i was with my ex bf for 2 years.we were happy together but he loved more than i did.i wanted him as my best guy friend not my bf but he really liked me.i broke up because i didnt want to hurt him and didnt want him to think of me that much.i wasnt sure if i loved him or not so i decided to broke up and dont hurt him more.but he said you can always come back and im your friend forever.
after a year i met another guy,the one i was looking for.i really love my bf and he loves me too.unfortunatly he wants to go abroad with his family and maybe never come back.
i always think about my ex bf,and in this sever moments i really need to talk to someone i mean a good friend,do you think i can call him? does he still think about me?please tell me what to do?
2007-06-18 09:51:38 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im really confused!
2007-06-18 20:37:03 · update #1
you broke up with him to spare his feelings, as you didnt feel the same, so whats changed, your new boyfriend wants to go abroad to live, so now you are going to be on your own. i think it would be wrong to get back with your ex, as if it didnt work out in the 2 years you were with him, why would things be different now, you just want to feel loved, and he will get hurt,
have you not got someone you can go out with and have a good laugh, and see if you can meet someone else in time, go forward not backwards, good luck
2007-06-18 10:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can call him, but be careful. Odds are nothing has changed. If he hasn't forgotten you and moved on, then he is still going to want more out of you than you want. He is still going to expect you to fall in love with him. And odds are you still won't feel the same, and he'll get hurt all over again. You are likely just creating an idealized image in your head because you are down in the dumps. So what are going to do? Run back to him every time things don't work out? Haven't you any other friends to talk to? I recommend talking to other people, keeping busy, and working through this on your own. It will make you a better and more mature person, and then you can go find someone who really cares about you, and for whom you feel the same. Good luck!
2007-06-18 09:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the saying "if you love someone set them free?"
Second best is never enough, despite him telling you that you can always come back to him.
You broke up with him because you didn't love him, and wanted to spare his feelings, and now you want to call him and pour your heart out over this new guy, how is that sparing his feelings?
It's been a year since you split up and you've both moved on with your lives, maybe he does think of you, maybe he doesn't, what you need to do is leave the guy alone to get on with his life, you cant expect him to be a shoulder for you to cry on if he still carries a torch for you, and to be honest it's a little selfish on your part to expect this from him.
2007-06-18 10:15:51 · answer #3 · answered by The Original Highbury Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's a terrible idea to talk to your ex right now.
You are in an emotionally vulnerable position, and seeing an ex will stir up old feelings and is like putting gasoline on a fire.
Sometimes it's cool and other times it ends up being a big mistake. Why take the chance?
If this bf feels the same way for you as you do for him, why isn't he willing to stay here to be with you? Something you may want to really think about.
2007-06-18 09:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends. If your ex is over you and now just sees you as a good friend, it might help you sort out your feelings by talking to him. On the other hand, if he still has feelings for you, he might receive mixed messages from you calling him and wanting to talk about it. He might think you are subliminally trying to tell him that you want HIM back!!! I think I'd just leave him alone if I were you, and go find another friend to be a sympathetic listener.
2007-06-18 09:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been here. Leave him alone. Any time you come back in his life because you "need a friend" is just going to end up hurting him more. He may be just about over you and then here you come again!
You may be able to be friends someday, but it will probably take years. Find other friends to lean on in this time. Trust me. Don't keep hurting this guy.
2007-06-18 09:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I talk to my ex on occasion, DO NOT SEE HIM IN PERSON. It changes everything. Remember there's a reason you brok up. Let me throw this out there. If he called you us and was wining to you about his gf, how would you feel? Think about his feelings too. not just you being lonely, dont pull the bounce back relationship thing, nobody ever wins.
2007-06-18 09:55:02 · answer #7 · answered by Lyndsey R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't personally call him. He might still be your friend and could probably help you with loads of problems but it isn't fair to hurt his feelings by asking for help with your love life. If he loved you as much as you said it would definitely hurt him . You could risk loosing him as a friend.
2007-06-18 10:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by lindyloo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother him, you had you're chance and you thought you were too good for him, and now that you're current boyfriend is showing signs of disinterest, you feel scare, and now you need him? Probably to make your current boyfriend jealous. You’re just a user. Don’t be an abuser
2007-06-18 09:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your ex, friend, will always be there for you no matter what. he's been there this long! and you need to do whats best for you! i would talk to him and tell him you want to move but still want to be friends! you can still email, myspace or whatever besides talking on the phone to keep in touch too.
2007-06-18 09:56:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋