2007-06-18 09:58:12 · 34 answers · asked by claire n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No matter how cute the phrasing is you would be viewed very badly by some for mentioning gifts on the invite. That's a word of mouth discussion or if you put up a wedding website you can post the information there. Or if you have a bridal shower those invites can say this is what we would like but no one is obligated to bring anything or specifically what you request.
2007-06-18 10:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 2⤊ 7⤋
I dont know if any of this lot have ever been to a wedding, but I have been to many, and everytime have received a gift list in the invitation. Only the last one, a couple of months ago with a polite poem explaining they have everything and argos vouchers would be appreciated. It was very unoffensive.
Your guests will hardly appreciate it when they are having the meal and chatting about how they all got you a toaster. Many of my guests have contacted me or my parents to ask if they are to get us a gift or money. I'm requesting vouchers towards my photographs. Everyone wants to contribute or give us money for a house deposit.
Remember, the people you invite love and care about you and want to get you what you want - gift, voucher or cash. Obviously no one here wants to buy you anything, they don't know you (or anything else!) hee hee!
Try a poem. It really does work and shows a bit of effort. I wish I hadn't thrown it away now. GOOD LUCK
2007-06-19 06:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by cheepmeepmew 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You don't. Asking people you are inviting for money or vouchers of any kind is tacky and not etiquette. Forget the idea and accept what you get. Most people are going over to money instead of wedding gifts anyway.
2007-06-18 11:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NEVER ask for or mention gifts in your invitation - that's the height of tackiness. What you do is tell your family members and bridal party where you are registered, or what sort of gift cards or vouchers you want, and then THEY can inform the guests if they ask. If you have your own wedding website, you can put a link to your registry or the stores you're interested in.
Remember, guests don't have to get you anything, or get you what you want - it's a gift, not an exchange.
2007-06-18 10:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Frankly, you cannot. And I would suggest to you that, while you may think it is more practicle for you to go out and buy the exact things you want rather than depending on the random taste of friends and relatives, you will come to cherish the things that these people have given you as the years go by.
Gifts are given from the heart. Allow the people who care about you to express themselves through their gifts. If, however, someone should ask you what gift you would like to have, then by all means ask them for a gift certificate from a specific store.
All the best to you on your happy day.
2007-06-18 10:04:34 · answer #5 · answered by Bonnie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You don't. No mention of gifts should be put on any invitations what so ever. Gifts are optional and making it sound like they are required or expected by telling people how/what to give is EXTREMELY rude.
You can tell this information to your parents and the bridal party and if someone asks them about gifts they can pass it on. Anything else is unacceptable. Period.
See any question about asking for money, giftcards, anything before you. I would love for somebody to email me the web address of any ettiquete website or book that says otherwise.
2007-06-18 11:22:08 · answer #6 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You never mention gifts, registries or money in wedding invitations. NEVER. Your wedding is not a fund raiser. Your guests are NOT obligated to give you gifts...if they choose to bring a gift, it will be whatever they choose, not something you dictate.
The most polite way for you to handle this is to spread the world with your bridal party and immediate family. When your guests check with your family and friends to find out what your registries are, they will find out you would prefer vouchers/giftcards/money instead of gifts.
2007-06-19 01:13:28 · answer #7 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ive been to a few weddings now - one had a list on debehams site for gifts - on the list were vouchers for those who didnt know what to buy - and also do the same at argos!
2007-06-19 04:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by Ebab831 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
do a wedding list for example if u wanted vouchers for argos or items then go on to there website and go to wedding service you can choose the items u want or need and people can also buy vouchers for u other shops do the service as well good luck and congratulations xxx
2007-06-18 10:03:32 · answer #9 · answered by florida xxx 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do you mean gift cards? Most stores have those as part of the registry items. So, you could set up a wedding registry with just gift cards.
2007-06-18 10:02:03 · answer #10 · answered by Sharon 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋