Theres this guy and we've been friends for a while. And I've always had this little"thing" for him. We would always joke around about making out and stuff like that.
So. One day in gym, he says i want to hang out with you at lunch. So when lunch started, he came to me and said lets take a "walk".[which we all know what that means]..
Anyways...
so then, we did end up making out and stuff.
Basically, what im trying to get to is, is that i have this feeling he just used me.
He kept telling me how much he liked me and stuff like that. He sent email, etc. so 2 days later, i askd him"Do you really like, or did you just want to get some?" His responce was "Look, i like you, but theres no way we could hook up cuz im moving"
And ever since that, he hasnt spoken to me.Ive tryed to talk to him, he just totaly ignores me. I asked one of my friends what she thought about it, and she said that he did , but i would rather hear what you guys have to say.
So please, tell me what you think.
2007-06-18 07:46:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a difficult situation. He probably likes you, but the whole moving away thing has got him mixed up. He probably wanted to be close to you, to share intimacy, so he could move away and not feel like he totally missed out on you. Remember, for men, it's mostly a physical thing to share with a woman - so he was doing that, he was showing you he cares. For women, it tends to be emotional, so now you're asking for all the creature comforts of emotional connection... which takes more time and effort than he may be able to give, since he's moving. Can you be physical with him and get emotional satisfation? Or are you high-maintenance on the emotional front? If you're high maintenance, then you need to get better with your physical boundaries in the future.
Best guess, he likes you, but just doesn't know what to do with you.
2007-06-18 07:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a old one. When I was in Elementary there was this guy and a girl in my class, they got together then couple of days into their thing. He told people he's moving. Those two would tongue kiss in 4th grade! Then the girl found out, she was the last. So she got mad, then the nest day the guy was gone. So she was crying all the time, she was changed. Why do guys do that? Anyways what I think is that the guy did like you but not for something worth fighting for. He kissed you because he wanted to get a kiss out you but as for trying to make this work or a long distance kind a thing not really. So now he's ignoring you because he thinks its best, he doesn't wanna get himself or you into something he knows won't go very far. So you should be thankful that he didn't do to you what some guy did to my classmate. It is sad though cuz think of what could have happened? I think you should forget about him before you get stronger feelings for him.
2007-06-18 14:55:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's physically attracted to you, but he's not emotionally attracted to you. He probably just wanted to make out with you to see how it's like with the security that he's moving so nothing deeper can follow. I'd say don't worry about him. He's a strange fellow and you can do better. Find someone who likes you emotionally first and would be okay with waiting to kiss you and such till you develop a stronger relationship. Stop trying to talk to him. He's not worth it, and like he said, he's moving so nothing could develop. I'm sure there's a really cute guy in your first period class or whatever that's been eyeing you and is just waiting for you to give him the time of day. Hope this helps!
2007-06-18 14:52:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hooked up with you in the hall, he saw something in you.
Either he thought you were funny or pretty or nice, but whatever there was. He liked you.
It is kind of weird how now he's not talking to you anymore.
But if he really is moving, then he could be kind of depressed.
Like, "wow, why did I do that. now i'm moving and i'll never see her again."
Or like, "i'm moving. i need to forget about this or it will drive me crazy."
What you need to do is e-mail him again.
or IM him or something.
Just be honest.
Say,
"I had fun with you this year, and now it's summer, and everyone is breaking up for the summer and just saying 'I'll see you in September". And that's cool, I just want to know what happened between us.
Like I thought that you actually liked me, and now I am starting to believe you just wanted a quick hook up.
I just feel like you used me."
See what he says.
Boys are weird. ;)
2007-06-18 14:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by Kayla Arielle M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you 'took the walk' with him you allowed the rules of the friendship to change. Yes, unfortunately, it does sound like he was using you. Live and learn. He's just moved from being a "friend" to being a "learning experience"...don't let him use you again. Real friends aren't users.
2007-06-18 14:52:20 · answer #5 · answered by southerngifts4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you got used. I am so sorry. Tell yourself the truth about him, learn something for yourself, and don't let that happen again. Once, shame on you, twice, shame on me, you know. Just learn from it. Being used in anyway is a dumpy feeling.
2007-06-18 14:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to let you know this but he just used you. The bigger question here is why let yourself be used? You already had an idea that he was not the ideal guy for you.
2007-06-18 14:50:58 · answer #7 · answered by imachevygirl2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,
I hate to break this to you, but it seems as if you have been used. One thing I have learned about guys in my 15+ years of dating is that if a guy is REALLY interested in you, he would go out of his way to make that known. In this case, it seems that the boy (lets call him what he really is) was only in it for sex (I am assuming, but correct me if I am wrong)...Next time, try not to let your crush on some guy overcome your better judgement and refrain from "making out" or anything sexual until you know for sure that there is some genuine interest in you from the guy.. Its better to be ignored for NOT making out than it is to be ignored AFTER making out.....
Lesson learned sweetie...Apply it to future situations...For now, move on....
2007-06-18 14:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by afri_rican1976 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, let me be frank with you.from the ay i see it...he must be liking you as a friend....not a lover..coz now since u askd him whether he liked you or not...he is confused as to y u r thinkin or takin him in a love partner like...so y dont u both ..go for a cup of coffee n sort it out is it love or just friend coz sweetie you shud'nt regret u lost the one person u cared ,prayed and loved for most...so give it a try..talk to him....coz he as the ans to yor qnz..trust me in this grl...oooo..n one more thing i dont think he is using you...coz he is nice oterwise y shud he avoid u...so ..think abt it.....god bless u..dear.
2007-06-18 14:55:18 · answer #9 · answered by bLk 4irE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably does like you. Like he said, he is moving so he can't get involved. Maybe he is ignoring you because it is too hard for him to face the fact that he likes you and has to leave you.
2007-06-18 14:51:25 · answer #10 · answered by from_a_dark_place 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋