My daughter is 8 yrs. old, her father and I are divorced and she worries about us constantly. When she is with me she worries something bad might happen to her dad and vice versa. I have tried to explain to her that kids have kid worries and adults have adult worries but it hasn't helped? does anyone have any suggestions on things that make her not worry so much? When she is not worrying she is a normal happy go lucky kid.
2007-06-18 06:19:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
this is better left to a therapist. she is not going to talk to either of you the way she would a therapist for fear of hurting either one of your feelings. take her before it turns into a more serious even physical problem.
2007-06-18 06:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by sandy m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My nephew is a worrier, but he doesn't have that big of problems to worry about... maybe your daughter could get in some counseling with someone that knows better how to help kids- it sounds like you aren't relating to her, so please help her find someone who can.
We just try to build up my nephew by doing fun things with him and not ever, ever comparing him to others. Stay positive. Don't say anything even remotely negative about your ex, whether you think she could hear, or not. If you get along with him, encourage him to do the same. Really, I think she needs to talk to someone who would actually understand what SHE is going through from HER perspective, not from yours. Good luck~
2007-06-18 13:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree counseling is a good idea, but I had this problem with my son and when I took him the counselor said he didn't need her, that my son felt perfectly comfortable talking to me. Keep talking to her. Let her know that you and her dad are both there for her for any reason. Let her know that sometimes things happen in life but that isn't something she even needs to think about. Redirect her energies and eventually she will learn her own coping methods.
2007-06-20 21:09:15 · answer #3 · answered by Cathrine K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child is obviously upset.I was the same way always trying to keep my mom or dad from feeling upset and trying not to talk about the other parent.My advice is to know that when she does this it is from care,but you always need to relieve problems like that from her.It did lower my grades in school when I was a child so make sure to make her happy each day.
2007-06-18 14:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think perhaps some family counseling is needed these worries are not ones she should be having . Let her talk to a therapist that specializes in adolescent troubles . good luck .
2007-06-18 13:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well make her know that she didnt cause the divorced. I have 4 kids 11,10,8 girl,6, the girl is so more sweet and staff everytime she with her dad she missesy me too. I think they get over it. we been divorced for 2 years now
2007-06-21 12:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i took my daughter to a mental health center for counselling when she was five because of her fear of storms. the doctor said she would probably grow out of it BUT sometimes fears change and develop into more harmful things such as eating disorders, low self esteem, etc. better safe than sorry. make the appointment. it really helped us.
2007-06-21 19:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs counselling. It is as simple as that. A major thing has happened in her life and she is having trouble dealing with it. Get her help
2007-06-18 18:42:41 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you and your ex need to sit her down together and have a talk with her to reassure her.
2007-06-18 13:25:06 · answer #9 · answered by B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋