My muslim friend had sex at 13!!?

Question

My best friend is muslim and she just had sex at the age of 13! she wants to find out how she can be forgiven and what she can do now to be more faitful, please my muslim brothers and sisters, HELP HER!

Answer 1

I'm not a Muslim, but do know quite a bit about Islam; so, perhaps it's OK for me render some friendly advise.

First of all, you might do well to remind her that Allah is the Most Beneficient, the Most Merciful.

Second, it is human to err.

Third, Islam preaches that Isa bin Maryum, aka Jesus Christ was al Massihe, aka the Messiah and she can ask Him for His Forgiveness, where, if you're a Christian, you can help her as her Sister of the Book.

Please do tell her that Repentence is all that Allah asks of her and ask her to Repent and Pray for Forgivenesss and never do that again, till her marriage.

I'm sure she'll find forgiveness in Isa bin Maryum and Allah.

Peace.

ST

Answer 2

My sister this is a serious topic your friend having sex is illegal both in American law and muslim law in Islamic law she can be in danger of 100 lashes thankfully that is not going to happen (not a 100 percent sure about that) well first of all make sure she prays all if her namaz including extras and fast all the extra credit days make sure she has no boyfriend or any of that crap because she could be banned from marriage inshallah if she means all her prayers and her fasts and make sure she tells her parents then May Allah forgive her sin

Answer 3

Assuming (and hoping) that this question is sincere:
If it is at all possible, she could maybe make her Hajj - even major sins can be forgiven there (if performed correctly). Of course, she would have to go with her parents or other family and it´s not just a little trip one can make. But even if her intention is strong to go there, Allah will know this and reward her accordingly.
Allah loves to forgive us, and loves it when we ask for forgvieness. There is only one sin which cannot be forgiven, which is if you die as a polytheist (and didn´t try to repent or change this before you died). Anything else can be forgiven, even on Judgement Day, if the asker is sincere enough. Ask an imam (anonymous, if she wants!) what one could do as repentence. If you/she can´t do this, email me and I´ll ask for you.
Take care!

Answer 4

Islam forbids intercourse in the previous marriage. luckily for him, he's a guy. adult males tend to receive greater advantageous scientific care than women folk in Islam, as a results of fact the Qu'ran says that a guy is properly worth two times as much as a woman. regrettably for the lady, if she does no longer get an abortion and her family individuals reveals out she is pregnant, she would get heavily overwhelmed. Or they might rigidity her to marry him. "fornicator, flog each of them with one hundred STRIPES. enable no longer pity withhold you of their case, in a punishment prescribed via Allah, in case you have faith in Allah and the final Day. And enable a party of the believers witness their punishment" Surah(Qu'ran) of direction, no longer all Muslims are strict, so the punishment could no longer be that intense. yet maximum muslims condemn the belief of anybody, fantastically a woman or lady having intercourse in the previous marriage. luckily for them they are no longer married, as a results of fact women folk are stoned for committing adultery.

Answer 5

This is serious...
She must repent at once and never repeat this..
She and the man could be given lashes for this act...
she just has to ask forgiveness from Allah...
Allah is Merciful...
If Allah didn't forgive us all, we would be doomed...
The Prophet (saw) himself ask for forgiveness from Allah everyday eventhough he was pure and the best of all mankind..
let alone us...

Answer 6

She sinned. In Islamic law she can be whipped for having sex outside of marriage. She needs to repent to ALLAH(SWT) and stay away from the opposite sex until she is married like Islam dictates for men and women.

Answer 7

As FEZ said... she needs to repent (say Toubah... "astaghforellahe rabi wa atoobo elaik")... n she isn't supposed to talk about her sin to others...
And she has to stay away from anything that may cause her to sin again...

Answer 8

She needs to repent, this means sincerely ask for forgiveness and make it your intention to never do that again (until she gets married). She should also never put herself in a situation that will lead her to be in a situation like that ever again. Maybe she should look into getting married in a few years...maybe she will need to be getting married at a younger age ...late teens...it can be hard to have sex and then wait 15 years to have it again....

she needs to keep her prayers too

Ummm Simon below is wrong--she cannot pray to Jesus (Isa) pbuh...just to God--he needs NO intercessors!! alhamdulillah!

Answer 9

According to al quran and sahih el bukhari, a unmarried virgin who engages in sexual intercourse must be stonned to death.

****So where are you having the funeral at?

Answer 10

In the name of Allah, the Most Benefit, the Most Merciful.
Praise be to Allah, the Lord of all worlds,
May peace and blessing be upon Allah's Messenger Muhamad, his noble family and companions.

As salaam alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh!

It is nice to hear that she wants to repent, praise be to Allah. It is important that she realizes (if not already) what she has done and what has happened to her, that she has just fulfilled someone's lusts.

She has to remember that sooner or later she’ll pray to Allah for something she needs. In that moment she should remember her sin, her major sin, and after that all other sins.

But, the doors of repentence are wide open, praise be to Allah, because Allah is Oft-Forgiving, the Most Merciful. Allah has promised that His party will win, and Allah fulfills His promises. Whoever has Allah SWT as his/her friend, he has everything he needs, because wherever you are, Allah is with you, watches you, and protects you. And whoever has Allah SWT as his/her enemy, nobody else can help him, because you can’t hide from Allah. And on the end you’ll return to him.

There are a few conditions for the repentence or tawba:
-to stop with that sin
-to repent and ask Allah for forgiveness
-to decide never to do that sin again
-that the repentence is only for Allah's sake
-that the repentence comes before death. Allah SWT said: And of no effect is the repentance of those who continue to do evil deeds until death faces one of them and he says: "Now I repent;" nor of those who die while they are disbelievers. For them We have prepared a painful torment. (An-Nisaa’, 18)

And nobody knows when will his hour come, when will Malak Al-Mawt come and say:“O you! Your hour has come, your soul shall leave your body, and you shall return to Allah!“ No back, no hesitation. You can’t hesitate not one second. Exactly the second Allah has ordered, that second you’ll die, and leave everything you have, and everyone you have. If you wake up, know that maybe you will not manage to live to the evening, nobody can you give that guarantee. If you live unto evening, then maybe you will not wake up alive, nobody can give you that guarantee.

Here are a few Q&As from Islam Q&A, I hope they’ll help:

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All Praises are Due to Allah

The act that your friend committed is a great sin and crime. He must repent to Allah. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "the eyes fornicate, the hands fornicate, the legs commit fornication, and the private parts commit fornication". (It is reported by Ahmad and it is in sahih Al Jahni 4150.)

Tell your friend that he has to increase in good deeds so that Allah will wipe out his evil deeds, as Abdullah ibn Masud reported. He said that a man came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and said, ‘Oh Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), I met a woman in the garden so I pulled her close, fondled her, kissed her, and did everything with except have intercourse. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) was then silent and so the verse came down, "verily, the good deeds erase the bad deeds, that is admonition to those who remember." So the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) called him and recited it to him. So Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said, ‘Oh Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) is this for him specifically or for everyone. He said (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) , ‘no, for everyone.' (It was narrated by Ahmad.)

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Repenting From Adultery

Question:
Brother I don't know what to do, but I have committed a great sin. I know the concept of confession does not exist in our beautiful religion, but I have committed fornication. I am trying to repent, and trying to ask Allah for his forgiveness. As I was reading Surah Noor, I found out that I can't marry a chaste woman, what should I do. Please pray for me so Allah makes his punishments easy on me in the Hell fire.

Answer:
Al-hamdu lillaah.
1) Do not despair, for Allaah the Most Exalted and Glorified said (interpretation of the meaning): "Say: Oh my servants who have transgressed against their souls! Despair not of the mercy of Allaah, for Allaah forgives all sins; for He is oft-forgiving, most merciful." [Surah 39,Verse 53]

2) Let your repentance be truly from your heart, and stay away from all sources of temptations. Also, perform many good deeds, as good deeds abrogate the bad ones.

3) If you repent to Allah, you are no longer described as a fornicator (zaani). Therefore, you can marry a chaste woman.

4) The believer has high hope and aspiration for the best from Allaah. He not only asks Allah for making his punishment easy in hellfire, but he also prays to God the Almighty to save him from Hell and award him with paradise for his repentance and good deeds.

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I hope this will help, in sha’Allah, if needed, I’ll try to put something more. If anything is unclear, then feel free to ask. I’ll do my best to answer all questions, and I’m sure all brothers and sisters here will too.

May Allah forgive your friend and our dear sister in Islam all her sins, and guide her to the Right Path. Indeed, He is Oft-Forgiving and the Most Merciful and He responds to the invocations of the supplicant when he calls on Him (without any mediator or intercessor). So let us obey Him and believe in Him, so that we may be led aright. Aameen!

Was salaam alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh!