Why do Christians accept 2nd marriages but not Homosexuality? Atheist invited also.?

Question

A real Christian Quote

"Jesus is basically reinforcing the Jewish religious norms of his time. It was actually o.k. for a Jewish man to hit his wife. Societies and cultures change and so do religious "laws." When you look at the big picture of how Jesus lived and what he taught, you see that he was willing to go against religion when it was oppressive."

The Bible says you can only remarry if your spouse cheated on you, otherwise the remarriage is considered adultery.

Matthew 19:7-8

7"Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?"

8Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. 9I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery."

Answer 1

The two wedding would depend on the reason for divorce...

Homosexuality is the willingness to completely do the opposite of what God wants for us.
He says it's wrong............nothing you or I say will change that.

1st Corinthains 6:9

Read it

Answer 2

There are only a few types of Christian church where it's ok to remarry, an awful lot of them still treat divorcees with contempt (to quote my ex boyfriend "I could introduce you to my parents if your ex husband were dead, but unfortunately he isn't" - well cheers mate, I have kids and I wouldn't wish their dad dead).
As for homosexuality, I do get very wound up about some attitudes I hear about it from other Christians. There is a much used phrase "love the sinner but hate the sin", but I am not sure it is as easy to practise that as it is to say it. I don't think sexuality has anything to do with religion. Think about it this way - back when people stayed firmly in their closets no one would have said anything to those two nice old ladies who live together and sit together in church every week. Even if people suspected that they were in a relationship they would have turned the other cheek. It is only now that people are more open about their sexuality that the church has become so anti. I think gay couples coming into church holding hands and kissing in the aisle is wrong - but not because they are sinful for being together, just because it's deliberately confrontational (and I'd get wound up by ANY deliberately confrontational behaviour in a church), and I'd rather not have to watch people getting all affronted. Aside from that extreme I would be as welcoming of anyone into church, age, race, sexuality is all irrelevant.

Answer 3

I have no right to judge. However, I am my husband's second wife. His first was...well...not exactly loyal. Anyway, it's too late for me to do anything about it now, and I wasn't a Christian when I married him.

Many second marriages are the same way. What can a person do, if they remarry after divorce, then realize their error? Divorce again? I don't believe so.

So it isn't so much that I "accept" second marriages as I don't know the whole story, and I have no right to condemn anyone. However, if a person is claiming to be a Christian, their life should reflect it. This means that they should try their very hardest NOT to engage in sinful behavior. This includes but is not limited to sexual immorality, which includes homosexuality.

I hold myself to the same standard. I try VERY hard not to sin.

Answer 4

Catholics can and do marry again after a civil divorce just not in the Catholic church.
For that they would need to get an annulment. Then they can get married for a seconfd time in the church.

It takes a few years to get and must go through the bishop and a mini hearing.

Usually cite---married under duress, if they married young or there was a pregnancy.

Answer 5

That quote does not sound to me like it came from a Christian. If it did, it came from a very uneducated one.

Homosexuality is always wrong and sinful.

A 2nd marriage is only wrong some of the time.

For example if a woman committs adultery, her husband is allowed to divorce her and marry someone else and that's ok.

The woman who cheated on her husband is not allowed, Biblically speaking to get married again, but that women proved she wasn't following the Bible's teaching in the first place.

Jesus taught that the Pharisees had messed up God's original plan and corrected them, but they were too self righteous to listen.

And yes we still have Pharisees today, but they have a different name.

Pastor Art

Answer 6

Homosexuality - Behavioral sin.
Divorce - Only valid due to spouse infidelity or death.
Remarriage - Only if spouse has died.

Christians get divorced and remarried. Yes. But this breaks the type of Christ and the church--which He would never divorce, nor never leave or forsake.

Answer 7

Second marriages should not be permitted if one or both of the parties is divorced. If someone's ballsed up their first marriage, are they really going to be successful second time round? And all this step-family business messes up the kids. What's wrong with a bit of non-cohabiting sexual fun?

Answer 8

Hi Mary what you say is true, and even to-day some peoples hearts, are as hard as nails.
Maybe through time things will change, because I don't believe you should judge anyone, until you have walked a few miles in their shoes.

Answer 9

the problem is that people tend to take the bible too literally. Even if the bible was written by divine inspiration, it was still written by men and is therefore imperfect. The main lesson to be taken from the bible is to forgive others, and love your neighbor. The ability to read the bible objectively is the difference between regular god-loving folk, and fundamentalist loons who use the bible as justification for oppressing women and preaching hatred towards gays. there are some great lessons that can be taken from the bible, but I wouldn't take relationship advice from it

Answer 10

i think you will find there are plenty of gay marriages by Christians. Also, gays can marry in most western countries.

There is not one recorded gay marriage in any Muslim country in the world.... so i don't think that Christians are really the problem, although it is easier to jump on the bandwagon instead of tackling the real issue that Islam is the fastest growing religion in the UK.

Answer 11

You obviously don't understand scripture "IN CONTEXT," but for the record, second marriages aren't okay unless the first spouse is dead. Some people stretch this definition to include: "no chance of reconciliation" or "the covenant has been broken."