2007-06-18 09:39:48 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
hm...I am about to get engaged (we're both Christian) and for some reason this has never come up. Sounds like a good idea though, to look at marriage through a Biblical perspective only - leaving out the secular ideas that are often dragged in with it.
Very good question!
2007-06-18 09:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by hellotman16 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have issues that need counseling? If that answer is, "NO", then there really is no reason.. The only "need" for counseling is if there are areas of belief or behavior that are significantly different leading you to believe they could be a problem in the future (Near or far). If neither of you have demonstrated activities, or tendencies that look to cause a problem because the other has a significantly different view point, then you are OK.. Small stuff can be worked out between your selves. If the love is strong enough so can big things but the counseling can help shorten the alignment or corrective process.
Try to address all major issues ahead of time.. What church, kids/no kids, career vs family, who handles the finances and how. Where to live, where to go for family holidays..
There are many things that you can determine up front.
If there are issues with other personality traits, try to iron those out or be set to live with them.. Remember, people MAY change but they do not do so over night or because someone else wants them to.. They only do it because they want to and in their own time.
If there are big gaps then consider before hand if marriage with this person is the way to go.
2007-06-18 09:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by ALittleAboutALot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely..........Kids, marriage is a very serious commitment two people make to each other as consenting God fearing adult Christians. (or any other discipline or doctrine) If you are under 30 years old and are going to get married then you should both council with older experienced men and women that you trust to be honest with you. Now is not the time to look the other way. If you really do love each other you will work on the problems together (but you have to face them together first ) and enjoy the good times together as well. A life time with one person is very hard to achieve any more because of not being able to look far enough ahead and utilizing all the resources that are there to help you. You are still going to be the ones to decide your fate. Marriage to the right spouse is bliss. Marriage to the wrong one is Hell. Be careful and good luck Get counseling ;-)
2007-06-18 09:59:15 · answer #3 · answered by Terry R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think it is a good idea. As I understand it, Christian counseling is not talking about religion but about the day to day things that occur in marriage...and some of the possible problem spots. Handling money, sharing housework, raising children etc. These are often the things that will pull a couple away from one another and to have a good understanding of where the other person is on these issues is to the benefit of the union.
2007-06-18 09:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by Poohcat1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely.
Counselling can reveal and address issues that are UNFORESEEN. The couple then has the chance to resolve them before nuptuals with the help of a mediator.
Counseling before marriage does NOT mean you are in trouble, it means you are preparing your hearts and minds for a successful happy marriage. Kinda like taking vitamins. You don't take vitamins because you are sick, you take them to keep you well.
Otherwise, Christian Couples should get married, then consult a Christian Attorney when the unforeseen troubles cause a very un-Christian divorce.
Think of it this way:
Counseling could help tremendously, and almost never hurts.
NOT Counselling doesn't help you at all, and could prove disasterous.
err on the side of caution with this one.
2007-06-18 09:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by sexymommyof3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would highly suggest it. I got married young, i was 19 my wife 18, and counseling w/ my pastor before really helped out. It made sure we were doing it for the right reason, and it helped us to understand the importance of putting God first in our marriage. We just celebrated our 3rd anniversary, we are doing great, just bought a new house, and we are becoming very successful in out ministries. We are both involved in children and adult ministries. GOD IS GOOD!!!
2007-06-18 09:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by LosingAllSanity VLOGS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a wise thing to do. For anyone about to get married. I have been married for eight years and though we are still together, I wish that we would have been wise enough to get counseling before marrying.
2007-06-18 09:43:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The bible says that there is wisdom in counsel. This is too big of a decision not to seek counsel from people you trust.
2007-06-18 09:42:56 · answer #8 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the divorce rate is over 50%...I think that all couples should be required to have some type of relationship counseling before being allowed to marry and procreate...
Geesh, you have to take a test to drive a car...but, anyone, (straight) can go to Vegas, get married and then pop out a baby....no requirements.
So yeah...I think everyone should be required to go to couseling of their choice...either faith based if they so choose...or not faith based if the couple chooses.
2007-06-18 09:43:59 · answer #9 · answered by G.C. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
EVERY engaged couple should have marriage counseling before tying the knot.
2007-06-18 09:43:38 · answer #10 · answered by Mathsorcerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋