im 5ft 7 in and weight 165, dark brown hair and eyes. people tell me im not fat but i feel like it since i used to weight 260!!! but still feel like it..what they say its true, you also gotta change the inside not just the outside...oh but i am so confident in everything else, jsut not with the guys i like! please give me some tips!
2007-06-18 06:19:08 · 19 answers · asked by dont know what to put here 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go to places that you know other gay guys hang out:) If you're not in to the bar scene, try to track down other places that are popular hang outs. If ya meet them there, the is a very low risk of falling for a str8 guy:) Believe me, falling for str8 guys is a mess!!! Been there, done that!!
Best of luck to you!!!
2007-06-18 06:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by jtwb568@yahoo.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straight guys are safe because ultimately there is no real chance at a relationship. You have lost a great deal of weight but you are now realizing that you are still the same person you were before. If it was broke before, its going to be broke now. Get some counseling, probably just short term to help you learn how to cope as a normal size guy, and learn why you have such low self esteem. Confident appearing or not, your question shows inside you are simply blustering. Get to the root of it, or you stand a very very good chance of gaining your weight back.
People gain weight many times because of intimacy problems, and when you are very large, its not that much of an issue. However when you lose the weight you still have the problem and no way of coping. That's why people gain the weight back.
It doesn't sound like you have come to grips with being gay, I would start there. Good luck and congratulations on doing something really hard. Find a way to cope and you destine to have all the happiness you have dreamed about.
Oh and the best gay guys are working on Pride events right now, get involved and meet some quality men.
2007-06-18 06:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so insulted, I'm not gay, I mean really not , but I'm also not a homophobe, I've worked for several gay guys, even had other straight guys give me a hard time when I told them that they gave me a tour of their house including their remodeled bathrooms, they were cool and I got some ideas for my own renovations, by the way, nothing perverse and gross. But I've always heard about "gaydar", it's supposed to be this special power that gay guys have in order to find other gay guys.
So if you don't have it, are you gay? Or if it doesn't exist, then I'm a real ugly turd because no gay guy has ever hit on me and frankly, I'm insulted.
2007-06-18 06:31:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our body movements can depict over 7000 feelings, a simple movement of the eye or even a contraction of the pupil are reflexes of body in response to the chemical deposition within the body. In this case, you are known as a bi-curious person meaning you are curious about the operation of a same sex person to another.
However, if you cross the threshold of bi-curiousity, you will be termed gay. Where you are getting into physical intimations.
So maybe you should change the way you show others how a person you are and things might change.
2007-06-18 06:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to Joe k, he can be whatever he wants to, I suggest you don't ask people to change if you wouldn't even want to change. he is who he is and you homophobes just got to deal with the fact that there is such things as gay people
i suggest you go out to gay bars or clubs there is someone for you
2007-06-18 06:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by Oh la la! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a pink long sleeve button up shirt and fold it under/over itself in the front and tie it off. Then, put a tattoo on your abs that says "Jessie's Girl"...
2007-06-18 06:22:28 · answer #6 · answered by I hate Comcast 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to find someone like in a bar specifically designed for men that are of your kind, that way you know what he is
2007-06-18 06:22:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried pheromones? i have, and they actually work! they help you to attract the opposite sex. The company that I've found and am really happy with is called "Silky Scents". You can google their name to find them online. They sell a national name brand that is certified, so you know that it's not fake.
2007-06-18 11:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by naturalchelsea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all i know alot of gay guys and they usually just be them selfs when theres alot of guys around so they know that there gay they anit scared to show it , then maybe when guys see you and knowing that you are gay . theyll come to you . or other sources .... go to a gay bar !!! : )
2007-06-18 06:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by overnite_celebrity07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try gay clubs or web sites
2007-06-18 06:22:23 · answer #10 · answered by lil momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋