracted to other women, no, she always had the attraction. After she was old enough to make a conscience decision about wanting someone to spend the rest of her life with, she tried to like guys, but they only attracted her in a friendly/brotherly way. She realized that it was the body and sensitivity of another woman that attracted her sexually and spiritually.

Now here is where the decission part comes in:

Does she deny her own fellings, desires and fulfillment.
Does she marry a man and have his children and live a lie.
Does she stay single, hide her true feelings, dry-up and die.
Does she decide to be true to herself and live the lifestyle that feels right to her.

I'm not talking Biblically here, I'm speaking as a father that loves his daughter and wants her to be happy. She was raised in church and in a happy Christian home.

She decided to be true to herself. She is living an open Gay Lifestyle. All that means is that her partner is another woman, and that is what makes her feel complete. She still plans to have a family. She has a male buddy who has agreed to donate sperm without any legal bindings to the children. This is what makes her happy and I as her Father support her in it. I love her partner as a Daughter-In-Law. They had a ceremony and repeated the same vowles that my wife and I did when we were married and have a license to prove it.

Answer 8

Homosexuality is a choice. I see pretty women just like I see handsome men. I just chose to be with a man not a woman. I just have one question......

Why do people do things against the Word on God and then try to put the blame on Him for there mistakes?

Admit it people to say you were born gay is to say I steal or kill cause I was born a mean person. The fact is no you weren't, we allow situations in life to influence our decisions one way or another.

Answer 9

ohh ohh I know this one!
I'm sick of the insensitive, and abusive men I've been with. I want to be a lesbian. This is what I actually did do.
Somehow my very best friend who I love very much, tried to have a lesbian relationship. It didn't work for me, I am incredibly sorry to say. I cannot be a complete lesbian. I can love, honor, and be a partner to my friend I love deeply, but not with sex. If she could have been my wife without sex, this woman would have done it in a heartbeat. What happened was I lost someone very dear to me. That still is very painful. She can't handle being with me. She wants it all. I have lost her for life.

Homosexuality is not a choice. I have more examples than the one above to prove that to me. Like the ?er asked why chose to be something that's surrounded by hate? and so much other pain? Wouldn't they choose something to make their life easier, instead of harder. That just doesn't make sense any way you look at it.

Blessed Be

Answer 10

You've missed the point. The choice is not whether or not to be gay, it's whether or not to act on your feelings. Let me put it this way. Suppose you were born with an innate desire to have sex with children. Is it alright to act on your pedophilia based on the argument that you were born this way? You have no choice, right? It's the way you are. The way you were made. Sorry but that won't fly in court. The choice here is whether or not to act. Homosexuality was once considered an abnormal sexual tendency but it has been dropped from the psychiatric annals due to political correctness. Thank the liberals for that. Perhaps if there were enough pedophiles out there, then that too will someday be considered normal. I hope not but the way things are going in this country I can see a day when it is so.

Answer 11

It is a lifestyle that happens in a gene mix up but it is not a choice for a straight to choice to be gay ,it is a choice when you know you are gay to continue to be that way.
But it is is a choice-who in there right mind go against the natural uses of sex to go gay. so when people say it is a choice --it has be come the right way in politic groups.
It is something that is not taught it is something that is deep with in you.
A friend told me he was straight until he went to jail was raped and enjoy it. It is a matter of like that type of lifestyle------no I would never choice to do something that is hated and kill for.