I know it is too late for me now because i am married. But i married the first person who asked instead of waiting around a while a date for a while. my spouse knows this and understands how i feel. He thinks i should go on some dates but not have sex just gets the feel of what dating would have been like for me before we met and got married. Not to kiss them or touch tem in any way shape or form but to date and worn the date it is for the expirence. What should I do? i wouldn't do it to replace him or any thing like that but may try to write a book about the dating world. what do you think?
2007-06-18 08:50:44 · 11 answers · asked by sassylassy2876 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think you should see others outside of your marriage. Marriage is a serious commitment. How about dating your husband? Maybe you two can decide on a once or twice a week date. Sometimes he can plan it and ask you out, sometimes you can plan it and ask him out. Trust me, dating is not all it's supposed to be. You're just looking at the grass on the other side of the fence, so to speak! Work on the relationship you have and you will be much happier in the long run.
2007-06-18 08:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by leslie b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion, that is a big mistake. Don't do it. Even though you are lookin at the issue as simple and nothing going wrong but what are you going to do when feelings start getting involved? What if this particular guy knock you off your feet and the both of you falls madly in love with each other and have sex that night. WHat would you do? You are at high risk of that happening so that's why I say not to do it. BAD IDEA!!!! BAD!!!! It is nice of your husband to suggest such a thing and doesn't have a problem with it but I dont think you should. Any way, if you love your husband so much, why are you still dwelling on the past. Sounds to me that you might need to separate if you are thinking of other people to date instead of satisfying your husband!!! Think about it for a moment. Hopefully you will make the right decision. I feel if you go on that date, you are at high risk of having an affair. So please don't do it.
2007-06-18 15:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by jetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband should show you what dating can be like. I think you guys could have a lot of fun with this! Try some role-playing, like he can show up as some sort of jock and you could be this bookworm girl and have him take you out. Or be the college students who date.
Sweetie, you're not missing anything. Dating is just a procedure we all go through until we find the one we want to date every day until we die. You've got such a good man to offer that suggestion. Date him. Let him take you out, flirt with him, invite him in after for coffee and....
It's a waste of time at this point. Fall in love with your hubby again!
2007-06-18 15:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope your husband isn't seriously going to let you do this. I can't believe for one second that any husband who loves their wife would want them to date for the "experience". Whether you "touch" them or not, you are still cheating emotionally on your husband. Put yourself in your husbands shoes...would you really want him going on dates with other women? Not knowing what is happening when you are sitting on the couch alone? I think that marriage counseling would be a good idea for the two of you.
2007-06-18 15:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by JoliCart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would only cause confusion and curiosity. For you or him to think that you could date without physical attraction that would lead to kissing and other physical contact would be a ridicuous thing to expect. My advice would be to either seek marriage counseling or get a divorce. Dating would only lead to an affair, which, in turn would end your marriage anyways.
2007-06-18 15:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by Maxine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it will work going out on dates even with his knowing about it,because I think you will meet someone you like better and you'll end up getting divorced.You need to talk about seeing a marriage counselor or talk to each other about it and if you don't love him,make plands for splitting up and getting on with your lives before you start having children.good luck!
2007-06-18 16:03:32 · answer #6 · answered by madmax2588 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how are u going to write a book about dating if you ever had dated anybody before besides your husband?!
2007-06-18 15:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by wildflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you husband is a very good man for being so understanding
do whatever feels right
2007-06-18 15:55:11 · answer #8 · answered by hazel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you would be heading for trouble, how would you feel if your husband was out dsating other people.
2007-06-18 15:54:34 · answer #9 · answered by flower wanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh.....idk
it seems ok
but at the same time it seems like cheating even if he thinks its ok. so idk!
but good luck!
2007-06-18 15:54:29 · answer #10 · answered by 17227 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋