why does he constantly bugg me?

Question

this guy i work with, i am aquintances with seems to really like to bug me, sometimes he's mean about it, most of the time he makes sexual jokes about my body, like when he said he was going to be playing with my boobs, anyways , he asks me if i hate him and he asks me friend the same question, he wantd to grind on me and give me a lap dance when we went to this club, i dont understand why he does it to me only ,there are plenty of other girls he could have done this to, i think he thinks i like him

i try to get away from him and he constantly is around me

Answer 1

if you like him then tell him to stop it if it really is bothering you. and maybe you two could hang out after work. if you don't like him or the things he does and says, you could report him to the management for sexual harrasment !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

He is an AxxHxxxx
Don't you feel OFFENDED at all that he is saying ALL THOSE DIRTY THINGS?

HE TOTALLY HAS NO RESPECT FOR YOU AT ALL!!!!
This is not normal. I mean if the guy thinks that you like him, then the more he shouldn't act like this.
If he likes you, then he shouldn't be acting like this also. Guys wouldn't want to scare the girls they like in this way.
Needless to say, he is A BASTxxxx. Stay far , far away from him.
He is acually feeling excited when he made all those
comments about your body,
and by being there and listening to him say all those things, you are actually being a willing partner.
You have your pride and dignity as a women, and he is humiliating you.
When he asks you whether you feel ok with what he said, you sould be stern.
Let him know upfront that you feel uncomfortable that he is doing that and you demand respect from him.
Tell him that it is sexual harrassment and you can report him to the management.

Answer 3

I think he may have it in his mind that he likes you but i doubt that you should get involve with him.

He seem rather strange in his actions i think he might just want to have good time with you.

It would be good if you try to sit down and talk to him about his behavior( do not appear angry or irritated as this will only encourage his behavior.)

There was a guy who did the same thing to me back in high school.

Sometimes guys just don't now how to be civilized. Anyway, i think he has some growing up to do and for this reason i think you should definitely refrain from getting involved with him.

He is probably attracted to you because he sees some qualities in you that he admirer and it might be that you are the only female that no one has anything derogatory to say about.

If talking to him does not help then make a formal complain about him. Or give him a warning letter telling him that you will take further actions if he continues to behave this way.

I hope this helps.

Answer 4

It sounds like a case of lust over your physical appearance. If he had any sort of feeling of "like" towards you he would have had a better selection of jokes to throw at you instead of sexual ones. If it is a very serious annoyance, I'd report him to the manager and/or file some sort of sexual harrasment case against him. I've been in plenty of "innocent flirt" situations, and this surely isn't one.

Answer 5

Make it perfectly clear that you are in no way interested and that you want nothing other than for him to keep his distance and keep his comments to himself. If he keeps it up after that, that is a major legal problem. Report him to your supervisor and if that doesn't work you need to call your company's human resources/sexual harrassment hotline. It may take a few calls and a few meetings but you CAN make it stop. You have the right to work without this and he is invading your rights.

Answer 6

You have a few options. 1) Be nice about it and tell him to stop. 2) Tell your boss on him because if the boss doesn't deal with it you have grounds to file a sexual harrassment suit. 3) Go to the extreme and file a restraining order. 4) Go even farther and file a sexual harrassment suit without notifying anyone.

I would suggest you start with 1, then go to 2 and then threaten to do #3 and #4. Document everything!!!!!

Answer 7

He's got a huge crush on you, and wants you to return his affection. He's going to keep it up until you tell him to stop. You're going to have to take the head-on approach here, because this brick appears to be immune to the subtle approach--say to him "Look, I'm flattered, but I'm not interested in you this way and I'd really appreciate it if you'd knock it off." If that doesn't work, say "Hey, I said knock it off. This is strike two. Strike three, I go for the phone."

Answer 8

He obviously likes you(or just your body), but talking about playing with your boobs & grinding on you is ridiculous. There is no excuse for that kind behaviour, and you need to tell him to back off. Not, "sorta stop" or "do it less" firmly tell him to stop.

If you don't care enough about yourself to tell him to stop (or like it) there is no use posting here. But if you really want it to end, tell him to back off with the sexual stuff and stop talking about your body period.

Answer 9

Tbh it sounds like this guy likes you but doesnt no what to genuinly say so when he comes to talk to you he finds it difficult and the wrong thing comes out. If you want him to stop and leave you alone you should just talk to him and be honest im sure if he does like you he will understand.

Answer 10

I think he likes you, and acts the way he does because of that fact. He probably thinks he is complimanting you by saying those comments about your body. So just ask him if there is a reason he is acting the way he is!!