I am not looking to get bashed, just opinions. Do you think women don't like nice guys because they'll have nobody to yell at if the guy is doing what he is supposed to? Women say they want a guy to do all of the manly things and remember all of the important dates, but continue to date the total opposite. It was just a thought of mine, and I could be wrong. Let me know your opinion.
2007-06-18 10:51:38 · 36 answers · asked by King of Biscuits 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't worry. As you get older, women will be looking for a nice guy like yourself, and you will have to take care of the bad guys kids.
2007-06-18 10:54:44 · answer #1 · answered by Nep 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think women don't like nice guys because they'll have nobody to yell at. MANY women don't yell and have no desire to yell.
Women like nice guys, but ya know what? The "bad boys" tend to be the confident ones...the ones that go after the women while the "nice guys" are being shy or much less agressive. Women typically don't know a guy si a "bad boy" until she's been with him a while..then it can be hard to let go for some. She may think she can 'fix' him, or decide it's easier to stay with someone than move on and try to find someone else, or convince herself she really loves him and he's not that 'bad' after all.
Nice guys need to be more confident and aggressive...show women that they know how to have a good time too, and that being 'nice" doesn't mean boring or doormat. A manly man can be a wonderfully nice guy, but have an "edge" that'll catch women's attention and desire for adventure. ☺
2007-06-18 10:57:02 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The last time I dated a nice guy, I found out he had been in prison for being a child molester.
Usually men that say they are nice guys, aren't nice guys. Maybe you should post some specifics. I don't date "nice guys" I date "real guys" I find guys start out opening doors all the time, ignoring their phone saying that I'm more important and within a month they are too busy talking on the phone to open the door. In my opinion, a real, nice guy is one that can be honest with me and talk to me. If I do something he doesn't like, he has to be able to tell me and I need to be able to do the same. A guy that can openly communicate about his feelings is a truly nice guy...tell me where I can find one.
2007-06-18 11:06:06 · answer #3 · answered by Tonya L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a nice guy doesn't mean being a testosterone-free dishrag, which is what so many guys think. A nice guy can still have swagger, be attractive, be funny, do daring things, etc. I know a guy who rides motorcycles, jumps out of airplanes and has weekly suppers with his monther, for instance. "Bad" to me are those guys who beat women up, like manipulating women because power makes them feel good, etc...
2016-04-01 04:31:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you're generalizing too much. not ALL women dont like nice guys. but i imagine those that dont, for the most part, are looking for someone who will be the dominant one in the relationship. just because a guy is a nice guy doesnt mean hes doing everything right in the relationship. its always good to have a healthy balance. its annoying if a guy agrees with you always and never challenges you or teaches you new things...is always asking your permission for everything. asking "well what do YOU want" instead of like "hey lets go here and do this" most women want a guy to take charge. but they're not looking for an overbearing possessive guy...i guess they just choose him over the guy without a back bone.
2007-06-18 10:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by Manda 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well that's not entirely accurate -- although, I cannot speak for the entire gender. Personally, I find that the "nice guy" concept is an over-generalization. The negative about a "nice guy" is that he's a push-over and he doesn't stand his ground. I find that a little stubbornness is more challenging and a little more attractive to me than someone who does not voice strong opinions about things. Jerks are unattractive, too, don't get me wrong. But, for me? I just want to be with someone that I respect. That means, someone with individual ideas and opinions, someone intelligent and funny, and someone who isn't cowed by my strong personality or convictions. And, I like nice guys.
2007-06-18 10:58:18 · answer #6 · answered by Shibi 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stop dating shallow and neurotic women. Most women of substance that I know date good guys. The chances are, if you are interested in women who are making bad choices, they are not great catches to begin with and you will spend your life trying to fill an endless hole of insecurity.
If she's smart enough, pretty enough and is self-confident, she will likely not stick with a guy who treats her like crap. Bad guys know how to spot insecurity and exploit it in a woman, and do so continually. So you see, your issue is not that there is anything wrong with you, but rather the woman you are interested in. They are not dating nice men because they do not feel worthy of being treated well.
2007-06-18 10:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by Yestheyrefake 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Women like the whole "playing hard to get" thing. If they like you, the more you treat them badly and push them away, the closer they will try to get to you. It's a macho type thing. Sometimes (wrongly), nice guys come across as wimpy and stupid. I know this isn't true but some people are like that. If there is a really nice guy, the woman has nothing to fault in him and cannot argue and take out anger. Arguing is part of a healthy relationship.
2007-06-18 10:56:16 · answer #8 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay here it is, each girl is different and not all of them are stupid enough not to look at the nice guys because I have dated nothing but nice guys and I couldn't ask for more. For me, it isn't the fact of yelling at my bf, or whatever, it's that some girls either have different taste, or they are too iggnorant to relize. Well, hope this helped and have a great day!
2007-06-18 11:01:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is most women settle for less. They make up excuses for their boyfriends and think it is alright to be in a sh*tty relationship. When you first start dating someone they are really sweet to you and it's only after you get used to them or get stronger feelings for them when they start treating their girlfriends like crap. Girls just think oh he's having a bad day or come up with some other lame excuse. It's just that they know things can be good and they keep holding on thinking one day it will be like that again.
2007-06-18 10:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋