Why do barely legal girls with no real future get knocked up?

Question

Nothing irks me more than seeing someone who's barely old enough to drink knocked up. I mean, no offense but how exactly are you qualified as a parent at that age? While I do think that some people are never good parents, regardless of age etc, I can't imagine how someone with a crappy, minimum wage job in a dead end town can possibly give a child anything other than love (forget about education and other important considerations, such as health care!), if that!

Answer 1

Hey, put yourself in their shoes for a minute. I know I am not the 'usual' way such young Moms turn out but- I got pregnant at 18, had my 1st son at 19, married/divorced his Dad within 3 years (turn out to be a poor father and abusive). I do not come from a wealthy or particularly supportive family. Went on to get a college degree, work in healthcare making a good amount of $, buying a house, remarrying a wonderful man who loves both my son and I, having my 2nd son 8 years after my first, and now I'm the wife of a small business owner financially secure enough to stay home with my little one full time- oh, and we plan to have another next year. We are not wellfare recipients or anything like that- we carry our family's weight fully. So, kick your stereotypes to the curb, open your mind- it may be a TOUGH road, it may not be what any of us would choose for our daughters, but there is NO reason a young mother cannot go on to have a fabulous, secure life. Oh, and by the way- my older son gets A's and B's, loves his karate classes, and just came back from an international problem solving competition with his school team. He's got a hell of a whole lot MORE than love, and I was a TEEN MOM> Don't judge- it makes you come across as small minded.

Answer 2

Lack of education, irresponsibility, desperation? Why do people do anything they do? But to judge a young woman for being PG? Come on, can't generalize everyone. @ 21 I was much more responsible than my peers.
Not all have crappy, minimum wage jobs and live in a dead end town. And whats wrong with love? I know plenty of people who've had nothing but love all their lives and to tell you the truth they are the most well rounded, stable, compassionate human beings I know.
And there is such a thing as free will, anyone who wants to get an education, can...it just depends on how badly they want it and if they're willing to work for it.

Answer 3

1. We as a society think to casually about sex...that being said...

Not everyone is going to have money, a great job, house, savings, whatever...that does not mean they are bad parents or are not providing for thier kids. And as far as those "dead end towns" what is that...a small town....I grew up in a town of 200 people...and I will raise my kids there. I love the fact that everyone know me, I know everyone. We all act like "babysitters" when we see someone elses kid playing in the park. Its those small "dead end towns" that make great places to raise kids...no gangs, minimal drugs, low crime rate....I am 23 years old....two kids with my wife, we make decent money for around her...and my kids have everything they need. Granted, I can't buy them every new toy, and I am not going to be able to buy them 100 jeans, but that stuff is just not necessary. Get down off you soap box and realize that there are many people my age who are great parents. Just because we don't make 150k a year does not change that fact.

Answer 4

I got pregnant at 15, and gave birth right after I turned 16. And I've been a great mother. My daughter is in a great preschool, and as a matter of fact does have health care. She has never hurt for anything, really she is completely spoiled. I may not have the best job in the world but it provides for me and my daughter, and I am currently enrolled in college. Majoring in Pre-law. I'd say that me and my little girl have a damn good future ahead of us.

You are stereo-typing. Which irks me.

Answer 5

Yes, it is sad to see someone loose their youth and have so many responsibilities so early. Though you do have to remember that not everyone was raised with the same benefits/opportunities as everyone else. Maybe this is common in their family? You just have to hope that having a child motivates them enough to clean up their quality of life so they can do better for themself and the baby.
Also, don't be too quick to judge on age. I am in my late 20s and look about 19. I have a daughter and people often look at me as of I am too young to be raising a child. This is despite the fact that I have a Masters education, health insurance, professional career, etc.
Important piece of knowledge... "DONT JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER"....
Best...

Answer 6

I grew up in a dead in town and can tell you that most of the time the girls didn't mean to get pregnant, but had no resources like birth control nearby. I wasn't one of these girls (Go Army), but many of my old friends were young moms to several kids. They were looking for love, parents didn't care what they did, and the guys ran when they got pregnant. I'd blame the parents more than the kids. When a girl isn't showed attention and love from home where are they supposed to get it?

Answer 7

You kind of answered your own question, albeit in a rather bitter and unpleasant way.
The idea of a baby makes for an appealing distraction from a dead end job in dead end town where nobody really cares about you or your education or your future. Until reality hits. Then they have to deal with a newborn AND people with attitudes like yours.

Answer 8

i ask the same question every day. Or they get knocked up and abort rather then giving up for adoption. my brother in law 19 and his GF 15 have 2 kids. Can't take care of them for ****. I wish they would et taken away, They would be much better off with another family. My other brother in law 18 and his GF 16 having a baby in Aug, and she is collecting assistance and he doesnt have a job. AAAAH.

Answer 9

Sex is one of the biggest things on teenagers mind these days surpasses going to college, being on there own or finding the mate of there dreams. Consequences of such actions too soon are put on the back burner until they really happen.

Answer 10

I agree with you. ALthough I kinda feel bad for them because maybe they see a child as a way to get the unconditional love they have lacked in thier sad, sad lives. They don't know how to lift themselves out of the dowward spiral of bad choices and take the terrible examples of how to live as a cross to carry and an excuse to make more bad choices.