His 2 teenage sons live with there mother 3 blocks away. Fathers day came and went without even a phone call from the kids. This after he bought both of them cars, gave them credit cards, pays for everything literally... no kidding.
He says he is good friends with their mother. I say he is being used by their mother and she is a manipulative hole looking out for herself and playing games with the kids. I would be ashamed not to see my dad on the holiday after all the money he spends on these kids.
Should I say anything at all or just keep quiet?
2007-06-18 10:35:58 · 11 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He has two teenage sons who know where he lives and also his phone number. Their mom should not have to push them to spend time with their dad when they are this age - it is up to them. The majority of teenagers are self-centered and don't think about others - they are only thinking about themselves - on top of that - they are boys and they could have very well forgot.
I think the next time you see the two boys I would just ask the following: "Your Dad was hurt when he did not hear from either of you on father's day - what happened this year?"
2007-06-18 10:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep quiet. It only makes you look like the bad guy. He apparently doesn't mind being used, and he is a grown man that can fend for himself. If he doesn't care, then leave it alone. Personally I think he's trying to buy their affection and it's not working too well. their mom isn't the user, his kids are. they are old enough to pick up the phone and apparently have a car to drive over. They chose not to. Shame on them, but that is between him and his kids. It has nothing to do with you.
2007-06-18 10:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say anything to who? The teenage boys that probably feel their father owes them for not being with their mom? You say he pays for everything literally you mean his ex doesn't work and she doesn't pay rent/mortgage either and no utility bills either? If that is the case then hey your man is the fool and fact is he probably still feels the need to provide if he is well off enough to do so. So that brings me to the question, with him providing for his first family do you suffer? As for the fathers day thing, not everyone feels the need to say I love you and profess their love on fathers day, mothers day or valentines day. Especially if they profess their love at other times or when they feel it actually means something. Would it have meant anything if those boys came over to say Happy fathers day and not really mean it. They are teenagers...they will grow up and see for themselves what daddy has done.
2007-06-18 10:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by 20+ years and still in-love! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you are sorry they treated him that way, and that it hurts you knowing that it had to have caused him some pain. Leave it at that, because you can't make the kids act like they should, but you can support your husband emotionally. HE should say something to them however, because man, with or without money, that is just plain rude!
2007-06-18 10:45:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no really it's not between you, the kids and your husband... i would just comfort him... tell him that THEY are missing out and he is doing everything he is supposed to.. maybe tell him to try to find out what animosity the boys are holding against him... because teenagers are careless and they don't think a lot of the time... so it might just be a very careless mistake...? after all you are dealing with 2 teenage hormone driven boys...lol.... as long as your husband really does everything he is supposed to do in the end that all that matters... eventually they will see that... good luck...
2007-06-18 10:48:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship with your husband is between you and him; and you would not want his ex-wife or kids (or anyone else) meddling in it. Likewise, his relationship with his ex and kids is between him and them. Are you affected by those relationships? Of course you are! BUT, you should stay out of it. Your intervention would not be appreciated, no matter how well intended.
On the other hand, you CAN and should GENTLY remind your husband that he can not buy their love or their forgiveness. While there may be nothing to forgive, it does sound like your husband's spending might be to ease his feelings of guilt, whether those feelings are justified or not.
2007-06-18 10:52:21 · answer #6 · answered by Tom K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 3, I was playing on the coffee table while it was turned upside down, and we were running on the legs dressed as Batman and Robin (I was Robin) and I jumped off one of the legs and broke my arm lol I also broke my Mom's favorite picture that was hanging on the wall when I slammed a nearby door because my brother was chasing me, and the picture fell off the wall and shattered hehehehe she was so mad
2016-05-19 00:20:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a fool and a pushover and he has spoiled his kids rotten and obviously his ex still "has" him. Get out NOW!!!
2007-06-18 10:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by lornamoravec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt that anything you say would do any good. Which is too bad because you are absolutely correct.
2007-06-18 10:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cant buy love .......maybe he didn't treat his children well when he was married to their mom, maybe he ignored them best just to let it go ....maybe some day they will come around its up to them ..
2007-06-18 10:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋