My fiance wants to have a HUGE wedding, around 300 people, but I want to have a smaller wedding, around 150 people. She has a really large family and mine is quite small. What should we do in terms of wedding size? I know she has her heart set on a big wedding, but I just don't want all the attention.
2007-06-18 09:01:44 · 19 answers · asked by Steven V 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Communication is definitely the basis of a successful relationship. You should take your concerns to your fiance and see if there is a solution that will be good for you both, maybe only inviting 200 instead of 300? Is there a financial concern or is it just a personal choice to have a small wedding? If finances aren't an issue, you should think about having a larger reception with a smaller ceremony - that way the ceremony is more intimate, but you both still get to celebrate with all of your friends and family.
2007-06-18 09:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even 150 people is quite a bit. Look at your budget. What can you realistically afford? That should dictate the size of your wedding. If you want to buy a house, keep in mind your downpayment when you are decided whether or not to spring for the monogrammed napkins. 300 guests is a lot, and chances are you won't even get to thank everyone for coming personally, or even see everyone throughout the evening. If you scale it down, it will be more intimate and you will get to spend more time with your close friends and family. You two are going to be the center of attention regardless of the size of your wedding. Good luck!
2007-06-18 16:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mia1385 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am an attention whore, but my husband doesnt like crowds regardless if he knows the people or not. So since I come from a huge family and if we would have had our wedding in our home town, it would have been over 300 people. We had a location wedding and only 80 people were there. It was great. We still invited everyone, but only a few were able to make it.
2007-06-18 16:09:48 · answer #3 · answered by Brown Eyed Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soot, 150 is also a lot of people. But you only get married once (well you are only suppose to get married once), so do it big. I would rather have a big wedding and be happy than have a small wedding and regret it.
BUT if finances are not in order to have a big wedding, then ya'll might just have to cut back....
2007-06-18 16:07:09 · answer #4 · answered by Juskics 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a small wedding - immediate family & a blowout reception. The wedding itself is short & the most personal part about this - do it before those who mean the most to you. The reception can be a HUGE party with everyone invited.
2007-06-18 16:09:48 · answer #5 · answered by ang_phx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that if she has a really large family, a good protion of that 300 people may be on the list because they are family and she feels obligated to invite them. It's hard to offend relatives who want to be there with you on your special day by not inviting them. By restricting your ceremony to 150 people, that may not leave room for other people that she also really wants to have there. If you can afford it, go with the larger ceremony and let all your loved ones celebrate with you. If you can't afford it, Go through your list and weed out as many people as you can to get closer to a good compromise.
2007-06-18 16:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by my2fuzzyslippers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do EXACTLY what your fiance wants. If you don't ALREADY want to do that, then you are marrying entirely the wrong person, and you will either divorce within 6-8 years or you will be miserable for the rest of your life!
Get a grip!
2007-06-18 16:11:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question that can only be answered by talking to your fiance. The two of you will have to learn how to communicate on issues that you disagree on. You must learn how to compromise or the relationship will not work. Good luck.
2007-06-18 16:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by JoliCart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an easy one....
If you are really ready to get married then you need to be able to communicate with your wife better than this....:-(
Brutally honest communication is the cornerstone of successful marriages. Compromise and negotiation are also part of the deal.
Once you can communicate in an open an effective way, anything is possible....
Marriages are hard work!!! good luck!
2007-06-18 16:05:56 · answer #9 · answered by flyfish_777 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Compromise
2007-06-18 16:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by whymewhynow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋