We are not having a wedding shower, we would rather have our guests bring gifts to the wedding. How do I nicely put that into the invitation????
2007-06-18 06:52:28 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You do not Ever Mention gifts, money or registries in the invitation. Period.
2007-06-19 01:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but there is no polite or nice way to put this into your invitations. The invitation is inviting people to a wedding, an occassion that does not require gifts. True, most people bring them, but that's only because they want to.
A shower, on the other hand, is specifically for gifts. They are expected; it's the whole point of the shower. It's a shame you're chosing not to have one if you want gifts.
Bottom line is that it is rude to include gift information in the invitations; it implies that guests are expected to bring a gift, and that should not be the case.
2007-06-18 15:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly dont think you need to put that anywhere on the invitation. Once you're guests realize that there will be no wedding shower then I'm sure they will feel fine bringing the gift to the reception. There's no need to emphasize that on the invitations. It will seem rude to some guests, it will make it seem like you are requiring a gift. If you want to be sure that guests know to bring the gift to the reception, how about just word of mouth. Just start telling being like your bridal party, your family, and trust me the word will get around.
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. I'm sure it will be beautiful!
2007-06-18 14:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a wedding consultant/coordinator that is a NO NO.
Well, you should never ask for specific gifts, monetary or otherwise. What you can do is let them know (if they ask) that because there is no shower you will be accepting the gifts at the reception. Let your parents, siblings, wedding party, and close friends know too -- and if guests ask them, have them relay your preference. But don't announce it in a formal way to your guests (whatever you do, don't mention it on the invitation!). If guests are curious, they'll ask someone close to you what types of gifts your would like to receive. Still, some guests will want to buy you material gifts -- so it's a good idea to register somewhere for a few items. And of course, be sure to accept and acknowledge every gift gracefully (that means send out thank-you notes). As for monetary gifts, let the giver know how you intend to spend their gift in a thank-you card.
2007-06-18 14:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
One never mentions gifts on a wedding invitation. It's tacky. Wedding gifts are not required, so it's impolite to mention them.
On the other hand, most people do either send wedding gifts ahead of time or bring them to the reception. Just set up a table in the corner, and assign someone to bring the gifts back to the house when the reception is over.
2007-06-18 14:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by gileswench 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer: You don't. Gifts are never EVER mentioned on an invitaton - least of all a wedding invitation.
If your guests feel so inclined as to buy you a gift, they will bring it to the wedding. But you don't ask them to buy you anything.
2007-06-18 14:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by sylvia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No mention of gifts should be anywhere on any invites...I don't know how many times we need to say it but the question keeps popping up.
Gift information should only be spread through word of mouth. You can tell your parents and your bridal party that people should bring gifts to the reception and if someone asks where to bring gifts the information can be passed on. A gift is not required, it is optional, and telling people where to bring their gifts before they have even offerd one is EXTREMELY rude.
Before you ask, it is also just as rude to do your gift opening at the reception. That should either be done at a seperate brunch the day after or in the privacy of your home.
2007-06-18 14:05:00 · answer #7 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to put that sweetie - most people assume if there's no shower, they should bring the gift to the wedding. Don't worry.
At our wedding, we had a "gift table" with a sign on it. People left their gifts there and everything was fine. Just make sure you assign someone to put all the gifts in their car and take them back to you home.
2007-06-18 14:24:19 · answer #8 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to say this. People will usually bring gifts to the wedding automatically if they have not been to a shower. Or, if you are registered it may be sent straight to your house.
I would not mention gifts at all on the invite. Most people will think it is rude.
2007-06-18 14:13:35 · answer #9 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't. It is in extremely poor taste to mention anything about gifts in the invitation. A gift is just that -- a gift. Wedding gifts are also optional, NOT required.
If you are not having a shower, the guests that wish to bring a gift will understand they are to bring it to the reception. Give your guests some credit -- common sense would dictate they bring their gift to the wedding.
Also, you never, ever, EVER include a separate piece of paper indicating where you are registered. Never ever.
2007-06-18 13:58:33 · answer #10 · answered by Scorch 3 · 11⤊ 0⤋
You can not ask for gifts. If there is no shower obviously the guests will bring their loot to the reception (or send it before the wedding)
2007-06-18 14:18:55 · answer #11 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋