I try not to make a habit of it and of course it does depend on how close you are to the person. My brother and I for example will just drop in on each other at any time and it is no big deal.
In fact, since we have the keys to each others places, it is not unusual for one of us to come home and find the other lounging on the couch, watching TV, drinking a beer.
But that is a special case. What about my aunt and uncle? We live in the same city, just a few miles apart. It used to bother me that I did not see them often and they never called. Once a couple of years ago when we were all having dinner with another relative, my uncle told me to come on by their house any time I felt like it. He said that I did not need an invitation. But I would prefer an invitation. Sometimes when I do drop by, like in my previous question, I feel a little bit awkward. What should I do?
Continue to drop by unannounced, call them occasionally without going over, wait for them to call me?
2007-06-18 08:55:57 · 15 answers · asked by alfie 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Maria: I am really starting to like you.
Can I come over, uninvited? Where do you live?
2007-06-18 09:07:56 · update #1
Maria: Go ahead and just send your address to my email. My email is posted. I think I'll call before coming over though. I want you to have time to get ready for my arrival.
2007-06-18 20:03:30 · update #2
You are obviously going to continue to ask this question until someone tells you you were right, so I'll make it easy on you. You were completely justified in stopping by unannounced. Your aunt and uncle should call you and invite you over more often. You shouldn't have to call them, and they should never have dreamed of serving you unchilled tap water. The monsters.
Alfie: Give me your email address, and I'll be happy to send you my address. Unfortunately, my refrigerator is broken and I only have unchilled Perrier. I hope this is okay.
P.S.- Bring an appetizer.
2007-06-18 09:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd call first and let them know you want to stop by. You never know if it's not a good time for them to have company. I have people drop by my house all the time and it annoys me to have to stop what I'm doing and entertain the person when I have more important things to be doing or had plans for the day. I would prefer people call me at least an hour in advance so I can finish whatever I'm doing and maybe straighten up a bit.
2007-06-18 09:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by Holly Berry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Between a brother and a sister - as you said, it's just fine - Enjoy
As for Uncle and Aunt - I am sure they wouldn't mind but of course, it depends they may have their own children who may not like it every time if you violate their privacy. So better inform them by a phone call at least that you're coming so they can make arrangements, even if they asked not to do so.
As for close friends - it depends on how close they are
2007-06-18 09:20:13 · answer #3 · answered by phoenix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy Crap! you have my X mother-in-law, she wrecked my first marriage. You need to tell your husband the truth and be rid of her, or at the very least let her know the boundaries. She is nuts. You are right to be concerned, so act now and get it over with. Dang I feel your pain , Sorry Ps. None of her kids speak with her any more and nether do any of her grand kids. She has made a real life for her self. And to top it all off she still thinks it's everyone fault but her own. Good Luck jp Her names not Audry is it :)
2016-05-18 23:10:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was your uncle being sincere when he extended an open invitation? Go with your gut feeling. Deliberately to over and see if auntie and uncle seem genuinely glad to see you. If so then it's ok to drop in unexpected....after all you're family. If not then you're company and should always call first.
2007-06-18 09:01:32 · answer #5 · answered by ransomschoice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your aunt and uncle want a closer relationship with you, in this case it would be okay to just drop by, maybe you could bring something with you to give them, and if you feel awkward stay for a shorter time telling them you came to bring that along. after a while once you dont feel awkward stay for a longer time.
it does depend on how close of a relationship you have with them, maybe thats what they want.
good luck
2007-06-18 13:48:01 · answer #6 · answered by krrazzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am from the old school and would never drop by anywhere without permission.I feel bad for not doing it,but I in return do not like people to just stop by and visit me.thanks for 2.good question.
2007-06-18 11:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally I would not drop by without calling but if your uncle said you don't need an invitation, I would think it would be OK to drop by.
2007-06-18 09:34:39 · answer #8 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they have extended the invitation to come by anytime, it means that they love you and will always want to see you.
i have friends who have that same invitation and i always love seeing them, even if i'm in the middle of doing something or going somewhere. they just make themselves at home, graze in my fridge, watch tv or take naps. and then there are members of my family that need to go through electronic security gates before i'd let them onto my front lawn...
2007-06-18 09:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by chieko 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't do it cause I don't like when someone shows up at my door without notice. You should call them first, and if they invite you to come over, then go ahead.
2007-06-18 08:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋