to make it more clear . she has been going to the bathroom for about a month and 2 weeks. but she sometimes forgets or gets carried away by playing and just uses the bathroom where ever she is . I spank her every time she doesn't tell me she wants to go to the bathroom . am i doing anything wrong or does she forget ??? please help me .
2007-06-18 09:27:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Absolutely do NOT spank her when she has accidents. That is what they truly are - just accidents. Spankings, if used at all, should be resorted to only in the case of deliberate disobedience, which having bathroom accidents are not. 17 months is extremely young to have mature elimination control. You are expecting an awful lot from her. At her young age, it is actually your responsibility to assure that she does not forget to use the bathroom. You should be the one who takes her to the bathroom on a regular basis or asks her if she has to go. Potty training is a process that must be reinforced consistently by parents. Babies are born with a spinal cord reflex that automatically empties their bladder when it is full. Until this reflex begins to subside and the child begins to understand the cues her body gives her to signal a full bladder, it will be impossible to expect her to be able to remember to go to the bathroom every time. Give her some time to mature and develop. Always give her encouragment and praise and never punishment when you are working on potty training skills.
2007-06-18 10:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that's great for such a young age, but you have to remember she's not even 2 yet, and the normal age for proper bladder control is 2-3. I think a better idea, instead of spanking would be to have a potty a little closer than the bathroom, maybe in view for her so she remebers to go, or have you tried pull-ups the ones that get cold when they go. Sometimes when you force the issue or use physical punishment kids can regress back to wanting to wear a diaper and they get discouraged.
2007-06-18 09:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by fiona t 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please don't spank her, my daughter took her own sweet time to potty train. It takes alot of patience on your part mind you. The only issue I had was she would start kicking and screaming in bed at night, because she didn't want to wake up to go to the bathroom...lol She was exactly 3 when she basically came home potty trained from day school. Make it fun to stop for a "potty break" where she is not missing out on anything while she takes one.
2007-06-18 09:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by akr_tx 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds normal to me. I don't think the spanking would really help. Kids get wrapped up playing and just go. Eventually the accidents will reduce down to nothing. Be patient, the kid only showed up on the planet last year. A lot of kids are not potty trained until 3 or 4.
2007-06-18 09:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by DC 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should not spank her for doing that. It will make it worse. She is a child, learning and should not be punished. She is still young and you are lucky she started at her age. It takes some children a lot longer.
What I would do is ask her every once in a while if she has to go. Everytime she does go you should clap and tell her how proud you are of her. Tell her how much of a big girl she is. Make it exciting so she will want to do it.
2007-06-18 09:36:39 · answer #5 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
At this age she shouldn't be punished for not using the bathroom. But be sure you take her to the bathroom about every half hour. A child this young is exploring the world around her and may somtimes get caught up in the time. Just relax and guide her.
2007-06-18 09:35:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
She's ONLY 17 months old. She shouldn't be expected to remember to use the potty yet. Set a timer for every 30 minutes or so and every time it goes off, TAKE her to the potty. Don't punish her though, she's just too young for such a responsibility. I'm not saying she's too young to be potty trained, congrats on that. Just too young for the responsibilities that go along with it.
2007-06-18 09:32:53 · answer #7 · answered by rotee 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are not doing anything wrong from my point of view. Just tell her if you have to use the bathroom let you know she should be able to understand or just check on her. I think by you keep spanking her she'll stop using it on herself and telling you when she has to go. Don't never think you are doing anything wrong I think you are a good mother from what I have read.
2007-06-18 09:36:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
17 mos is early to be potty trained
also accidents happen dont spank her for them
ask her every so often if she needs to go
if you insist that your child be potty trained this early it's your responsibility to teach her to remember to go
2007-06-18 09:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by squeaker 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
17 months wow that is early, she is a kid and she probably does forget.
2007-06-19 03:35:18 · answer #10 · answered by Hi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋