my little boy is two i have a nephew that is 1 1/2 my little boy hits him my nephew never fights back he hit him in the head and throws stuff at him i hit him not beat him but he never stops i know he is two but how do i get him to stop i try to get the lil boy to hit him back he does sometimes but it isint verry hard i am so upset that he does it but i know they are boys they will fight his sister will hit my little boy she is only seven i caint really do nothin to her but tell her dont touch him again how can i make all of them stop without hitting or should i just let them do it ( but im not gonna let the 7 yr old hit either one of them ) what do you think i should do for this ?
2007-06-18 09:24:14 · 7 answers · asked by laura b 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
its my neice thanks for alll your answers expecally the one with the kissing they do love eachother i dont push them to hit each other thats just how i'd deal with it sometimes i diddent know how to so if you dont have anything postive to say then dont say nothing at all but tanks for all of you who diddent say negtive things it is my first child i just diddent know how to deal with it and the lil girl is teaching him to hit and be selfish before he started bening around her he would share and not hit i caint really do nothing to her because she is not mine ive tryed talking to her dad but he never displins her i caint keep her away from him i live with her i got an apparment as soon as ones avalbull i can move in do you think i should keep him away from her? untill she straightens up?
2007-06-18 09:56:37 · update #1
ask his pediatrician
2007-06-18 09:28:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well the obvious is clearly to stop the hitting and certainly don't push your nephew to hit back, that teaches him and your son, hitting is ok.
This is common especially in little boys, my Dad cured it with having us boys kiss, yuk,, didn't take long to cure us.
You might want to try the old vinegar on the tongue trick every time he hits, or send him to look at the corner. But whatever you do, you need to do it to your daughter too, because that is where he is learning it.
2007-06-18 16:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by grinslinger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys fight... but do you consider that acceptable behavior towards relatives? If not, get in there and do something about it! If you don't, your son will always think it's okay to beat up his cousin, and his cousin will always know you allowed it. I think the sister steps in because she knows it's wrong. If you won't put a stop to it, she will.
If kids fight they ought to at least learn they have to do it out of sight of the adults. Otherwise you're approving of it. Maybe you can't stop them all the time while growing up, but you should at least tell them what is and is not good behavior.
My son is 3 and I've made it unequivocably clear to him that he may not hit or push his little sister at any time for any reason, or face my wrath. It's not that I think I can prevent them from ever fighting physically, because I know better. But it's my job to protect them to the best of my ability and sometimes that includes from each other.
I at least want them to know that it's not okay with me for them to hurt each other. If you don't get in there and stop it somehow, your kids will think that it is okay with you. Maybe that means time-outs (in a play pen can be good), separation, withdrawl of treats, spanking, whatever works. But YOU have to control the situation. Only you know your son, so you have to find what works.
2007-06-18 16:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by KC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time one of them even screams or hits one of them.
Take away there toys and IGNORE them for at least 10 mintutes.
Ignoring them with do MUCH more good that screaming at them or hitting them or giving timeouts.
Kids HATE being ignored, so soon they will break down crying and beg to be forgiven.
If you do this often, they will sometimes (especially the older one) try to be "cool" and pretend to be okwith the ignoring, and they will simply conitnue screaming.
You might have to tolerate this screaming or hitting for a bit, but it will be SO worth it in the end!
Good Luck!
2007-06-18 16:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by -:-vInTaGe PaSsIon-:- 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa. Holy run-on!
Stop ALL of the hitting. Clearly, firmly and consistently, hitting is not allowed.
Set consequences when this rule is broken. Remove the hitter from the situation adn put them in time out.
I can't believe you are trying to get the one and a half year old to hit your son back. What the hell? Stop the violence, hun.
2007-06-18 16:28:46 · answer #5 · answered by Dalice Nelson 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, you shouldn't be trying to get the other one to hit him. Move your little boy away from your nephew and put him in a time out- when he starts going to school, he'll get in alot of trouble for hit. Talk to him about. Why is he hitting him? Is there another way to solve the problem? you need to brake him out of this habit.
2007-06-18 16:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you can do is that every time he does someting bad punish him like you are not going to watch TV because you misbehaved, or put him in a play yard for about 2 minutes stuff like that, it does work with my kids.
Never reward him or anything of that kind when he misbehave.
hope this help, good luck:D
2007-06-18 17:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by ladybug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋