I am refering to relationships. If there is a problem, a man will ask a woman "What's wrong?" A common answer from the woman is "Nothing!" But obviously something is wrong. Ladies, any answers to this mystery for us men? ( I'd appreciate a direct answer!)
2007-06-18 11:24:44 · 16 answers · asked by Mike 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lots of similar answers. Basically, women want men to "figure out" what's wrong. Ladies, I wonder if you can "figure out" how to repair a car or fix a sink without instructions? It's the same for men: you expect them to "figure out" how to "repair" a problem without receiving info. Just bear that comparison in mind. Thanks for all the answer so far, by the way!
2007-06-18 11:38:40 · update #1
I know its woman' nature to be "indirect". I just wanted to see what people would say and any interesting details. I can "read" my wife's signals well!
2007-06-18 11:40:52 · update #2
Sometimes, I don't know what's wrong at first when my bf asks me that question, so I say, "I don't know," when what I mean is "I'm trying to figure it out. I don't know yet." or "I haven't pinpointed it yet."
Sometimes, we want to avoid conflict that we know will happen if we answer that question. We know we have overreacted to something insignificant and don't want to re-hash the details, but just to let it go. Talking about it makes it bigger than it really was sometimes.
Sometimes, it has nothing to do with you and we just don't want to talk about it.
I think this happens most often because of one major flaw in female thinking that I am often guilty of: we want you to read our minds, to intuit what it is that's wrong, to know us so well we don't have to put it into words for you all the time. In our minds, this validates that you do know us well and that our relationship is intimate and connected. When we're pissed about something you did, however little or big it really was, it's big to us, we think you should know what it is you did that pissed us off. Or it's our way of punishing you (silly) for either a) doing it to begin with, or b) not knowing what you did.
Instead of saying, "What's wrong?" Maybe try opening up with something broader, like "How was your day?" "What's going on?" "Do you need me to listen to you for a while?" "Is there something I can do to help you?"
Men aren't that easy to communicate with, especially when the female mind and the male mind work so differently at times. You think you've asked a harmless, simple question, when suddenly we feel attacked and accused.
We're all crazy! Good luck in love and life.
2007-06-18 11:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by minfue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
women speak indirectly men
2016-02-02 04:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he could be charged with the crime. It would be more than likely involuntary manslaughter, or depraved indifference murder. Meaning "indirect" cause the death of someone else, but one's actions can lead up to causing it. You're yelling "NO!" can be an indirect cause as well. This is why it's "illegal" to yell "fire" in a crowded movie theater. What would have been proper is to have excused yourself and informed an attendant that someone is stroking their meat in the theater. They may have solved the situation before the guy exploded into the popcorn.
2016-03-14 01:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when I say nothing is wrong, I don't feel like talking about it or getting into a fight. Some days you know your just easily frustrated, and don't feel like getting into a fight over the stupidest things. I don't say I don't feel like talking about it because the other person then persistantly ask why, whats wrong again.
2007-06-18 11:32:25 · answer #4 · answered by Kristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that women tend to avoid direct speech, because they are afraid of either getting into a fight, or they are afraid of saying something that will make you so angry that you not speak to them anymore (a fear of rejection).
And I think that some people knows that saying "nothing" is annoying; she is giving you the cold shoulder to get back at you for something.
2007-06-18 11:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman, I find the behavior as frustrating as you do. I believe that if you have something to say, you should just say it. I don't play the guessing game. My attitude is that if you tell me nothing is wrong, I'll take you at your word.
2007-06-18 11:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One of two things;
1) we are so in love with you men that we don't want conflict or to hurt our men.
2) We expect you to figure out when you've screwed up!
2007-06-18 11:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That answer comes from her believing that you should just know what's wrong. And part of 'what's wrong' is that you don't already know what's wrong. Or they have no idea what's wrong or they just don't want to say...
I know, it's exasperating but the genders speak completely different languages. It's a wonder we don't kill each other...
2007-06-18 11:27:19 · answer #8 · answered by elurle 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
women think that you should be able to read their minds..If you say whats wrong with me and I say nothing..I usually want you to figure it out. If she says nothing and you do nothing about it, it will probably make her more angry. Women just want to talk. they don't necessarily want you to solve her problems. You have to learn to trust and respect her
read the book; men are from mars women are from venus. very good!
2007-06-18 11:29:16 · answer #9 · answered by Danu 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ha ha.. that is one of the greatest mysteries of women..
i've done it before...
a women can say that for different reasons...
we either:
expect you to know...
dont want to talk about it...
or would rather not talk about it because you're not gonna understand anyways
some women just want to be begged..
it just depends on the person..
2007-06-18 11:33:42 · answer #10 · answered by !..♥..! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋