I need some extremely good advice...Im dying here?

Question

Ok, so I recently found out that the guy i have been in love with for 4 years has felt the same way about me. His best friend is my ex boyfriend. My exboyfriend and I dated for around 6 years and for the past couple of years I have developed feelings for his best friend. My ex is rotten, he lied and cheated on me the entire time we dated. Well recently I was with this guy im in love with and we kissed and stuff and just talked about everything. He wants to spend the rest of his life with me but he doesnt want to lose my ex (his best friend) as a friend becasue they have been best friends forever. He told me that me and him cannot go anywhere from here. I know he wants to and I want to more than anything else in the entire world. You should be with the one you love right? So what is some good advice for me and him? Should we wait and see where it goes or should we confess to everyone and see where that goes?

Answer 1

I think your only option is to wait a bit. Things always work out for the best. It is sometimes very hard to see that right now, but I assure you that they do.

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Answer 2

First off, you two are being open with each other, so that is good. I say, that you should tell your ex/this guy's best friend, that you two love each other. If the friend can't handle this, then that is his problem. You new guy should realize that if he wants to be with you for the rest of his life, then he may have to make a few sacrifices. You two should now be each others best friends. That's really what being a couple is all about. Having someone that you have a lot in common with that you can fight though all the battles of life with. That's what I think anyways. So, just let everyone know, and see how it works out. Don't ignore your true feelings.

Answer 3

Things could be much, much worse sweetheart. Wait until everything cools down and try your best to have an adult, mature conversation about the way you've been treated. If you think its that bad, then stay at a friends for a while until things change. You have to understand the repercussions of calling the police at this point. They will take you away from your family forever- or for a very long time. This just sounds like a situation where everyone is at their wits end and over-reacting. Dying is about the stupidest thing you can do, by the way. In fact- just the fact that this is your reaction goes to show you are in no place to make big judgments. Let's be reasonable. There's no excuse for your father shoving you- but you aren't getting beaten on a nightly basis here. Your family is still willing to clothe you, bathe you, and feed you. He was pissed because you're running up his phone bill. If I was a parent I'd be pissed to. Being abused is a very, very serious matter, and not something to be taken lightly. If you're going to make any reports, make sure you are calm, collected, and sure of yourself when you do. Not when you're emotional and hysterical.

Answer 4

Personally, don't keep it a secret. But don't make it like a news flash. Keep it casual when you are around people. And you are not in any rush. The World isn't going anywhere. So just see where it goes. But I wouldn't go confess EVERYTHING to everyone, because if it doesn't work out you don't want to look super desperate. But anyways, good luck:} I hope hes the right one.

Answer 5

Well its like this if he is affraid of losing his friendship with his friend more then being with you then i think this could just be a set up to make you look bad . The thing of it is his friend if he is a real friend will look past the issue that you are his ex and would wish his friend the best and be happy with who ever he pleases . that is what a true friend would do if not and his friend doesnt want anything to do with him then he was never a good friend

Answer 6

He is unwilling to lose his best friend, he choose him over you and I am afraid there is nothing more you can do but to accept his decision. Just know, birds of the same feather flock together. If your ex boyfriend is so rotten then I would guestion why this guy you say you love finds in common with him to be a best friend.

Answer 7

You should just follow your heart and go out with this bloke, your ex should not even come into the equation as he had his chance, and as you said he cheated, lied all the time you dated. This does not mean your ex's friend is not like him. He can still be friends with your ex and be together with you. I hope it works out for the both of you, it sounds like you two should be together.

Answer 8

If he loves you he'll want to be with you and will take into consideration that his BF cheated on you. If he can't find anything wrong with that then he's an idiot and an ***. Loose him.

Tell him how his best friend cheated and lied for 6 years and tell him you need a strong, kind, loving man. If he can't be that man then don't waste your time. His loss.

Answer 9

Never pass an opportunity of love. I know from experience that it can change everything. On the other hand love can come with pain. Your ex may or may not be hurt by it but he'll just realize that he missed out on his chance with you. Eventually someone will find out so you might as well tell it.

Answer 10

I have been in a situation similar to yours and I hate to say it but men do not choose women over their friends especially their best friend. I don't know this guy ur in love with you but it sounds as if he's a little shadey he messed with you and confessed "feelings" for you knowing that he didn't want to take things beyond that. It sound a lot like he said what he wanted to get what he wanted. But you would know him better than me and if you feel he is geninue and has real feeling for you than I feel for you. Because like I said most men won't choose their girl over their best friend.