I currently feel a deep void in my heart. I'm a young girl, whos never really had her heart broken and yet I feel as if I can't love someone I wish I could. I don't feel that warm feeling for my BF that I used to feel. I know I wouldn't die for him. Yet I know I want to spend the rest of my life with my BF. I know I would be with him still even if he accidently (not out of affair) contracted an STD, I know I want children with him. I know that maybe even he did cheat I'd still be with him. Yet, my heart feels empty. I told him yesterday I don't love him, and his reaction has torn me apart. I feel cruel and devoid of normal human emottions. Now he doesn't want to be with me, but claims to still love me, but doens't want to be a fool. I want to love him, but I think I'm just incapable of loving someone. I just don't think I'll ever feel that warm feeling in my heart like we had in the beginning ever again.....
2007-06-18 10:26:10 · 8 answers · asked by A 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont think any of us can recapture that intense feeling of love and excitement that we had in the beginning. Reality sets in and it can feel as though something is missing. You describe caring for him immensely. What is that but love at a different time? Very possibly, somewhere down the line, you'll regain that old feeling. I'm going to bet you do. You cant care for someone as much as you obviously do for your bf and not really love him. I hope your bf sees this too.
2007-06-18 10:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by phlada64 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very sad, you will just lower your self esteem even more thinking like this all the time, maybe you just need a break from him. You need to take care of yourself, first. Take care of you. Don't give in to everybody else all the time, you need to nourish your soul and spirit. Every human has emotions. Some can hide it better than other's. Your b/f is hurt now, since you told him that. What is he going to think and do now? Maybe in true reality it is time to either give each other a break or move on.
2007-06-18 17:33:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem confused, my dear. You want to be with him the rest of your life, yet you don't love him. There's no reason to spend the rest of your life with someone you don't or can't love - it may seem like loyalty but really it's just mercenary and misguided. And it's not like you HAVE to marry or love everyone you date - it's okay to have a relationship that doesn't end at the altar.
I think you're showing signs of a severe depression, which is preventing you from feeling the love and joy and happiness you used to feel. You need to talk this over with your doctor or a counselor. This may be beyond your power to fix alone, and medications and/or therapy may be helpful in returning you to a normal emotive state. Please talk to your doctor and your mental and emotional state.
2007-06-18 17:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Bad Bad Bad telling him that you don't love him. I think you are mistaking "that warm feeling" for lust. Most people do not go on forever in that mode, they develop deep feelings for the other person not withstanding the fact they now know that person is not perfect. Taking a bullet for someone is not a requirement for love.
2007-06-18 17:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are not getting what you want that's all. And it's alright not to love someone who the way that person loves you. You are to concentrated on how a person feels when they are in love, because that's what you want, but that person has not come to you yet. All in due time...
2007-06-18 17:33:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound as if you are in love with the idea of a boy friend not the boy friend.
Make a life for yourself. Then let the other happen
2007-06-18 17:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by keezy 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
your heart is fine.
i know you feel empty but all you need is a little love from the ppl you love. they will comfort you in your time of need. all you need to do is ask them to â¥
2007-06-18 17:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by Help4U 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to dr. phil!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! no sorry i think you should find a new friend
2007-06-18 17:31:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋