should i trust her
2007-06-18 09:50:01 · 31 answers · asked by DONNA B 1 in Travel ➔ Asia Pacific ➔ Thailand
She is probably trying to get some money from you. But if you had a pleasant time with the girl, she was nice to you and you liked her, why not help her a little if you can?
2007-06-18 10:39:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no is what you should say........ but since you posted this questions, it means you are somewat feeling that you should help rite?. So by all means, DO NOT give her all that she wants, but perhaps just a small %. Tell her that that's all you have left after deducting "this and that minimal expenses". When she accepts it ( most prob she will), then you can see how things goes from there. Keep your eyes wide open for other people she is with etc to see if she goes off with the highest "bidder" of them all. But make sure you understand that, more than not, you won't be getting the money back.
Best of Luck!
(PS: did i tell you i luv you too and am in need of cash? hehe)
2007-06-19 00:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by Kizheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can trust that she loves your money. Be careful or you may end up funding not only her but her family and friends, and a new child that you may share with her. If you are a male with child bearing capabilities.
A close friend of mine had exactly that, with threats on his life if he did not comply. He did get out alive but it took years. Just be sensible and watch your back.
If you don't live in Thailand, have her come to where you live and see what transpires. She is safe on her turf but will she respond to you the same on your turf? It would be a good test. Also, give it time, not just a few hops in the sack. Years, not weeks.
2007-06-18 16:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by mim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a big business in Thailand. After you're married, you'll need to buy Mom and Dad some property. Then she'll need a nice house that you can remodel. Then she'll get pregnant. Then you'll get divorced and have no claim to anything you bought.
Of course, it's true that her family is poor, and she is poor. Otherwise, she wouldn't be in that bar lying to strangers about love. This is pretty cynical, isn't it? Some relationships that start this way do seem to work out, but I'd put it at about 2 percent.
2007-06-18 17:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by Insanity 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I haven't met her so I can't tell you if you can trust her or not.The obvious answer is no,but there's a chance she could be for real.If you're getting what you want out of it it wouldn't hurt to give her a little bit of money,would it?
A thai can't love you unless you can provide for them,that sounds awful,but that seems to be their culture.Falling in love with someone because they're a good dancer/like hollyoaks/BB/got film star looks just doesn't do it for them.Are they a good provider,will they look after our children etc. is what counts.Good looks and all that is fleeting,if you've had your passport a long time take a good look at the photo
Be careful,don't be taken for a sucker and enjoy yourself.I wish you love
2007-06-19 09:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Common Senarios:
1. Getting money every month from her foreign boy friend while she continues to have a Thai boy friend. With and without the Thai boy friend knowing.
2. Having 4-5 foreign boy friends at the same time each sending money to her.
3. Using your money to support family - buy house, land etc..
Can't blame anyone for being like that everybody's attracted to something. Unfortunately in most cases it's Money!!
Try doing what others have suggested. Stop the flow of money and see if her love also stops flowing.
cheers.
2007-06-19 07:05:44 · answer #6 · answered by Bangkok_Knight 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two people can play this game. Just be careful not to give her too much money, and you just might have a couple of the best years of your life, or maybe more. The longer you know her, the better you will be able to judge her. At this point should you trust her? All I can say is, be careful, I wouldn't.
2007-06-18 20:33:44 · answer #7 · answered by Gerald J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hate to think that you are that naive! If you meet any girl in Thailand or any place else for that matter and she says she loves you but wants your financial help ----- RUN don't walk.
2007-06-18 17:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by jrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats why she loves you...... you give her money. One of many sometimes I bet.Don't get me wrong the mindset there is different than western. You are seen as a way to improve their lot in life, either with money for momma poppa, sisters, brothers, cousins. etc. cars, motor bikes or the " family member who is sick anjd needs 10K baht for hospitial.
I STRONGLY urge you to tread lightly. as you go on with this relationship.
Thai Woman do make great wives, girlfriends, pals, or just good friends. but as is custom if you marry you, DO MARRY the whole family.
I wish you Choke Dee ( good luck )! Take your time. average worker in Bangkok under 10K bhat a month villiages 5K think with your other head!
2007-06-18 23:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by talbot983 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a sucker. they all say that, it's their ticket out of poverty and prostitution.
A couple of the guys from my last trip over there hooked up with some girls, gave them their phone numbers, now we're back in Australia, have been for nearly 4 months and theyre still getting phone calls and messages from them saying they love them and they should pay for them to come out here etc etc...
Dont fall for it, they love the opportunity, not you.
2007-06-19 01:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋