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I beleive that it's up to a woman to decide on their sexuality, either active or non-active. If men believe thats inmoral, I beleive that's sexism against us.

2007-06-18 08:09:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture Etiquette

12 answers

Some men want the satisfaction of sleeping with a woman that no other man has been with.

If a man pressures you into having sex with them, whether it's your first time or not, then they aren't worth your time.

2007-06-18 08:13:03 · answer #1 · answered by Prochoice 2 · 3 0

It's not just men.

As a woman I see it as a big deal for both men and women. I'm not saying I would judge anyone either way. It's just that for me personally I chose to wait and that was a big deal to me. I didn't expect the same thing from my future husband (though I justifiablycould have), but God later blessed me with someone who also waited. Now it's a huge deal to both of us because he gets to be my "one and ony" and I get to be his. I can't say how thankful we both are and even 8 years later, it's still a huge deal, and always will be. I really don't want to "know" any other way. Again I'm not judging anyone who doesn't wait. It's just that there is something added that is so special if, by chance, you do. As for "sexuality," waiting was completly my own choice. I didn't "have" to. I "chose" to. I have been judged and put down by others for it, but it really doesn't matter. My choice is mine and so are the consequences (good or bad) and everything else that goes with it. People can't take that away. Even still, when you are part of a couple, it's not all about you. "Me" becomes "we." Both people's choices affect one another. Of course you decide how you will deal with them, but the point is it's not all about you anymore.

You can either wait or not. You can either see it as a big deal or not. I'm not telling you what to think or choose or value. But at the same time, you can't tell men what to think or choose or value either. If they recognize that it is a big deal, then that does not make them sexist. They have that right. Now if a woman is sexually active, a man should not put her down for it, and vice versa. No one should judge or put down anyone. People should (notice I said should) be respectful, forgiving, loving and compassionate in general. But people do have a right to their values (whatever they might be).

2007-06-18 15:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by Consuming Fire 7 · 2 0

Many reasons, examples:
1) insecure of themselves and dont want to disappoint you
2) religion and/or faith based reasons
3) looking for a companion to have casual sex with
4) may give them a better feel for the speed in which the relationship should progress sexually.
NOTE: dont forget that this is a two way street; ie; it does happen to men too. If a person makes you feel uncomfortable about your sexuality, it's not sexism, just a lack of respect

2007-06-18 15:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by rj 1 · 1 0

Many reasons. Some do it because that's the way they were raised. They believe sex before marriage is wrong. Those who think it's okay for them and not a woman are basically confused about how the act of sex works and sexist. At any rate, once you find someone who decides to judge you, you can make the decision not to date him any longer. It's very simple and not even worth wasting a minute's thought over.

2007-06-18 15:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

Because some men have severe psychological disturbances, that's why.

It matters not at all to anyone other than herself whether a woman has engaged in sexual activity.

2007-06-18 15:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by Mathsorcerer 7 · 1 0

I can respect anyone's beliefs if they want to stay a virgin until marriage and want to marry a virgin, but if a man is not a virgin and only wants to be with virgins then it must be insecurity. He probalby doesn't know what he's doing and doesn't want to be with a woman that can tell the difference.

2007-06-18 15:37:57 · answer #6 · answered by SaraB 3 · 2 0

If the guy himself is a virgin who is waiting for marriage, he has a right to choose a woman who shares his values. If not you're right, he is sexist and a big fat hypocrite.

2007-06-18 15:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

Men hate comparison

2007-06-18 15:16:02 · answer #8 · answered by danielle p 1 · 4 0

Its more awesome, if we're the first one to hit that. But personally I dont mind, its an over-rated concept. Just so long as shes not super loose, im fine with her not bein a virgin.

2007-06-18 15:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

Insecurity. If I man is into this, I know he's going to be terrible in the bedroom and obnoxiously controlling out of it.

2007-06-18 15:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by Dose of Reality 4 · 2 1

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