Is he gay?

Question

he checks out my boobs, but he hasn't hugged or kissed me after 6 times we've been out...

We work for the same company. Is he just looking for a friend? Is he trying to make sure it's a good match? Is he gay?

Answer 1

If he was gay, I don't see why he'd bother asking you out...but that's no guarantee that he isn't.

Why don't you just ask why he's not so much as hugged you after 6 dates. COMMUNICATE!

Answer 2

Just because he hasn't jumped you doesn't mean that he's gay. It could be that he doesn't want to cause trouble, since the two of you work together. (Even the most mature of people can have trouble with a SO at work.)

I don't think he's gay if he's checking out your boobs. He may just be waiting for you to make the first move out of respect. On your next date give him a nice big smooch on the cheek, then pull away slowly & give him a meaningful look. If he's into you, then you'll know. ;)

If you are afraid of how the kiss would be recieved, then just ask him if he wants to date or if he wants to be friends. Make sure that he knows that either way you will still be there for him.

Answer 3

You do not provide (or probably possess) nearly enough information to answer this question. There are LOTS of reasons that he may have acted like this, and being gay is not even the most likely. You have been out six times. Go out a seventh and tell him what YOU want out of this relationship and ask him what he is looking for. Maybe he is just shy and wondering the same thing about YOU. Beat around the bush, and you'll likely never really know.

Answer 4

I can tell you from personal experience, that sometimes, a guy is afraid to make the first move, because he may think that the girl wont be into it, or want him to kiss her. I used to have this problem, and I solved it like this...I started paying attention to the signals that I would get from the women, and that told me everything I needed to know. Try sending some BLATANT signals that you want him to kiss you, and more than likely, he will. Be flirty, touchy, but don't over do it either. Other than that, you can try to make the first move, but be careful, some guys don't respond well to women making that first move. It might shut him down, and doom the relationship. It all depends on the guy, and how comfortable he is with himself. Or, one final option, is to just sit down with him and let him know your intentions, and find out his. Sometimes communication can be a vital part in saving a relationship. Good luck, and feel free to ask any more questions. Hope I was able to help.

Answer 5

If he were gay, why would he go out on a date with you? Did you ever think that MAYBE he's a respectable guy who doesn't feel the need to kiss you right away? Maybe he's shy? Why don't you ASK him if he's looking for a friend. Maybe he's thinking the same about you - perhaps you're giving him an uncomfortable vibe that makes him think you just want to be friends.

Answer 6

Maybe he's just looking for a friend and not a girlfriend. Despite what people say it is possible to have a friend of the opposite sex. Most men check out your boobs. Men think about boobs when they see canteloupes, cd's, oranges, and a lot of other things. Not anything against men but it's been proven they think about those types of things way more than we do.

Answer 7

Not sure if he was gay he would be checking your boobs out. That seems like a hetrosexually thing to do. Maybe he is just shy and maybe he is taking his time to get to know you. That isn't nessarily a bad thing. Have these times you been out on dates? Or hey lets go get a beer or dinner after work??? Maybe he doesn't know what you want either.

Answer 8

Ask him why he doesn't hug you. 6 dates is a lot. Most guys (not all) would have at least kissed you goodnight by the 3rd date.
Talk to him. It's the best way to find out what's going on. Just try to be understanding and non-judgmental. Good luck.

Answer 9

don't jump to any conclusions....if he's going out on dates with you I would guess he's not gay but probably shy. have you discussed what his intentions are with the two of you? If you have been out on 6 dates I would ask him. if it's you just hanging out 6 times and not actual dates that may change things. if you want him to be open an honest you should do the same and just ask him and let him know how you are feeling as well

Answer 10

Is he well adjusted and outgoing or is he very shy. Is he just very immature (young). In experienced?

When he checks out your boobs the next time ask him if he wants to see more of them. If he says yes ask him if he wants to kiss them? If he says yes, say well then how about we start with a kiss on my lips and then a big tight full body hug.

During the full body hug put your hand on his crotch and give it a little playful squeeze and say wow that feels good. Would like more of that and smile. See what he does.

Let us know what happens.

Answer 11

If he's checking out your boobs then he's definitely NOT gay. Why are you even going out with this guy? Sounds to me like you'd be better matched with a guy who's a bit more aggressive.