I called him up and was like hey dad, happy father's day blah blah blah and then he was like let me call you right back, I have a business call. So a couple of hours later, when he never called back, I called him back and he was like, "what do you want i'm kinda busy"
i was like whatever dude...learn etiquette about kids callin you on father's day. and then he sounded all pissed off and told me to grow up and that was pretty much our entire conversation.
So I was thinking of driving out to where he lives and surprising him next weekend, cause I actually think he was angry that I only call him on special occasions and no other times, BUT if I do visit him next weekend it will look like i'm purposefully trying to get on his good side and will look totally fake.
Any ideas??
2007-06-18 05:40:48 · 6 answers · asked by Dumb Punk Kid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i don't think it will look like you are trying to get on his good side
it will look like you wanted to see him
i can't see him getting mad at that
2007-06-18 05:44:55 · answer #1 · answered by kittycat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly is it that you want from your dad? You state that you ignore him unless you are forced to contact him and then you get mad cause you expect him to think that's great and he didn't.
I don't know what your relationship was when you lived at home, and its possible that your father ignored you and this is the kind of relationship he deserves. But if you look back at your childhood and your dad was there and involved, then you owe him an apology. Grown ups don't blame the person they hurt because they can't deal with the truth.
Drive out next weekend, but make an appointment with him. If you are expecting him to sit around and wait for you, you may be disappointed. If this is on you, then call him and tell him you want to take him to lunch or whatever next weekend and does that work with his schedule. The other thing you can do is write "the letter". This is the letter that most kids do when they realize as adults that they are selfish inconsiderate brats and they apologize to their parents. Many, many kids are forced to "eat crow" when life smacks them in the face and they realize that its not as easy as you thought it was. Sucks, but you're not alone, just do it.
This advice is based on the premise that your dad was a good dad, and not a distant slacker. If he wasn't involved with you for no good reason (like working two jobs to pay your bills), then reconsider what you think you are going to get out of a relationship now. Just because he's your dad doesn't mean you have to have a relationship. And as hard as it can be to realize that the man just doesn't care about you, sometimes that's the message and you need to do what's best for yourself. Good luck.
2007-06-18 05:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him a card saying some of the things you appreciate about him.
Then suggest getting together for dinner or something...your treat.
Some fathers get taken for granted all year and then on one day a year children try to make up for it.
2007-06-18 05:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will probably do you alot of good to see your dad. And him to. And maybe you should try to call him more often. If anything to let him know that your OK and that way he will feel that he is important in your life. Don't be "FAKE" be honest with him. Let him know how you feel. I know it is a girl thing to share feelings but still he is your dad. Good Luck!!
2007-06-18 05:49:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go visit him next week and try to be more conscious about calling him more often and making arrangements to get together... sometimes even a 30 min lunch visit does wonders.
ignore his attitude, he'll come around when he sees you are genuine.
2007-06-18 05:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your not telling us everything,why not??
2007-06-18 06:54:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋