My second son is due on the 28th (planned induction) and I'm scared to death! My first son is 15 months, and has been acting strange. He's very clingy and lays on me or hubby all the time. He doesn't want us to leave his site...or put him down. He's Mr. Independance, but suddenly that has changed.
Also, my husband's parents are here from India. I think the change in the house has also got him rattled. And, he's not warming up to them.
He's such a good little guy and I we have a great relationship. I'm also afraid the in laws will be overbearing and try to keep him away from me so I can "concentrate" on the new baby. When, my son needs me the most...
I feel so guilty that he has to go through this. And, want to know what I have in store for me and him during this transition.
2007-06-18 06:55:41 · 3 answers · asked by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
When your son comes to visit in the hospital, have a baby doll for him.One that comes with a bottle to feed the baby.
When you come home from the hospital, make sure your arms are free to hug him and have someone else carry the baby.
You can buy or make a T- shirt that say " I am the big Brother "and get some chocolate cigars for him to hand out to friends.[ might be a bit too young for that].
There are several books that talk about having a new baby.There are even ones where the child puts pictures and so on.
Check out google under "new baby big brother " and you will find tons of fun things.
Remember to have small gifts around for when family or friends come by to see the baby and do not bring a gift for your son.
It is quite normal for him to regress a bit when the new baby arrives.If he is weaned, he may want to nurse or drink from a bottle.
Don't give in to that but let him know how proud you are of your "Big Boy ?
I know it's hard but try and find some time to spend with him alone-without the new baby.
I wish you the very best.
Congratulations.
2007-06-18 08:57:16 · answer #1 · answered by Cammie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should deffinetly invlove your older son with EVERYTHING you do with the baby. make things fun, or enjoyable to him. even if he has to grab you a diaper or something. if he's being left out, and told to go away, he will have some seperation anxiety and will probly take it out in bad behavier. if your in-laws or parents try to keep him from you and baby, tell them you understand they want to help keep you comfortable to rest, but your son needs to be involved with the new baby too. I hope this helps a bit, good luck!
2007-06-18 14:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by tabaky69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, this will help him develop skills to cope with upsets in life, it is not so bad. If we shield children from too many life experiences and they will not be able to face life. He will be in good hands with the in-laws and he will get to know them as he should.
2007-06-18 14:08:02 · answer #3 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋