What do you think about Adoption?

Question

I WANT your opinion.

Answer 1

In the US there needs to be some serious adoption reform. The laws very from state to state. In some states, a woman can place their child for adoption without any notification to the father.

There also needs to be reform on an agency level. Some agencies encourage pregnant mothers to sign pre-birth agreements which are not legally binding at all but lead the mothers to believe that it is. They introduce the mothers to a lawyer and tell them that that lawyer is for the mother when it's actually an agency lawyer that is only out to protect the agency's interest. They tell the mother that if they try to change their mind that they will be held responsible for the any money that was spent in regards to their healthcare and threaten to sue them. The agency "social workers" will show up sometimes within minutes or hours of birth and to start with the "paperwork".

Adoption certainly has a time and a place. I think there needs to be more programs to help mothers keep their children. There are plenty of children out there in foster care that actually need homes.

For all the adoption is wonderful commenters, how do you think the mother feels once she has placed? Do you think she feels great joy? How can it be such a joyful experience when it causes such great loss?

I know most of the people won't understand what I'm saying or will even say that new mothers aren't coerced in any way to give up their children. People who are commenting about how adoption is a wonderful thing should do more research. Try googling "Concerned United Birthparents", "exiled mothers", "antiadoption", or "bastard nation". Read some of their stories.

Answer 2

Every child deserves a loving family.

I do believe that the US could make adoption easier by providing more protection and support to adoptive parents. While some of the regulations are needed to protect the children, I think that the government could provide more financial assistance for adoption.

For us, adoption was a beautiful journey and we were blessed to create a family through the miracle of adoption. I just wish we could afford to do it again.

Answer 3

Well, I'm adopted so I think adoption is great. It's true the foster system in this country needs alot of reform but hopefully that won't stop wonderful,loving couples from adopting children. I was adopted from Korea at the age of 2 and got to exeperience a wonderful family. I know I have had a MUCH better life than if I'd grown up in Korea so that makes me very happy. My parents didn't adopt out of NEED - they already had 2 biological children of their own but just felt they wanted to adopt. I think that's great and I encourage anyone to adopt.

Answer 4

Ok, I am a birthmom who willingly placed my baby for adoption 9 days ago. I have some bad moments, but I also know that I did what I did to ensure the baby got a life I could not give her. I had her c-section, big scary mess. The couple who adopted her call me to ask about how I am feeling and how my older daughter is doing a lot. And they were very supportive while all of us were at the hospital. While I know that not all adoptions are like this, and I am probably one of the lucky few, I am happy with my decision. I loved her enough to give her to a couple who could not have their own children and had a lot of love to give.

Answer 5

Good Q's; I support a 100% because it saved my baby girl life! I was only 21 when I had her but; I was homeless, broke, living off of the state money and no place to go, so I did what any mother did out of Love..... I made choice that would change the lives of so many others and I didn't even consider them as much as what she ( my baby girl) would go through at the time I did. But, still now after 12 years of her life and seeing her growing up in pictures, I realize in was the best dam decision I made for her and my self!

Answer 6

I can speak from the side of the birth mother. The son I gave up for adoption 24 years ago was raised in a very healthy and happy home. I wanted him, but his father, whom I was married to, wanted nothing to do with him, and I just couldn't see my way through to keeping him in a family where he wasn't totally, 100% wanted. Adoption can be a fantastic thing, both for the adoptive parents and for the birth parents. Good luck to you!

Answer 7

I think it's great! I have two boys of my own from my body and still want very much to adopt a child in a few years. I love being a parent and want to have more children, I can't imagine that adopting would be any less than wonderful!

Answer 8

I think it has a time and a place for being useful, but for the most part I think it sucks beans. I think that adoption seriously needs reform.

Editing to add:
C K is spot on why adoption sucks beans. Now all that's missing is an adoptee explanation of why adoption loss isn't sunshine and daisies.

Answer 9

I think that the people who adopt kids r very good people. The adoption itself is a good thing to do, I totally think that is OK, and good. I mean, just look how many kids r with no parents, and how many couples r there with no kids. And, how many people who were adopted turned out to be very smart and successfully. I think adoption is good, if u can't have kids.........

Answer 10

That its great. My twin brothers are adopted, and I think grew up in a very happy loving home.

Plus I think there are a lot of kids out there, maybe not the "perfect" little baby, just down the road, but kids and babies around the globe.

Also, I think its a MUCH MUCH better plan, then having sextuplets and going thru what that couple in Minneapolis is right now.