My father isn't part of my life and won't be at my wedding.?

Question

Who should walk me down the isle? I'm not very close to my mother either. Should I walk down alone? What about the father/daughter dance and all that? I want my fiancee to have a mother/son dance because they are close, but will it be really uncomfortable for me to not have the same kind of thing? Has anyone else had this situation?

Answer 1

do you have a close family member an uncle maybe ?

if not how walking down the isle together ?

as far as the dance just have a mother/son dance

it's your wedding skip some of the protocol

relax and enjoy the day

Answer 2

Well, my father had died two years before I got married, and my mom wouldn't walk me down the aisle. There was no one else (I didn't want my older bro), and I didn't want to walk alone, so my husband and I walked down the aisle together. The attendants walked in as couples before us, and it was very special and nice!
For the dance at the wedding, I had my older brother set up to dance with me, but when the time came he was off drinking and cavorting, so while I waited someone had to go get him - so to do it over again, I would have just skipped that.
What you can do is have your first dance with your husband, then just have the wedding party dance - your husband can dance with her mom, and you just can dance with an uncle or good family friend - but it won't be spotlighted because there will be others on the dance floor. Or they could wait for the mother/son dance til the third dance when the families join in the dancing, then you could be dancing with the best man, for example.

Answer 3

You can have just about anyone walk you down the aisle - a brother/sister, cousin, uncle/aunt, friend, etc. You also can walk down the aisle alone or have your groom walk towards you and meet you half way, then walk back together. (I've seen this done and it really seems to symbolize the couple coming independantly into the relationship and the completeing the journey together.). As far as the mother/son dance - we have the opposite problem. Both of my finace's parents have passed away. I will be dancing with my Dad and, at the same time, my fiance' will be dancing with my mother. I've picked a song that isn't specific about parent/child relationships ("What a Wonderful World" by Louis Armstrong). Hope this helps. Have fun!

Answer 4

My father isn't a part of my life either, so I walked my self down the aisle. Everyone at the wedding loved it, especially my husband. He said he enjoyed only looking at me... having no one to take away from my beauty and my moment. We didn't do the dancing reception thing, but my best friend did and she danced with her new father in law... just because. Her parents were not in her life at all. It was sweet... and they treated her like their own daughter anyway. Maybe you could get an uncle or something... or any "special" person. The rules don't say you have to dance with you mom or dad. It is your day... do what makes you feel most comfortable.
Congrats on the wedding!

Happily Married!

Answer 5

You could have an uncle, close friend or your brother. It's up to you. Walk alone if you want to. I watched Bridezilla the other night and the girl didn't have any bridemaids in her wedding. That was a first for me, plus she wore a pink dress. Do what you want. Let your "hubby to be" participate in the mother/son dance since they are close. You can have a dance with someone else you are close to or not have one at all.

My father isn't around so when I get married, I might have my brother, an older cousin or a close friend walk me. I might even walk myself down the isle.

Answer 6

I have been to many weddings that did not have the father.

Usually, a brother or a cousin can do the same thing. Maybe a close friend.

Even the groom's father has been known to walk the bride down the aisle. I have seen that.

If you feel so strongly about a dance you may want to ask your future husband's family to not do this.

What can be done is you and your groom will do the first dance. then people will come up. You may want then to tranfer to a friend or relative and dance with them while he dances with his mother.

Since your soon to be family knows your situation they should not be too incensed to work our the dance routine to accomodate you also.

Answer 7

If you have a brother or close male relative that you have a special relationship with then they could do it. Walking down the aisle by yourself would also be beautiful. My sister did this and she looked so radiant and all eyes truly were only on her. As for the dance, when your fiance is dancing with his mother, you should dance with his father, if he is there. If not then just sit back and watch the special moment your husband is having. You wont feel awkward at all, cuz you'll be thinking about how special his moment is making him feel. Congrats on your marriage.

Answer 8

Is there a father figure in your life? You grandfather or an uncle? If not, it's fine to walk down alone.

As long as you don't feel weird about not having a special dance, it's fine. (If you might feel weird, what about having a special dance with your best friend? Use the song "That's What Friends Are For".)

Answer 9

My sis in law did She had Her Brother Walk her down the isle and did a Brother sister dance it was ice and She Really Enjoyed it and it was different not like traditional weddings!!

Answer 10

I would skip out on alot of the traditional things for this wedding, esp. the mother/son dance. After the bridal dance, the announcer can ask everyone to dance and your hubby can immediately dance with his mother and you can dance with someone else, but don't specify a mother/son dance or people will be commenting and you'll feel bad.