to forget a relationship or should u always remember the good times of the relationship?

Question

if you were in a relationship and it didnt work out and your really sad about it...should you forget and block all the times you had with that person or should you remeber the good times only??the thing is when you remeber the good times you get sadder becuase it didnt last but if u dont remebr it its like a wasted time of your life right?...

Answer 1

To try to move on, dont think about the good times. As time goes on and you start to move on with your life....all those sad feelings will start to fade away. In time you should be able to look back and smile on the happy times without feeling that sense of loss.

Answer 2

Don't think of it as a waste of time. Every experience whether it was good or bad should be remembered...Smile with the good and learn from the bad...plus, the bad will only make you stronger and you will learn more about yourself as a person. Also, if the relationship didn't last then it was for a reason. You will find more happiness else where.

Best Wishes

Answer 3

Well everything always happens for a reason. In a relationship, some failed some live happily as they want it to be. Just remember that it actually doesnt matter what happens with the experience that you have, its what you do with it. You just have to learn from the past and focus more on the present and probably the future. Remember that bygones will always be bygones but there are always lessons learned from our experiences, be it good or bad. Accept the reality that sometimes your love isnt worthy to last that long and there is always someone else who is deserving to be love by you and who is gonna love you the way you do. Keep loving.

Answer 4

It depends how it ended. I dated someone and I had fun most of the time until the day he lied to me about wanting space and then dated some girl two days later. There are so many other issues its easier for me to forget then remember the good old times.

If you two broke up mutually or maybe it was because of distance, or some other minor problem that couldnt be fixed at the time. Its okay to remember the good old times, as long as you dont depress yourself or revert to old feelings. If its a temptation back to self distruction, I say move on and forget about it.

Answer 5

You've hit it right on the nail..its so true....I remember the good times and see how i can top it to be even better with my lovely wife and remember the bad times so I don't make the same stupid mistakes and grow from experiences...to me doing this makes my marriage a lot more rewarding. dont dwell on it tho...just move on or else you will find it hard to love again...people always told me someone better will come along i never believed it but there is always a rainbow around the corner. Now I have a great wife and lovely daughter....

Answer 6

It does not have to be considered a waste ~ you learn from the bad times, from the mistakes. So remember it all, that is, don't block it out. At the same time, don't dwell on any of it, the bad or the good. It is past, it's gone. Live now.

Answer 7

I never try to forget either the good or the bad in the relationship, reason being because that's how I learn to improve upon my relationship skills. Past relationships strengthens you and helps you to grow. It teaches you what to look for in a man (or woman), how you should be treated and how you should treat that person. Mistakes are there to be made, they should not be blocked out but be a stepping stone to what you want to achieve in any aspect of your life.

Answer 8

I know how you feel. You should maybe squeeze a few minutes of memories in it then think of the things you wanted to get a chance to do with this person. I suggest you think of the mistakes you or the person made and fix them in a new relationship. If you had an argument with this person try not to have it again with another person even if he or she started it. Ignore the anger and go on with your relationship. If you don't care about my opinion because of how you feel try to give it a chance and see how it works out. If you want maybe you can be my friend.

Answer 9

When you want to forget someone, whether good times or bad. Just do it all together. Why reminisce on the past, its not coming back and it won't win you 1000 dollars. It will just
make you feel worse just thinking about it. I recommend you get this person off your mind and heart. When you are totally healed from this person, then and only then, can you think about those times you had together.

Answer 10

I loved a girl deeply. She had always professed her love to me as well. We were happy together for 1 year and got along very well without any dissent. We were inseparable so it came as a complete shock to me when she broke it off. My belief for this sudden parting came as a result of doubts about our long term future by pressure put on her by friends.
We were of different nationalities.
I cannot forget nor can I move on as it were. Yes, sadness remains and my love for her has not waned. That was more than 1 year ago.
Always treasure your memories. The passage of time will soften your pain and who knows, maybe the same fate that brought you together and then cruelly destroyed your love will find another for you.