If the ring you love is far too expensive for your significant other to afford? Would you be willing to lower your standards or wait until he could save enough money to buy your dream ring?
2007-06-18 09:05:59 · 32 answers · asked by Steven V 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Upgrading for anniversaries is becoming a HUGE trend! Don't worry if it is a little smaller at first ... just make sure you save up to get a larger stone for your 5 yr anniversary. If she has her heart set on a specific ring, ask her what about it she loves. If it is the style, then find something similar with a smaller center stone. Don't compromise on quality, though ... the price may be easier to swallow, but it won't be beneficial in the long run.
2007-06-18 09:41:35 · answer #1 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ring is only a symbol--and a material one at that. What's important is the love behind the symbol. I think starting a marriage on a material basis is a very bad sign. If you're really in love, you'll be happy with what he can afford. I think if you insist that he go into debt, or wait a very long time to save money for a ring, then there are some deeper issues in the relationship that need to be resolved before you get engaged.
2007-06-18 09:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how much I loved a ring, I would never even let my fiance know I loved it if it cost a lot. I would just look for another ring or I would insist on paying half of it. His feelings would be more important to me than a piece of jewelry. Personally though I think paying an extreme amount of money for a ring is just stupid and I dont believe in all that crap about it being for a lifetime. Big deal cuz any engagment and wedding ring is for a lifetime and its not the ring that matters it's the love and the committment.
2007-06-18 11:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've waited almost 10 years for an engagement ring, we used the ring my grandmother left to me(which I wanted to use), but we've always said that when we have enough money he will get me a beautiful ring that HE purchasedc for me. But you know, I kind of dont even really want one. I love my grandmothers ring and I would rather spend the money on something else like a Disney vacation for us and our kids or a cool new plasma TV. As you age your priorities change so much and you wonder why you put so much value into a ring at all. So knowing what I know now, I would lower my standards and get the ring now rather than wait because honestly, you probably will find other things to spend the money on later in life that you woulr RATHER spend the money on than the ring.
2007-06-18 09:12:39 · answer #4 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't care what teh ring looked like if you love the guy no ring is going to change the way his loves you and won't help the marriage I would lower the price and then maybe after you have been married for awhile then he could buy you a bigger ring for xmas or vday or some other day when he has more money
2007-06-18 09:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, it's not how big or small the ring is, it's the promise to be together forever. If she truly loves you, she shouldn't have a problem with the size of the ring. You can always upgrade later - most places will take the current diamond, price it, and put that towards your new diamond. Start putting money away now, and at 5 years, upgrade, and then again 5 years from then, etc...
2007-06-18 09:12:05 · answer #6 · answered by Teresa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. We went to London Gold & I designed the ring I wanted – with the stone I wanted in a CZ, the diamond came later. Realistically lots of women would not be willing to do this.
There are jewelry stores that let you get a starter ring to pop the question with, then go in together & pick it out &/or trade up on the diamond.
Check out shaneco.com, they are based in AZ but ship. The site has a ring designer so you can look together.
2007-06-18 09:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by ang_phx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would lower my expectations...in my case when my fiancee proposed all I kept thinking was I'm getting married!! We're getting married. I got so swept up in the moment I dind't even check out the ring til he asked me do you like the ring?? LoL It's all about the moment when all is said and done the man or woman you love wants to spend the rest of their lives with you!!! It's amazing the ring is just a representation of that feeling.
2007-06-18 12:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really loves you, she'll be happy with any ring you can afford just because she wants to marry you. My fiance couldn't afford the kind of ring I really liked, but it doesn't matter, because I want to marry him, not a piece of jewelry.
If she insists on a specific ring that is way out of your price range, then she might be a little selfish and immature. Part of love is being willing to do good for both of you (like not going into huge debt for a ring), not just one of you.
2007-06-18 09:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's really love between the two people then it shouldn't matter what the ring costs. There's always anniversaries and other holidays to get the ring you truly want. Getting married is not about the ring and I think it's very shallow of a person to want more when they know it's not a necessity.
2007-06-18 09:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋